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Woman walking into me deliberately

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Dontbersorude · 13/08/2018 11:45

Not sure what to make of this but, I was coming out of one of the main office entrances when I woman marched straight into me very aggressively and actually ended up hurting me. I was coming out but through the door.

I said as much to her and she went off on a bit of a tirade most of which I couldn’t make out but one would have thought she could be a little more apologetic after I told her she had hurt me.

Building security agreed it was all very odd as this sort of thing doesn’t happen here. Ever.

She doesn’t work in the building but all activity is monitored.

I suppose I’m a little shaken and upset at such agression from another woman so wondering if IAM to be so upset by her batshit behaviour.

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OliviaStabler · 14/08/2018 19:11

I had a woman slam into me once. I assumed it was an accident but I still think of it until this day. There were road works near the station and they moved the pavement into the road protected by large sheets of metal wiring. There was only room for one stream of pedestrians going one way and one going the other. Two women rounded the corner ahead of me and one was a shoulder out talking to her friend. I thought nothing of it and assumed she would move herself in as there literally was nowhere for me to move to but she didn't and slammed into me. She saw me and looked ahead.

LighthouseSouth · 14/08/2018 19:14

NadiaLeon "The skill is (which I have no way near perfected) to let it go."

I think there's way too much "let it go" going on. These people need to experience actual consequences or they'll just keep mowing people down and causing injury. As a runner, the Putney Bridge incident didn't surprise me at all. I wonder if the "let it go" types live in much nicer places or just haven't seen much of this?

I appreciate it can be really hard to follow up...which makes me wonder what OP has done? I hope you're feeling better today and don't have bruises or anything.

Brambleboo · 14/08/2018 19:42

Hope you're ok, OP, and that your pain hasn't been exacerbated too much. She was incredibly rude, but this incident says a lot more about her than you, so try not to dwell on her and her bad manners.

I walk with a crutch and, when I used to get out more, found that people would jostle me around a lot. I know I was slow but wth?!

ShumpaLumpa · 14/08/2018 19:45

I've trained myself to say OUCH! when some bumps into me harshly.

Ouch is not too aggressive, it usually makes the other person apologise.

If they don't apologise, they do get taken aback and it gives me time to formulate a further response.

These people do not expect to be challenged so even a minor challenge like 'ouch' disconcerts them.

NotBeforeCoffee · 14/08/2018 20:13

years ago me, my mum, my dad and my brother were in a tube station. I was about 5 and my brother would have been 1 and in his pushchair. A random man came up and started kicking my brothers pushchair repeatedly. Basically I think he wanted to get a rise out of my dad. Luckily my dad, who can have a short fuse, reacted calmly and the situation defused.

But I still remember it now and it was quite traumatic as a child. Now I’m a mum and if someone did that to my baby I don’t know how I’d react!! Some people are truly arseholes looking to start problems. Sorry you had this experience op. I would report it

gordan · 14/08/2018 20:28

It’s happened to me a few times. Thing is it hurts as I bruise easily. Once this man with a rucksack cane down the top deck of bus to bottom and his rucksack which wasn’t secure on his back hit me. Twat said sorry but smirked as he did and got out of the bus. His rucksack was heavy. I hurt for two days.

MrsRobert · 14/08/2018 22:28

When I was pregnant a teenager slammed her male friend hard into me at a bus stop and thought this was hilarious. Normally it would have angered rather than upset me but I just remember how shocked at how vulnerable I felt.

Yoksha · 14/08/2018 22:29

ShumpaLumpa....Yaaay.

I know about needing to keep my trap shut. My family have warned me that I'll either get arrested or flattened. Neither appeals. I can't ignore the utter sense of entitlement. I know some people have spacial awareness problems or forget that they're on a public thoroughfare. You can usually discern this. Not a problem for me. I don't even feel bothered. I just tell myself "don't be so bloody arrogant"! Me to me about me that is.

margesimpson40 · 14/08/2018 22:59

Mental illness and bad manners two separate entities. I however have both and asd , I can't stand people banging into me and I don't think people can deal with a 40 year old lying in ball on the ground which is what I want to do, but I can't I have an invisible illness and just come across as aggressive and sweary, in real life in sweary, but a total pussy cat ... Is there a message board on here for mums with asd

Bahhhhhumbug · 14/08/2018 23:32

I was in a local cafe today and the woman in front of me whom l was stood a respectable distance behind (l hate space invaders myself so always stay back ) suddenly decided she wanted to backtrack to get something out of the display that l was now stood in front of. She literally turned round and had l not jumped back would have hit me in the stomach with her hand. It was almost as if she was trying to reach through me as if l wasn't there. I was mad at myself straightaway for moving out the way but it was just instinctive. She definitely didn't have any sight issues or anything like that as l observed her going to her table etc without any difficulty whatsoever. I'm still mad at myself now for not saying something /standing my ground grrrrr.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 15/08/2018 00:06

Reminds me of that YouTube video from a few years back about the happy slapping craze, or whatever it was. Two men passed a young couple and as they did so they hit the girl, or tripped her or something, I can’t remember. Unfortunately for them her boyfriend was a kick boxer and he went after them and absolutely put them on their arses. Was hilarious.

I do remember when I was pregnant with dd1 and having a swim at the local pool. A little boy swam right up to me as if I wasn’t even there and before I could stop myself he kicked me in the side. I spluttered to a halt and shouted at him to watch where he was going. His entitled father then remonstrated with me that he didn’t do any harm. I then stood up to reveal my very pregnant belly and yelled ‘I bloody hope not!’ He then apologised.

Moomicorn · 15/08/2018 00:33

There are some vicious nutters about. One time I was looking at a jumpsuit in Zara, I’d actually picked it up by the hanger off the (sale) rail. A woman made a beeline for me and actually stretched out and scratched my hand hard with her nails.

Went to try it on and she followed me to the changing rooms.

Saggital · 15/08/2018 00:37

Were you on your smartphone OP?

karyatide · 15/08/2018 02:19

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stevesmithsmum · 15/08/2018 05:13

I was recently in a supermarket waiting at the checkout when a guy brushed/clipped me as he walked past (behind me, so a bit of a blind side). I immediately turned around (he was just going to walk on) and said loudly “you alight mate” with a look that I was ready to tangle. He did look back, a little shock in his face and say sorry.

Funny thing I noticed (and commented on to family/friends) in London. Because the streets tend to be crowded and busy, peeps certainly get within your personal space. I noticed a lot of people just walk across my path (from kerb to shop) as I’m calmly walking down the street. Essentially not giving way to the traffic, but shouldering through. A peculiar London thing, I’ve never encountered anywhere else tbh. Because I’m pretty fit and strong, I started not giving way and just continuing to walk. Often I clipped the feet or body of the person shouldering through. It amused me at the time:)

70sShow · 15/08/2018 05:24

Why are you surprised that "another woman" would do this? Because we're the fairer sex?

whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/08/2018 05:56

People are fucking knobs.

I used to work in a supermarket during uni. I was bent over piling up the shopping baskets, and a woman walked into me. Being the softie I was, I apologised to her. She took a step back and then walked straight into me again without a word before going off.

Don't take it to heart, just know that they're a fucking twat.

Smudge100 · 15/08/2018 09:26

I am genuinely shocked by the number of instances related here of people deliberately hurting someone else, women as well as men. I was once spat at by a male driver and it really shook me up. Sorry to hear of your experience, hope you feel better soon.

ShumpaLumpa · 15/08/2018 10:19

stevesmithmouth

I live in London and keep my elbows pointing out.

TBH I've noticed it out of London too, I assumed it was because I'm 5'2''. When I wear it happen a lot less.

ShumpaLumpa · 15/08/2018 10:19

Wear heels

runningkeenster · 15/08/2018 10:24

People aren't generally terribly aware of their surroundings, they do bump into people things etc. Especially if they themselves have SN

The proportion of people with SN is far smaller than MNers would you have you believe. I agree people are not aware of their surroundings but maybe they could take a bit more notice and not walk along looking at their mobile phone and or chatting three abreast with friends? It's not down to SN, they're just oblivious, but they shouldn't be.

Want2beme · 15/08/2018 10:36

It's an awful thing when it happens. It seems to be a frequent occurrence, sadly. It happened to me whilst walking in a busy area. A very big man targeted me. I saw him in the distance and just knew what was coming. He barged into me and knocked me off balance. It really upset me and brought tears to my eyes, more so, because by the way he was dressed, I assumed he'd be a peaceful person. I was wrong. Nobody checked if I was ok. I moved on very quickly. I've never told anyone about it, but the incident still flashes through my mind from time to time.

Mrsramsayscat · 15/08/2018 11:00

I was once assaulted in a pub toilet and I was completely sober. I used to see the woman who did it in the street from time to time when I was out with a pushchair and she would stare at me angrily. I have literally no idea what her problem was, and I am pretty certain she knew nobody I knew, or vice versa. Some people are just angry.

On a different note, an old couple worked together to knock my envelope "by accident " on to the floor in a post office. As I stood up, the £20 and the card I was putting in it had disappeared, and so had they.

Arrowfanatic · 15/08/2018 11:16

I may be tarring with the same brush here but I tend to find older people do this more. I've lost count the number of times I've been looking at items on a shelf in the supermarket and rather than saying excuse me because they want to get something from the shelf I'm stood in front they've I stead chosen to ram me with their trolley.

A few weeks ago I was stood talking to my children whilst waiting for a group of people to move so I could go and collect a trolley. Well one old woman (wearing WAY too much makeup) got her trolley and for whatever reason walked backwards and crashed into myself and my 5 year old daughter, who is small for her age. She then gives me the most filthy look you can imagine and walks off. She had to walk back a good couple of meters to hit us and had walked PAST us to get to the trolleys so knew we were there. I called after her "I think the word you're looking for is sorry". Anyway she ignored me, we got our trolley and went in to do our shopping and blow me if we didn't meet her again and I watched as she pushed her trolley into my 7 year old son, smirked and walked off. He was in floods of tears as she had hurt him and so I couldn't go after her. I watched for her the rest of our shop but didn't see her again. I was just so shocked that someone chose to act this way, it's like she was mad that it was a weekday and kids were around as it was the holidays. My eldest daughter whose 9 just asked me why the lady was so mean, what do you say to that.

Dontbersorude · 15/08/2018 12:30

Hi everyone,

As an update she has actually injured my and I have anti inflammatories as a result. Silly cow.

@Saggital
To put your mind at rest, no I didn’t even have my phone with me, sorry to disappoint, even so it’s still twattish behaviour to bump into someone in their phone even if the person on their phone has the self awareness of a gnat.

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