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Woman walking into me deliberately

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 11:45

Not sure what to make of this but, I was coming out of one of the main office entrances when I woman marched straight into me very aggressively and actually ended up hurting me. I was coming out but through the door.

I said as much to her and she went off on a bit of a tirade most of which I couldn’t make out but one would have thought she could be a little more apologetic after I told her she had hurt me.

Building security agreed it was all very odd as this sort of thing doesn’t happen here. Ever.

She doesn’t work in the building but all activity is monitored.

I suppose I’m a little shaken and upset at such agression from another woman so wondering if IAM to be so upset by her batshit behaviour.

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MatildaTheCat · 13/08/2018 11:49

Had she just been fired? She was rude but I wouldn’t let it use any more of your headspace, she was probably having a bad day and you copped it.

Not ok at all but forget it.

Tika77 · 13/08/2018 11:49

You have every right to be upset. A man has deliberately ‘shoulder bumped’ into me in a supermarket, I was quite shaken, I had my baby sitting in the trolley next to me and a young shop assistant within one meter. I was totally paranoid loading my shopping into the car park not knowing how mental this person can be.

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 11:55

She was a vistor to the building.

I feel a little better now although she has hurt me as I have chronic pain anyway but to carry on like that in any case is just such piss poor behaviour.

I’m sorry this happened to you in the supermarket and whilst holding a child?!?!

What is wrong with some people.

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Piffle11 · 13/08/2018 11:55

Years ago when I was living in London, I was walking along a busy road. I approached a couple of people who had stopped and were chatting, so I started to walk around them … at that point this really big guy is suddenly right in front of me: I suppose he was doing the same from the other direction. Before I had a chance to say anything he was screaming at me about 'getting in his way' and being really aggressive. The only way I could have avoided him was to walk into the road, which he clearly didn't want to do either, so I'm not sure why it was all my fault. It was just so unnecessary and over the top. I was really shaken afterwards, and felt so intimidated. So I completely get why you're upset.

TurkeyCurrency · 13/08/2018 11:57

I watched someone I know, do something horrible deliberately. They were in a coffee shop I was sat outside, they didn't realise I could see them. They were next to a member of staff who was cleaning and purposefully knocked their drink over, they got a replacement drink, lots of fuss and I saw them laugh at the staff having to clean up the mess.

ToadOfSadness · 13/08/2018 12:05

A woman in ASDA barged me out of the way not so long ago and stomped off. I couldn't move quickly and would have moved over if she had just said 'excuse me'. Ignorant and rude.

Manners and decency are declining.

user1495390685 · 13/08/2018 12:08

Hope you are OK. I think she was taking out whatever was in her head on you. Maybe associating you with the building where she had just had a bad experience? Not nice, anyway.

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 12:10

Thanks user lots of numbers, she was coming into the building as a visitor, and had just arrived - I was exiting.

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TheMaddHugger · 13/08/2018 12:11

(((((Hugs))))))) I'm not surprised you are upset and in pain.

Is anything missing? Pickpockets do this.

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 12:15

if she was visiting, do building security have a note of the person she was visiting? they should tell them.

tbh if I knew where she was in the building right now, I'd be asking security to have a word.

Earthwindnfiya · 13/08/2018 12:17

Happened to me as I was walking through town to go meet some friends. A woman was crossing the road in the opposite direction to me, as we crossed paths she aggressively elbowed me directly in the boob, which did actually really hurt. It definitely was not accidental as there was a bit of a gap between us (so she couldn't have just brushed past) and it was done with such force that it was obvious she had put a bit of weight behind it. I was too in shock to confront her (and a little bit terrified to be honest)

BeefTomato · 13/08/2018 12:19

OP, this happened to me the other day and I was really upset about it too! I was running along a wide path next to a busy road. There was plenty of room for two people to pass each other, but a man coming the opposite way was barrelling up the middle of the path and deliberately staring past me. I wasn't going to walk into the road so when I realised he wasn't moving I just stopped. He barged past and bashed me really hard with his shoulder! And kept going as if nothing had happened! I shouted after him to ask what on earth he was doing and he smirked and said "Oh I didn't see you." Some people are twats!

Cattenberg · 13/08/2018 12:24

I hate this kind of behaviour. A couple of years ago, I was in a crowded art gallery when an old man shoved me aside and said "get out the fucking way". I was no more in his way than anyone else. I think he picked on me because I'm very short. I went after him and loudly said "what did you say?" and he repeated it without the swear word. I wish I'd told him to pick on someone his own size

A few months ago when I was heavily pregnant, a teenage cyclist riding along a footpath ran into me and hurt my arm. It was an accident, but he didn't stop to see if I was OK or apologise. I'm afraid I shouted a rude word after him.

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 12:28

Yes, high level security here and cctv - main reception have already said they can contact management but I don’t really know what to do.

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PotteringAlong · 13/08/2018 12:30

She’s walked into you. Surely nothing needs doing other than brushing it off and getting on with your day?

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/08/2018 12:32

At dds dancing I was just leaving the building. I am disabled but I don’t go around wearing a badge “I am disabled” or use walking aids. A woman whose child also goes dancing and also has a disabled badge came at me so fast on crutches she nearly knocked me over. I was holding onto the wall and going really slowly. It shook me up loads. She assumed I’m able bodied and can just jump out of the way when she clearly can do that herself. I also struggle to talk when I’m feeling increasingly unwell so I couldn’t inform her either. Idiot.

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 12:33

I would pursue it OP

I know it was a thing among teens for a while, deliberately seeking out someone to hurt, and it was absolutely deliberate.

If building security have footage of the incident they could simply ask "what were you doing" and can she be barred from the building? she could at least leave her details so you can sue for her deliberately physically hurting you.

the thing is, it's rare to actually have a chance to pounce on these people with proof of their violence - so take it!

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/08/2018 12:33

Posted too soon. I have chronic pain. If I were knocked over it would be pretty serious. Can you find out who it was and complain? Maybe it was a client in which case you’ll probably not get far but if not, maybe you will.

Yogagirl123 · 13/08/2018 12:34

Must have been a shock OP, I hope you feel better soon. Ignorance is bliss for some sadly, a women walked into me the other day, when I was walking with my stick. Very selfish behaviour, not an apology, couldn’t care less.

CotswoldIrish · 13/08/2018 12:34

A couple of years ago when I was heavily pregnant ( and at bit uncoordinated!) I accidentally bumped into an older lady. I immediately apologised and she reached out her hand and touched my arm. I thought, and it looked like to anyone watching, that she was saying "Don't worry about it". But the old bag picked the inside of my arm really hard, leaving a bruise. I was gobsmacked!

CotswoldIrish · 13/08/2018 12:36

*pinched - damn autocorrect!

harrassedmum18 · 13/08/2018 12:36

When I was at school this was something bullies did to the less strong people. It happened to me a lot and it made me feel terrible. You're definitely right to feel upset, it's a horrible experience.

ScrambledSmegs · 13/08/2018 12:37

Some people get a kick out of hurting others for no reason. The Westminster bridge jogger is one example, the woman he knocked over narrowly escaped being hit by a bus. Something horrible and unprovoked also happened to a family member, it's just nastiness for the sake of it.

I hope you're feeling less shaken now

Dickybow321 · 13/08/2018 12:37

Twenty years ago a man did this to me walking down the street, very obviously on purpose . It really hurt. Wanker.

maxthemartian · 13/08/2018 12:43

I had this happen to me a few days ago! Some horrible man and it was busy as people crossing at a pedestrian crossing in both directions. I already had a sore shoulder and he barged it really hard. I did shout "dickhead" at him.

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