Aibu for thinking I'll be too old?

[GrandTheftWalrus]

To have a second child?

Due to work I can't ttc until August next year by which point I'll be nearly 35 and dp will be 37.

If it happens in the first month again I'll be 36 when I give birth and my DP will be 38. His oldest child will be 16.

Is this too old?

I had a ds at 37 and one at 43.

I was 42 when I had our first, trying for our 2nd at age 43.
Very much depends on your personal circumstances, health and lots of other factors I think. Age isn't the only one.

In think you probably know the answer (it’s no!).

Nope. I'm 53, DW is 42 & we have a 6 yo. Go for it and good luck.

Nope not at all, we were older, as are many. Go for it if you’re fit and we’ll x

It's not too old in general. Lots of parents have kids at that age. Is there a reason you feel that age is a cut-off?

I’m 6 weeks pregnant.... I’m 38 and DH is 42. We’ll be 39 & 43 when dc2 is born.

We were 35 and 39 when dc1 was born.

Totally fine 😊

Don't leave it too long. Menopause at 37 stopped me.

If you think so then yes , everyone has their own timetable for these things

Noooo, I just had my first baby age 35, hoping to have another one in a couple of years :0)

It depends on your personal circumstances; there's no rigid age where suddenly you ought to not try for a baby.

For me that would be too late. For you, if it fits with your family and work and situation, go for it.

Not too old, I had my first at 35 by choice, been with DH since I was 21 but always felt too young for kids.

No way too old. I had ds at 37.

I think it's because when my mum had me she was classed as elderly mother even tho she was 26 when I born.

I was 32 when I had my first.

I had many many years with my ex husband when we were told we couldn't have children so to have DD with my DP was amazing and I still find it difficult to believe.

I don't think it's going to happen again tbh. And if it does I'm terrified I won't love a second child as much as I love DD. How can I spread my love?

No I'm 35 and Just had my second ds and definitely don't feel too old!! Go for it!!

I had my youngest and 2nd when I was 37. He is now 17 and keeps me young!

I had my first at 36 and my second at 38. Not too old!

You don't spread your love you grow more! Definitely not too old!

You will not be too old but why wait, if this is what you want? (You are welcome to tell me to butt out!)

No I had my third at the same age you describe but if you really want a second I wouldn’t wait to try because of work especially if you know you have had difficulty conceiving in the past.

My first was much longed and waited for (rainbow baby) and I worried I wouldn’t love my second as much and I can tell you I love her just as much. Your love just expands. Took me a little longer to bond but I think that was more to do with different birth experiences. I didn’t worry about loving my third. I knew I would adore him too.

Of course you aren't too old. In what way does work interfere with TTCing? Do you really have to wait?

dc1 at 29, dc4 at 39

Agree with others though - if you're bothered , why wait?

Why on earth would you not have a child in your late 30s because of your mother being considered ‘elderly’ (by whom?) at 26?

nope. Not too old. I do find these threads odd, if you can have a baby, then you aren't too old! I can see why you might worry about length of age gaps between DCs or if your DP was significantly older than you (like a Rolling Stone type dad at 70!) but at close age between you and only a 4 year age gap between DCs, nope, not too old at all!

I had my 3rd at 36 and adopted a 3 year old at the age of 53 .So no you are not too old !