DH got drunk and wet the bed...

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...he stripped the sheets and put them in the wash first thing and told me tonight that I can help him make the bed.

I said no so now we are both on the sofa refusing to be the first to go to bed.

AIBU, should I help him?

Disgusting behaviour. And who changes the bedsheet is the least of your worries.

I have a waterproof mattress protector. I don't get drunk and I don't wee the bed but it stops sweat soaking into it and is handy if there are tea spillages (I'm clumsy).

Are you married to Frank Gallagher?! Yuck.

Unless he stops drinking altogether I'd end the relationship.
My friend had this with her husband and she had to buy loads of new mattresses, settees, carpets etc and could never have a friend over because the house smelled of wee.

Shes divorced him now.

Don doesn't it rustle? And the sheet sort of slides on it?
Maybe you can get better ones now but I know when we got ds's it was sold as la creme de la creme of waterproof sheets and I naively thought we could just use it in general. Until we put it on :)

Is this on the back of the - I wet the bed accidentally in my sleep and slept in the spare room leaving my snoring DH on a wet mattress?

Is it pissy thread day?

Actually that woman does sound like a dick. Not for wetting the bed but for leaving her DH in it. Urgh.

Depending on how drunk he was it might not be his fault he wet the bed. Most of us have been drunk on numerous occasions without wetting the bed - it's not a natural consequence. I'm not quite sure why he needed help making the though. Surely it's a simple enough process.

Why does he need help to make up the bed again ??

I wasn't on the other thread, but I think I'd have found it equally gross, particularly leaving her DH lying in it...

It is disgusting to get so drunk you wet the bed imo. Forgive able but disgusting. If a grown adult who is mostly sober wets the bed, chances are there's something else going on. If a child wets the bed it's unfortunate but not disgusting.

What StealthPolarBear has said - except that if someone gets so drunk they wet the bed on a regular basis, then it stops being forgivable (but remains disgusting).

Your DH should be deeply embarrassed and sorting out the entire self-inflicted mess himself, including remaking the bed. What a dick.

Just to pipe up re: mattress protectors: if you get a great one, they don't rustle and they don't feel rubbery. They're also great for your mattresses. (We got our for allergies, as we wanted to be able to de facto wash the mattress, but as I said last night, its big win was saving us when the dog knocked a cup of iced tea out of my hand and the mattress protector held it all and kept the mattress entirely clean.)

As for your husband: you are not in his employ. He does not get to tell you to do things. (And even if you were, he shouldn't be a shit about it.)

I'd stubborn it out, at minimum.

Wait, what?

Tel him you’ll agree to both making the bed, get him started and then go to the toilet for a really long wee.

Ugh my ex did that. He was an alcoholic.

I’d get the mattress deep cleaned OP. Does your partner have a drinking problem? A grown man shouldn’t be getting so drunk he pisses the bed

hear hear, he shouldnt wet the bed.
fds just help him make it so you can get some sleep op.
what about if the roles were reversed and this happened to you?

I wouldn’t be helping him. How vile.

My ex did this. Alcoholic. Disgusting.

How hard is it to make a bed on your own?? Not hard.

Why do (some) men do this ?! I’ve literally never heard of a woman pissing the bed after a skinfull I think Charlotte Crosby did it on a regular basis.
OP if its a one off tell him he is a foul prat. If it is a regular occurrence then at the very least single beds

An ex of mine used to do this. Just one of the reasons he is an ex

How utterly revolting.

How off putting.

Just dropping in to ask for a link to the mattress protector? I need one for my bed as smallest DC sleeps in my bed regularly and is still unreliable with night time dryness so want some protection that won't feel horrible to sleep on...

It does seem to be men who do this often when drunk. I wonder what the reason is? Do they have weaker bladders than women? I have a friend whose DH got drunk and pissed in the wardrobe. Definitely no other factors at play? UTI or similar? Not that that excuses it or his rudeness in demanding you help change the sheets.

Waterproof mattress protectors are the best (get a good one on offer). You've reminded me I need to get a king-sized one for if we turn the sofa bed into a bed. The kids can have occasional issues (and hop beds as needed) and if I get a persistent cough for a week or more... well a bit of back-up past that provided by Tena is great, (Hope I'm not disgusting in that!)

We get the John Lewis quilted ones. Very recommended.

I always tell the kids if they're going to be sick to shift the duvet and do it right in the middle of the bed. Easier than having to clean carpet in the night. Just peel off sheet and mattress protector and stuff in the wash.

OP YADNBU. If it's a 'pissed literally' situation than he should do 100% of the tidying up and making right.

I did once have to stop DH weeing in the wardrobe in the middle of the night but he was just dead-tired - not drunk. We'd just moved house that week, had very young DS who woke through nights, and the toilet was in the opposite direction. Muscle-memory took over until I yelled (and saved my Hobbs dress in a box in the not-toilet), I didn't blame him, but did go to bed for a couple of weeks reminding him where the bathroom was.