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Woman walking into me deliberately

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 11:45

Not sure what to make of this but, I was coming out of one of the main office entrances when I woman marched straight into me very aggressively and actually ended up hurting me. I was coming out but through the door.

I said as much to her and she went off on a bit of a tirade most of which I couldn’t make out but one would have thought she could be a little more apologetic after I told her she had hurt me.

Building security agreed it was all very odd as this sort of thing doesn’t happen here. Ever.

She doesn’t work in the building but all activity is monitored.

I suppose I’m a little shaken and upset at such agression from another woman so wondering if IAM to be so upset by her batshit behaviour.

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SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/08/2018 12:46

the old bag picked the inside of my arm really hard, leaving a bruise. I was gobsmacked!

Bloody hell! I would have been, too!

supersop60 · 13/08/2018 12:46

pottering. It was deliberate and Op got shouted at. The nastiness would shake anybody, I think.

ShumpaLumpa · 13/08/2018 12:47

I would definitely escalate if possible. Just nasty. I bet she wouldn't pick on a man.

Was she taller than you?

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 12:54

Wow, can’t believe some of these stories. Some people are very dysfunctional.

I’m in two camps about reporting it as in she was aggressive and hostile and needs taking down a peg or two (where I work would launch a formal investigation) and calling out of poor behaviour which impacts others but then on the other hand I’ve enough to manage without some nasty piece of work ruining my day, yes she has really hurt me and I am posting about it, something I would never do.

To the poster who said she just walked into me, no, that’s not what happened.

Not but taller than me but wearing heels so sort of same size - I’m fairlly tallish.

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ToadOfSadness · 13/08/2018 12:55

I agree, don't let it go. Nasty piece of work.

FeistyOldBat · 13/08/2018 12:56

Some people are just nuts! I was going into my local train station when an enormous man standing outside the building walked into my path deliberately and just stood there facing me, almost touching me, staring over my head. He must have been at least 6'6" and I'm 5'1". He didn't say anything. I yelled at him 'Excuse me' but he didn't move. There were plenty of people about, this was about 10 in the morning, the station's in the middle of town and the front entrance is a bus stop.

I walk with a stick, a hiking pole with a rubber ferrule, but can stand without it for short periods, so I stepped back just a little. I lifted the stick, planted it on his throat, just below his larynx, and pushed, quite slowly, I didn't jab it at him. He stumbled backwards, then walked away, still didn't say anything. There was a bit of applause from the onlookers! I just smiled, made that gesture of hand to head that means 'what a nutcase' and carried on. It all happened in slow motion. I'd never seen that man before and never saw him again.

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 13:03

let them launch an investigation

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 13:04

next time she could knock into someone and injure them severely.

ChortleFace88 · 13/08/2018 13:06

Definitely report! Imagine if she was there for an interview? It would be a sure fire way of ensuring she didn’t get the job.

Kamma89 · 13/08/2018 13:12

@FeistyOldBat he sounds rude and annoying but what you did was assult! What would you have done if he'd twatted you?

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 13/08/2018 13:13

A lot of people just walk around angry all the time.

I once got walloped in the gut by a short woman stomping across the concourse at Liverpool St station, swinging a big paperback like a club. I remember the sense of shock more than the pain, and she totally got away with it, because I was in a rush.

LanaorAna2 · 13/08/2018 13:14

It's deliberate. I'm sick of being knocked and buffeted - supermarkets are awful because the hitters get extra clout (literally) from trolleys. it hurts, it's intimidating, and the hitter thinks they can say it's an accident.

TheSecondMrsAshwell · 13/08/2018 13:17

British Transport Police are looking for a man who did this two people at Victoria Station - a Vietnamese student (who broke something) and a pregnant woman - I think she was alright. So yes, report, she needs reminding that she's an asshole who could have hurt you quite badly.

On the lighter side, I had something similar with a colleague at work. She walked across a completely empty room and bumped into me. She apologised a lot - she had new glasses and through them it looked like she'd miss me by a country mile. Return to Specsavers.

HairyHiker · 13/08/2018 13:20

If I were in your situation op I would report her.

She has physically assaulted you causing you actual pain.

She hasn't apologised.

She sounds like a very unpleasant person who clearly has no regard for other people.

I just wouldn't let her get away with it.

KettleOn919 · 13/08/2018 13:25

I agree that some people seem to get some kind of a kick out of hurting others.

A few years ago I was sitting on one of those strip seats at a bus stop, and a man on a mobility scooter made a massive swerve across the pavement to deliberately run over my foot. As I stared indignantly after him, I saw him make another swerve and drive carefully and intentionally into the back of group of women and toddlers who had been walking along the pavement minding their own business.

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 13:29

I may ask to see what security footage shows although that will be a process in itself.

Highly doubt she was a client more like an interviewee or external contractor if some sorts.

She definitely doesn’t work here but if she does her sort of behaviour never ever happens as there are strict codes of conduct and she was very far off from anything I have ever seen before.

The security guard looked very embarrassed by it all.

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TemptressofWaikiki · 13/08/2018 13:32

Think some people who deliberately barge into someone are often full of rage and are perhaps trying to pick a fight to unleash their fury on someone. But sometimes, I feel it is due to assumptions of both parties thinking the other is ‘in their path’. I must confess that I bumped into someone a couple of days ago. Not on purpose. I was walking along the inside of the pavement. Closest to the shops. A group of people came towards me, side by side. I assumed that they would pay attention and the one person facing me would obviously step aside since I had nowhere to go, as they took up the entire pavement. I was lost in thought and literally banged right into that person who accused me of doing it deliberately. I must confess, I was so shocked by the lack of manners of that group, I laughed incredulous. Living in London it seems almost part and parcel of being out and about that someone knocks into you and I tend to zone out because otherwise it be a constant upset.

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 13:33

see, if she's an interviewee, you def want to know that!

honeysucklejasmine · 13/08/2018 13:35

Who are these arseholes going through life doing this?! How infuriating.

crazycatgal · 13/08/2018 13:39

Some people are really rude and like to try to hurt other people.

A typically 'chavvy', skinny man tried doing this to my DP in a shopping centre, I don't know why because DP was much taller and broader than this idiot. DP didn't move an inch and the stupid man ended up flying backwards himself 😂

Hellywelly10 · 13/08/2018 13:39

Omg scrambled i was pushed by a jogger on the south bank a few months ago!

Scabetty · 13/08/2018 13:42

Guy at the station on Monday was barging past using his bike as a weapon. A few people stopped in their tracks and he grinned. As we got to the barriers he cut across horizontally si cutting us all off and caught my ankle with his tyre. I yelled ‘be more careful’ then everyone he had/was pissing off started yelling ‘oy mate ...’ 😂

serbska · 13/08/2018 13:42

In these kind of situations, just think how fucked up her life must be if she has to barge into you to make herself feel good?

It wasn't anything YOU did. No reflection on you.

She was clearly in the wrong, everyone would agree, so she must be a fucked up unhappy nasty person.

Then you can go on with your day, knowing you have had a lucky escape because you are not her.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/08/2018 13:42

I've noticed this too - some people do make calculated decisions to 'walk' into others. Not many things give me the rage but pavement warriors definitely do.

LighthouseSouth · 13/08/2018 13:42

honeysuckle, I don't know if there's a gene but I see it a lot as I go running.

I'm scared someone will do it to my tiny elderly mum, it's already been done to my friend's mum - white hair, walks with a stick.

the poster upthread who used her stick to touch the large man trying to intimidate her - good for you.

it is quite funny when they try it on the wrong target, some skinny teen tried it on a mate of mine who is about 5 ft 10 , broad and was carrying a large sports bag. She basically whacked him after he manslammed her, which had no effect as he kind of bounced off her anyway.

is this is a city problem? I'm quite good at darting around very fast, but my default if someone tried it would be to trip them up.