He didn’t even offer me a cuppa.

[Coffeeeeandcake]

My boyfriend got home early from work today. Spent the day on the sofa playing on his iPad whilst I was WFH in the same room. He did not, even once offer me a cuppa. Am I being unreasonable to be cross.

YABU get your own cuppa.

YANBU to be cross and I should stop making him a cuppa every single morning before work.

Well I put you're not being U...but on the other hand, I would have just asked (or texted depending on proximity) for a cup of tea! That's definitely been a thing in this house, no waiting for anyone to take a hint here!

My DH regularly makes me tea when I'm working on something... he'll just tiptoe in quietly and leave it at the side of my desk. He doesn't drink tea... just wants to do something nice. Didn't realise that was so unusual.

No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Honestly. Stop whining and being passive aggressive. Sometimes I make my dh a cuppa - sometimes I'm selfish and can't be arsed with two dripping tea bags so I just make myself one and avoid him whilst I'm drinking it. Sometimes my dh brings me a steaming hot cuppa coffee on the bedside in the morning. Sometimes I get up and he's sipping a cup of tea with no sign of mine in sight. We tend to just roll like that - you know? If I really wanted one and I'd asked him - he'd make it. Vice versa. If he wants to lounge on his I pad for a day so what? We're all entitled to lazy days. Sometimes my dh (when he's not working hard) loafs around on his pc (probs watching porn) but he deserves it. He's a grafter like his good lady wife! Sometimes I let him sort the kids out whilst I read my book - he gets the hint. But I suppose despite all our ups and downs our marriage is still going. Don't sweat the small stuff!

Gahhh I hate the work cuppa 🙈 but yes he should have offered if he was making one for himself!

Cuppa

Ps if you weren't WFH you wouldn't have him there to make your tea. He's not enjoyed to be your tea lady just because you're at home working

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God what is the point of that useless shit-slob.

😂😂😂😂 I was firmly in the make your own brew squad, but then I saw you make him one each day- stop that immediately!!

I've always been such a shit girlfriend/wife as I've never made any men in my life a cuppa 🤣 but I don't drink hot drinks so I never make one for myself

Why were you washing up in your lunch break

OP, was he at home all day or home from work early. You say both so it isn't clear. Any thing happen at work to make him come home early?

You say he is usually fine. Maybe he needed some time by himself? You said he didn't make himself a drink either.

My rules are that if you are making you ask, if you aren't making you don't. However, if DP was working at home (he often is marking in the evenings) and said "I'd love a brew" I'd make one, and vice versa. If he sat silently seething he'd get nowt.

Too much expectations

Instead of getting crosser and crosser and rage-washing the dishes, couldn't you have just said, "I'd love a cup of tea if you don't mind" and, "As you're off work today can you wash the dishes?"
It's not like he was refilling his own cup every half hour and even if he was you could've just asked him to make you one. This just seems so... unnecessary.

So many uses of the word “cuppa” - urghhh!

But anyway, he would have been unreasonable if he were making cups of tea for himself and not you, but he’s not unreasonable to not just go and make one for you if he doesn’t want one.

Absolutely no reason why you should get up early to make him tea, unless you want to.

@Savourysenorita your post is a rare post that makes me think I could be in a relationship again! That's the way it should be!!
So many make me happy to be single!

is this a joke?? i really thought it was a joke but now everyone is agreeing with you and i cant believe this is real

@peachesandclean if a woman was relaxing at home and her WFH husband demanded she make tea she'd be told it was abusive and to LTB

[quote GlummyMcGlummerson]@peachesandclean if a woman was relaxing at home and her WFH husband demanded she make tea she'd be told it was abusive and to LTB[/quote]

People are so weird. If I cba to make a cup of tea I just ask DH to make one. Equally he will ask me to make one sometimes. I can't believe people make such a big deal out of nothing.

If he wasn't making one for himself yabu.

[quote jelly79]@Savourysenorita your post is a rare post that makes me think I could be in a relationship again! That's the way it should be!!
So many make me happy to be single! [/quote]
Awww. That's lovely to hear 😘 it's not all roses and butterflies but we do respect each other and pull our weight. (mostly 😁)

You have a voice. Use it

He sounds like a particularly undynamic sloth

Mumsnet gold .

Open your mouth to ask for one!

*I wouldn't want to shag him anyway.
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Did you ask??

I will never be accustomed to this cuppa, brew, drink business.

‘A drink’ where I’m from has alcohol in it.

Otherwise it’s “would you like a glass of water/lemonade/a coke etc”

Would you like a tea, or coffee?

Cuppa is so so irritating. I don’t know why. Brew is nearly worse.

OP yabu. Also. Don’t get up 40 minutes early fgs