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Neighbour has painted our and I mean our fence

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Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:04

Would I be unreasonable to go out and paint my fence. Scenario approx a year ago husband decided to replace all fences on both sides the original posts were wooden and had broken causing our garden to have props holding the right fence up. He went round to the neighbour who was relatively new and advised that he was replacing the fence with concrete gravel boards and posts. She advised that her side of the fence was OK to which my husband responded that if he removed the props that were straddling our garden the fence would fall down and was surprised she didn't know as the old neighbour was aware and advised my husband he would make the new buyer aware (as if he was going to stay he would have gone half's with us) so he agreed times and dates when the fence would be removed to no inconvenience to her or her garden. Fence was removed she then asked if she could have the fence for her wood burner so husband and people that were helping took the old fence round. She then knocked at our door and said that she had too much wood now and could he dispose of the excess which he did. She then paints said fence (we stained our side grey) she painted hers with dark brown stain which has ingressed but not too badly but painted the top of the fence brown when I had stained it grey which can only be seen from the bedroom so I could live with that. Then she hammers things to it only one screw yes screw not nail can be seen so can live with that. We are on the front garden today and notice behind the overgrown bushes which is our next project to tackle she has dark brown stained the section of wood that is the size of a tall gate that connects from our house to her garage and the small fence that is our border in dark brown stain on both sides the small fence being on our land. The section of wood and the fence are on our land so is this trespassing? I am tempted to go out and paint over it even if due to the colour I would have to use garden paint? Opinions appreciated. By the way I hate dark brown stain! Smile

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Scarydinosaurs · 31/05/2020 19:45

Can you bullet point this? I cannot follow without paragraphs and all the extra details that I can’t work out what is important and what isn’t?

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:45

Hi panicstation ready I am not concerned about the back fence as I was just highlighting as neighbours we have been reasonable people what I don't like if you look at the diagram she has painted both sides of the 4 foot fence and the 10ft fence in dark brown stain. Our outside colours do not tie in with this theme.

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Bluntness100 · 31/05/2020 19:46

Ndn painted her side brown. We had a solicitor instruct her not to touch our property.. She legally had to allow us onto her property to maintain the fence. I went round and painted it grey

You can’t be serious? This has to be the pettiest thing I’ve had the misfortune to read.

EmbarrassedUser · 31/05/2020 19:48

As PP said, no idea what you’re on about. Sorry.

AllZoomedOut · 31/05/2020 19:49

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IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 31/05/2020 19:49

Windyatthebeach

Seriously? Get a life

Tsubasa1 · 31/05/2020 19:50

Im so confused, why would she paint a gate on your property? Did she think she was doing you a favour??

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:52

Somanysocks No I did not I am not bothered about the back garden fence I just put it in there to show we were reasonable people she has climbed over my fence as per diagram and painted fencing on my property?!?

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Furloughedpissedoff · 31/05/2020 19:53

Never mind keeping the peace, she's a CF. I'd paint it, then I'd put some trellis up on your side of the 4 foot fence, I'd also trim or remove the bushes, if you could find a use for the space all the better.

FeelinFagin · 31/05/2020 19:53

So there's your gate completely on your land next to her garage? And a fence separating the garage and your path heading towards the gate? And she has come on to your property and painted the fence on your side and a gate that she has no access to, dark brown? Why? Did she think it would look better next to her property?

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Devlesko · 31/05/2020 19:53

Who does it belong to on the deeds?
Just paint your side, but find out whose responsibility it is to be replacing the fence.

UnaCorda · 31/05/2020 19:54

Well I suppose a wall of text is kind of appropriate for a thread about fences and boundaries...

OtterBe4 · 31/05/2020 19:54

Yes she shouldn’t have climbed over and painted your fence but this Then she hammers things to it only one screw yes screw not nail can be seen is petty, a screw? how did you even notice?

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:55

OmgThereAreNoPlanes that's why I put the background story in I think we have been far from Petty????

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Somanysocks · 31/05/2020 19:56

Op I was talking to Windy, I can't make head nor tail of your situation to make a call on your unreasonableness. 😁

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 31/05/2020 19:57

@Endoftether2000 i think I know what happened.
She bought stain to do the fence. Then she had left over so why not do other bit. And other bit. And "oooh. That could use stain".... 😂
You are lucky she didn't stain you.

On a serious note. If you are not looking at it, but she is, I would leave it be, but I would say to NDN that next time she has to ask beforehand.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 31/05/2020 19:58

@Endoftether2000 I didn't call YOU petty😂

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:59

Tsubasa1 I too am confused if someone had black wood work and grey fencing why would you paint a portion of theirs dark brown without asking?

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Somanysocks · 31/05/2020 20:00

Op I think Windy has highjacked your thread. She is the petty one.

FourDecades · 31/05/2020 20:03

Still not following this at all Blush.

Whose garden is who, and where is the other house?

LST · 31/05/2020 20:03

@windy you sound hellish. Like completely and utterly hellish to even know, let alone live next door to. My God. Your poor poor neighbours

donquixotedelamancha · 31/05/2020 20:04

and painted fencing on my property?!?
that's why I put the background story in I think we have been far from Petty????

While it's great that you are taking on people's request for more punctuation, I don't think putting it all at the end of the paragraph has the desired effect.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 31/05/2020 20:06

I am really disappointed that windy's other neighbour didn't claim their right like this. I would be sticking up for the poor soul with now grey fence and Windy could enjoy one side being bright fucking pink.

Viviennemary · 31/05/2020 20:08

What a fuss about nothing.