He didn’t even offer me a cuppa.

[Coffeeeeandcake]

My boyfriend got home early from work today. Spent the day on the sofa playing on his iPad whilst I was WFH in the same room. He did not, even once offer me a cuppa. Am I being unreasonable to be cross.

YABU get your own cuppa.

YANBU to be cross and I should stop making him a cuppa every single morning before work.

Yeah I'd be irritated but I'd also just pipe up and say "if your making a cuppa I'd love one too, thanks for asking!"

God what is the point of that useless shit-slob.

Absolutely stop making him a cup of tea! Selfish twat.

Did he make himself any?

If so, I would've just said 'Oi you tight git, where's mine'?

Did you offer to make him one?

YANBU being in a relationship is about caring and wanting to make life easier for each other.

Is he also crap in bed? He sounds like a particularly undynamic sloth. I wouldn't want to shag him anyway.

I wouldn’t expect anyone to make me anything unless a) they’d gone to make something for themselves, in which case they should offer or b) I asked them to do it. And the same applies in reverse, DP has a tongue, if he wants something he’s perfectly capable of asking.

Just ask for a bloody cuppa and stop seething inside.

Was he making his own and didn’t make one for you? Or just didn’t make any? As the two are different. Some people are constantly drinking cups of tea/coffee and others don’t drink that much between meals so it wouldn’t occur to them.

YANBU but did you ask for one? Was he actually making one for himself and ignoring you?

Either way, nobody likes a martyr so why didn't you say "Oi! Make me a cup of tea will you?"

Surely you only offer a cuppa to someone if your having one (unless it’s a guest obviously)

Stick a laxative in his next time. Won't be able to sit gaming. Be sat on a loo instead!!

@livefornaps I don't think he's offering to shag you as it goes. What an odd comment.

OP I don't see why he should offer you one unless he was making himself a hot drink. Coming home early from work doesn't make you the tea bitch.

If he made himself one and not you YANBU. Otherwise YABU.

Just to add, I spent my lunch break washing dishes.. whilst he was in his iPad.

He is usually very lovely and considerate, but today he’s performing poorly.

Use your words and ask him.

But he also didn’t make himself one to be fair.

He has commented on the fact we don’t have any squash left this evening.. despite having been off work all day

I think it matters if he had one himself, and also if he is generous and thoughtful in other ways. (Like maybe no cuppa, but he always remembers to buy your favourite biscuits even though he hates them).

Coming home early from work doesn't make you the tea bitch

This made me laugh, and seems reasonable.

I’m not getting up 40 minutes earlier than I need to get up to make him a cuppa ever again though. That ship has sailed

Does he ever make you a cup of tea? He doesn’t sound very considerate, you don’t ask him he wants a cup of tea in the mornings do you, and he still gets one.

@PolPotNoodle, to clarify, I think his non action is indicative of a certain amount of get up and go, ya know what I mean I find anyone glued to a device like a moron all DAY long, not even a couple of hours, like an absolute dunce, without any consideration for the other person in the room is probably a bit of a pig in the scratcher as well.

I’m not getting up 40 minutes earlier than I need to get up to make him a cuppa ever again though. That ship has sailed

Why?!

If he made one for himself but not you then yanbu

But if he didn’t make any then yabu

I mean why were you doing this?!