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Original poster

DH got drunk and wet the bed...

101 replies

TrumpetTrouser · 23/06/2019 22:02

...he stripped the sheets and put them in the wash first thing and told me tonight that I can help him make the bed.

I said no so now we are both on the sofa refusing to be the first to go to bed.

AIBU, should I help him?

OP posts:
detangler · 23/06/2019 22:03

YANBU.

Gross behaviour from your DH. Never mind the sheets, what about the mattress...?!

Iggly · 23/06/2019 22:04

He told you you could help??? He didn’t ask. He told??

Cheeserton · 23/06/2019 22:05

Clearly he should sort the bed out if he wet it because he got drunk. YANBU. Why on earth does he think he shouldn't do it?

DeRigueurMortis · 23/06/2019 22:05

That would be a big fat no from me and he would also have been out earlier for a new mattress before I slept in the bed again.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 23/06/2019 22:05

His mess, his job to clear it up.

Laiste · 23/06/2019 22:05

told you? or asked?

and yeah, what about the mattress??

VaggieMight · 23/06/2019 22:05

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MeSoTooSo · 23/06/2019 22:05

What the hell?

HiddenBehindTheScenes · 23/06/2019 22:06

A lot of bed wetting on MN today. Must be something in the water Confused

TheQueef · 23/06/2019 22:06

Should you help? No!
Let him clean his own swamp and tell him to thank his lucky stars you will still sleep with him.

Guest8989 · 23/06/2019 22:06

LOL he should be fixing it, end of story

codemonkey · 23/06/2019 22:06

All sorts of wrong here.

RLOU30 · 23/06/2019 22:06

What about the mattress? That's honestly disgusting if it was because of the alcohol. Has he done this before ? And to sell you to help him make it ??! Is he having a laugh. YANBU

fedup21 · 23/06/2019 22:07

Did he actually say ‘you can help me change the bed?’

FelixFelicis6 · 23/06/2019 22:07

Sorry he put the sheets in the wash FIRST THING.... how many hours was his piss soaking into the mattress?! He’ll have to properly clean the mattress! I wouldn’t just remake the bed and sleep on it!

But yes it’s totally his job to do it all.

caringcarer · 23/06/2019 22:07

I would have sent him out to buy a new mattress.

buttertoasty · 23/06/2019 22:09

I don't understand this at all, it must be a joke surely??? Does he not know how to make a bed???

letsdolunch321 · 23/06/2019 22:09

Would he find it acceptable if you did that OP?

Original poster
TrumpetTrouser · 23/06/2019 22:09

Yep, told me not asked. It would still have been a no but I wouldn’t be quite so mad.

We had a mattress protector thing on so mattress is completely fine thankfully!

OP posts:
SpitefulBreasts · 23/06/2019 22:09

No, you're not being unreasonable at all. Does this happen often? If your husband drinks so much that he loses control of his bodily functions then I would guess that he has a severe drink problem. Al Anon for you AA for him.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 23/06/2019 22:10

His mess, he cleans it up. Dirty sod! Who does he think he is?

Slicedpineapple · 23/06/2019 22:12

YANBU, I'd be making his life a misery until he goes upstairs and makes the bloody bed

StealthPolarBear · 23/06/2019 22:12

A waterproof one nor a normal one? We have normal ones but I didnt realise they'd contain urine!

OhioOhioOhio · 23/06/2019 22:12

Do you have a spare bed that you can go to?

DelphiniumBlue · 23/06/2019 22:15

Grim.
Do you actually want to share a bed wth him again?