DH got drunk and wet the bed...

[TrumpetTrouser]

...he stripped the sheets and put them in the wash first thing and told me tonight that I can help him make the bed.

I said no so now we are both on the sofa refusing to be the first to go to bed.

AIBU, should I help him?

"(and saved my Hobbs dress in a box in the not-toilet"
Phew :o

And the first thing you found post on mumsnet?

What a disgusting prick. This would be the end of it for me. The fact that he isn’t deeply apologetic and doing everything he can to resolve the issue (including agreeing not to get so drunk in future) is such a red flag.

Why do (some) men do this ?! I’ve literally never heard of a woman pissing the bed after a skinfull

Really? I used to do this all the time in my drinking days. Ruined many a mattress. Mind you, I'm a (sober now) alcoholic.

I bought a decent waterproof mattress protector for our bed for the last couple of months of my last pregnancy. We'd bought a very £££ mattress and i didn't want my waters breaking into it.

It was hot and horrible and once i'd stopped breast feeding (leaky boobs at night) i binned it!

Well most people wouldn't admit to admit to would they @TheSheepofWallSt

Admit to it*

Never realised this was a common occurrence in men until this thread! No experience of it myself. Of course he should clean it up though! My wonderful () ex came home in the early hours from his works Christmas do and vomited all over the doorstep. I made him clean it up the next day.

'If my DH drank so much he pissed the bed, he would be my EX DH very quickly.'

To have and to hold, to love and to cherish, from this day forth, unless he pisses the bed.'

Grim

Why do (some) men do this ?! I’ve literally never heard of a woman pissing the bed after a skinfull

Men's and women's bladders work in the same way! I can assure you that it happens.

What kind of adult man wets the bed and then refused to make the bed himself?
Are you kidding?
I would seriously tell him to fuck off.

It does seem to be men who do this often when drunk. I wonder what the reason is? Do they have weaker bladders than women?

I remember reading that women have better bladder control, because we're trained from an early age to wait for a toilet, whereas boys and men are more likely to whip it out and piss up a tree/wall etc as soon as they feel the need.

I need to know how this story ended

My ex did this a few times, when I realised I was putting towels in the bed when he was on a night out it hit me by how utterly shameful this was! You shouldn't have to protect a mattress in case an adult drinks so much they piss themselves. Il never be able to look at him without feeling disgust that's for sure. Also no way should you have to help he should have got on with it quietly.

I have one from John Lewis and one from King of Cotton. Neither rustle or feel rubbery - they have a brushed cotton layer on top. You could probably use them on their own although I put a cotton sheet over the top.

Nothing to do with DP though - I've coslept with DD for nearly three years, and it's saved the bed from nappy leaks, vomit, and the occasional glass of water knocked out of my hands.

Mine has a towelling top to it but then I put another non waterproof one on top thats quilted. No rustling, no excess heat.

@patchisagoodpup

I only have American recommendations, unfortunately (I use a Helix mattress protector), but it seems like others have good recommendations. Mine has a soft knit on the top and fits like a fitted sheet; I pop it into the wash quarterly and then as needed with spills, leaks, etc.

Sorry to derail. Still think your husband was being a shit.

Christ of course he should clean it up. The other day when I puked in my bed I knew perfectly well I needed to sort it out!

If this was a first and he doesn't normally get this drunk, to be honest,I'd help my husband without being asked, just as I would hope if it happened to me, he'd do the same.

The bad thing is Him telling you to help and refusing to do it himself. Neither of us would do this. It's shit behaviour.

He needs to make the bed up as it was his mess. If he needs help e he can ask politely.

I appreciate all the recommendations! I've been on the dunelm website and seen a couple but they are quite cheap so maybe not as effective. Trip to John Lewis beckons...

What is wrong with him? He should be cringing in shame like a beaten dog.

Is he an alcoholic? Why on earth did he wet the bed just because he was drunk
And as for telling you to help Hiim make it - wtaf?! Did you force booze down him or stop him going to the loo?!
He can F off.

If the mattress is not dry and not been treated with bicarb I wouldn't go near it anyway. Yuk.

My ex used to do this a lot! He once got drunk and fell asleep in the sofa....he wet that. Then he climbed in bed with me...he wet that then when I took myself to the spare room he followed me then wet that! The next day he got up and out before I woke up when he came back I was already packing my things. That was all in one night! He used to do it almost every weekend to the point that if he had a drink I used to physically walk him to the bathroom run the tap make him go for a wee (like a child) then he went and slept in the spare room. One time I came home from a night out to find a full party in swing in the living room and all his friends there but no sign of him so when I went to find him he was asleep on the bathroom floor and had once again wet himself. His friends all knew and just laughed it off. I ended up going to sleep at my mums. I left him purely for that reason. I'm assuming it cost him a new sofa 2 new mattress and a relationship

Beats peeing in the wardrobe! Lol