To think this is a sign of misogyny

[Fr0thandBubble]

A man I know, divorced and in his early 40s, said to me recently that he likes women who are “virginal”.

He said one of the reasons he had a bad sex life with his ex-wife (which was one of the reasons they divorced) was that his wife had been “quite promiscuous” before they met, which he didn’t like, and he thinks that’s a reason why he went off sex with her after a few years.

I can’t really explain why this didn’t sit well with me at all - I feel like it’s a sign that he could be misogynistic. Do you agree or is it perfectly valid for him to have that preference?

Oh god yes

He likes a girl who is pure and just for him.

He’s looking for a blow up doll

Oh yeah! He gets to screw his big bad self around but "his woman" must save herself for him.

Hypocritical twat!

The reason it doesn’t sit comfortably with you is because his view is disgusting for more reasons than I could write. It points to a lot more wrong with him than just mysoginy too. Are you dating him?

Run!

He sounds like a sexist prick. Hope you aren't dating him.

Flag! Code Red ! run!

Is he from a hundred years ago?

He is probably crap in bed. A more virginal woman has lower expectations perhaps.

Totally misogynistic, what a moron.

Ugh definitely YANBU, how young do his tastes run??

Also doesn’t want to take responsibility for pleasing his sexual partner. He needs to get in the bin

Yes, misogyny.
I think that’s just a way of saying he’s sexually really insecure, and wants someone who has nothing to compare it to, and like most fear based preferences it then becomes a judgement. So promiscuous women are bad because they make me fear my masculinity is not up to scratch.
The origin of hate is usually fear ime.

I bet he is shit in bed

I think "doesn't sit well" has to be the understatement of the year! He sounds completely vile. A misogynist prick. If you are going out with him - DUMP.

He doesn't want anyone who knows good sex from bad.

Yup. Bet he calls women who dared to sleep with anyone else before they met the almighty-him 'sluts' too.

Also 'went off her after several years' so he already knew she had slept with other people and it didn't become a problem until a few years into the marriage. So clearly, his issue was that he needed something to shame her with, to make her feel 'to blame' for his shaudy treatment of her.

Scumbag has told you exactly who he is and exactly how he would treat any other women he gets close to as well.

He's a sexist misogynist
I hope you're not dating him

It’s clearly horrible (and misogynistic), but I’m confused as to how it took him ‘a few years’ to go off sex with her if her past history was the problem.

So many things wrong with this.

YADNBU. He's a creep and almost certainly crap in bed.

And as it's rare to come across "virginal" women of his age, he probably uses his views to justify going after teenage girls.

Ugh.

Insecure and terrified of being compared.

An old joke: Why do men prefer virgins? Because they cant stand criticism....

Google ‘Madonna/ whore complex’ I must admit I haven’t (!) but my understanding is that it refers to men who can only understand women as one or the other. So unable to understand an actual real complex vibrant woman who is in front of him. Definite misogynist. Run a mile. You will be blamed for everything. Nothing will be his fault

EWWW! Creep.