DH got drunk and wet the bed...

[TrumpetTrouser]

...he stripped the sheets and put them in the wash first thing and told me tonight that I can help him make the bed.

I said no so now we are both on the sofa refusing to be the first to go to bed.

AIBU, should I help him?

Gross bastard

This used to be s common occurrence in the hotel where I worked - housekeeping used to phone down to reception to add on the charge for £50 mattress cleaning. Many men asked what the charge was for but none refused to pay. Some checked out before HK got in

A mattress protect is wise for any man sleeping in a bed even after a small amount of drink

Jesus Christ.

Reading Mumsnet about the pathetic, nasty men that some women end up with - and stay with - can be profoundly depressing.

This is shameful. What an entitled, thick-headed dickhead.

Oh OP.

Flaming Ada - for a grown man to piss the bed surely takes a lot of alcohol!!! That’s pretty grim. And I doubt a mattress protector would absorb a bladder full unless it was a rubber hospital type thing. I would not be getting into that bed in a hurrah - ugh

Why do (some) men do this ?! I’ve literally never heard of a woman pissing the bed after a skinfull.

Anyway - nah, go get a clean duvet and a pillow and get yourself comfy on the sofa, OP, if you don’t have a spare room. Turn the lights and tv off so he gets the message and leave him to it.

How gross. My XH did that once. I can't remember the details just the horror of being in the bed and realising what was happening. I never told anybody. I guess that's why I can't remember much about it now.

Sorry, not much help to you. YA absolutely NB remotely U.

He has no right to tell you to do anything .
He owes you an apology as well as doing the bed himself.
Does he help you put sheets on the bed when changing in general.?

So much on MN confirms my decision to never again live with a man.

Why does he think he cant make the bed himself?

And he's honestly refusing to make the bed by himself? Arrogant entitled.... This surely shows you how little he thinks of you? What are you, the house help?

There was a thread on here last night about a woman who dreamt she was on the toilet and wet the bed; she went to the spare room and left her husband asleep in the urine soaked sheets. No one called her disgusting, no one said her husband should leave her or suggested that he shouldn't share a bed with her again. She wasn't even drunk... perfectly sober and she wet the bed, but she got pages of support. A man does it and he's disgusting? Hmmm.

The only thing he should be getting an earful for is the fact that he thinks you should put new sheets on. He should have got that done hours ago.

Yes, Investigator, you have found the point 🙄 Pissing himself when drunk is gross but forgivable if the person takes responsibility. The issue here is that the man is furious because he thinks the OP should help him make the bed and is refusing to do it himself. Like a pathetic dick.

It’d be a no from me!

I came on to say the same as @TheInvestigator

Double standards at large on this thread

I hope if it ever happens to me my DH doesn’t make me feel shit and more embarrassed about it

He should of course asked for your help rather than told .

@AtrociousCircumstance

That's what I said. His attitude and refusing to sort the bed out is the thing he should be getting a hiding for. But that's not what everyone has focussed on. Read the comments; people are calling him disgusting for wetting the bed. Those are the people my comment was aimed at. They are the people who missed the actual problem; which is his behaviour afterwards.

@AtrociousCircumstance
Apologies if you weren't being sarcastic in your comment to me; without my glasses on, the emoji looked like a sarcastic one!

Absolutely unacceptable and disgusting. Yuk.

Also, I'm intrigued about this urine catching matress protector... have you got a rubber incontinence type one? If so, has he got form for drunken peeing?
It's just that the ones I have would surely never soak up a puddle of pee, not that I need them to, I hasten to add!
I would be checking out your mattress carefully to make sure.

I'm amazed he's not hanging his head in shame, and I certainly wouldn't be rushing to share a bed with him. As for helping him make it up....pfft, jog on petal!!

His reasoning for me helping was that they needed changing anyway. Yeah, I was due to change them on my day off work on Tuesday (I work part time), and not on a Sunday evening when I’m relaxing before work tomorrow.

It is a waterproof mattress protector, which luckily we only bought because it was on offer for less than the normal one at the time we were buying one.

To be honest this is typical him, he’s obviously embarrassed by what’s happened so has gone on the defence.

Have you got any single sheets? Make the bed just on your side, and go to bed.

The fuck I'd help him after he told me to after his pissed the bed because he was drunk. I had never heard of men doing this whilst pissed until I found MN. I agree with Atrocious. What some put up with to be with a man. Yuk.

It is disgusting to get so drunk you wet the bed imo. Forgive able but disgusting.
If a grown adult who is mostly sober wets the bed, chances are there's something else going on. If a child wets the bed it's unfortunate but not disgusting.

If my DH drank so much he pissed the bed, he would be my EX DH very quickly.

That is beyond vile.

You've got bigger problems than your bed being made, OP.

My last experience of waterproof mattress protectors is that they're awful, we got a posh recommended one when ds was a toddler, about nine years ago. It was jot pleasant to lie on (with a sheet over it obviously). I struggle to believe anyone would do this out of choice. Has he done this before?