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Neighbour has painted our and I mean our fence

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Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 19:04

Would I be unreasonable to go out and paint my fence. Scenario approx a year ago husband decided to replace all fences on both sides the original posts were wooden and had broken causing our garden to have props holding the right fence up. He went round to the neighbour who was relatively new and advised that he was replacing the fence with concrete gravel boards and posts. She advised that her side of the fence was OK to which my husband responded that if he removed the props that were straddling our garden the fence would fall down and was surprised she didn't know as the old neighbour was aware and advised my husband he would make the new buyer aware (as if he was going to stay he would have gone half's with us) so he agreed times and dates when the fence would be removed to no inconvenience to her or her garden. Fence was removed she then asked if she could have the fence for her wood burner so husband and people that were helping took the old fence round. She then knocked at our door and said that she had too much wood now and could he dispose of the excess which he did. She then paints said fence (we stained our side grey) she painted hers with dark brown stain which has ingressed but not too badly but painted the top of the fence brown when I had stained it grey which can only be seen from the bedroom so I could live with that. Then she hammers things to it only one screw yes screw not nail can be seen so can live with that. We are on the front garden today and notice behind the overgrown bushes which is our next project to tackle she has dark brown stained the section of wood that is the size of a tall gate that connects from our house to her garage and the small fence that is our border in dark brown stain on both sides the small fence being on our land. The section of wood and the fence are on our land so is this trespassing? I am tempted to go out and paint over it even if due to the colour I would have to use garden paint? Opinions appreciated. By the way I hate dark brown stain! Smile

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Herja · 31/05/2020 20:09

I THINK that OP paid for all new fencing and doesn't care about the neighbour staining neighbours garden side dark brown. OP put that bit in to show she's not a twat about the fence, but it just made the rest confusing.

But OP's neighbour has additionally painted some of the OPs other new fencing, that is entirely on OPs own property, in the same dark brown. Seemingly without asking or saying anything.

If that's right, then absolutely, paint it whatever colour you like. If it's not that, then I also haven't got a clue Confused.

Josette77 · 31/05/2020 20:09

Windy is a disaster of a neighbour. OP I can't follow yours at all. You are not clear.

Butchyrestingface · 31/05/2020 20:11

I voted YABU because I genuinely don't understand what the fuck is going on in this scenario and that delicate etching didn't help in any way. Grin

pictish · 31/05/2020 20:12

Windy you absolute tyrant! Ffs!

RHRA · 31/05/2020 20:13

I’ve read your OP, looked at your diagram and understand your issue.
Your NDN has come onto your land and painted your fence and gate, which belong solely to you and DO NOT INVOLVE ANY BOUNDARY LINES./the bit she has painted is all on your land & has fuck all to do with her . She is quite clearly a CF, no doubt about it.
Clear your overgrown bushes, get it repainted and keep an eye on her/ that side of YOUR property going forward.

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 20:13

FeelinFagin if you look at the diagram it is the fence that straddles the house and her garage and the four foot fence and yes I guess she does think it looks better for hers I am guessing she painted it before we got to painting our wood work in grey as that dark brown would be a nightmare to coverGrin

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Viviennemary · 31/05/2020 20:13

Did they come into your garden and paint your fence?

TheSmelliestHouse · 31/05/2020 20:14

OP your neighbour is nuts. I can't imagine anyone thinking it's OK to paint someone else's fence on the side in the other person's garden.
I'd be painting your side of the fence to whatever you want it to be, and you'd be within your rights to paint the other side too.
I'd probably start with asking her why she's painted your side if your fence though.

Gazelda · 31/05/2020 20:15

Put simply, your NDN has painted your fence, on your land, facing into your garden, dark brown.

If that is the case, then YANBU. Tell her she had no right to do so. Then either ask her to restain it in very, or do it yourself I'd you'd rather avoid the risk of damaging neighbourly harmony.

IKEA888 · 31/05/2020 20:17

I understand but two points :

I think she is just trying to be helpful. staining / painting whatever protects the wood she maybe thought she was doing a good turn

Just because you paid for it doesn't make it right that you can get annoyed about aspects of what she does on her side

IKEA888 · 31/05/2020 20:17

ps just paint it grey. bet she doesn't bat an eyelid.

heartsonacake · 31/05/2020 20:18

I can’t follow this thread at all Confused

RHRA · 31/05/2020 20:20

@IKEA888
It’s not the NDN’s side though, this fence and gate are entirely on the OP property and don’t run down a shared boundary.

kaldefotter · 31/05/2020 20:21

I can't understand the OP or the diagram.

In the diagram, whose house is "house"? Yours or your neighbour's house? And where is the other house, in relation to it? And two rectangles both marked "garden" is not helping... which garden is yours and which is your neighbour's?

Merigoround · 31/05/2020 20:21

I would paint your own fence/gate grey to match the rest of the fencing.
Knickers to what the neighbour thinks.
She should have asked you if you wanted to use up the paint she had left ( if indeed that was the scenario) before splashing it round on your property.
She probably hates grey and black as a garden colour scheme so actually thinks shes been helpful by bestowing her lovely brown paint on you. I would get it painted in full view of her if possible and preferably by someone wearing proper painters overalls ( even if its your dh/brother)
If shes around during the painting I would loudly lament the awful brown paint that takes so much time and effort to cover.
I think you have been too nice . Shes a CF and will stomp all over you if you let this go.

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 20:21

Otterb4 I noticed it as I scrawked my arm down it as I was weeding our borders 👍

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copycopypaste · 31/05/2020 20:22

Ndn has done you a favour by painting it, thus protecting it. That is until you sort the bushes out, as part of that job just repaint it again on your side. No drama, no point being bothered about it, just sort it as part of your garden jobs.

Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 20:23

VivienneMary yes she must have climbed over the front garden fence to paint

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Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 20:23

VivienneMary the fence is on our land but is next to her drive

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MiddlesexGirl · 31/05/2020 20:23

Is the bottom garden the front garden and the top garden the back garden?

lljkk · 31/05/2020 20:25

This is making me super happy I get along with the neighbours. I held up a bucket of fence paint and said: "would you like us to paint your side, too?" They were happy, we were happy. Job done.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 31/05/2020 20:25

I have a question. Why is everyone painting their fences grey? It's such a depressing colour, especially for the gardenConfused

OtterBe4 · 31/05/2020 20:26

@OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow
OP better not sit in her front garden, she’ll doze off and wake up painted dark brown 🤣🤣

RHRA · 31/05/2020 20:26

Summary:
*OP paid for new fences with NDN agreement at the back of their properties
*NDN painted her side of new back garden fence a different colour to the OP, OP couldn’t give a monkeys.

  • OP has been clearing her side passage and front garden, during which she has discovered cheeky bitch NDN has come onto OP’s land and painted OP’s front garden fence and gate. OP didn’t realise until today, as her bushes were overgrown. Gate and front garden fence are not shared or down the boundary line.
Endoftether2000 · 31/05/2020 20:27

Herja you have it spot on you would not believe I got excellent grades for EnglishGrin

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