To think 35 is too old to meet someone?

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I'm really missing my ex (we split up beginning of May). I'm 35, a widow, with 3 kids - who is going to want me, seriously?

I feel I have so much to give, but feel so scared I'm not going to meet anyone else

I guess it would be reassuring to hear stories of people who have met their 'one' at my age or older?

Having a morning of the blues, OP? UnMumsnetty hug. I met my DH at 36. Still squabbling in marital harmony 20 years later. I'm sure you'll get lots of other stories too.

I got remarried at 51
You’ve got loads of time

I met my ds at 35, he was also 35. Neither of us had kids and we had both sort of come to terms with perhaps never having any.

Anyway, 20 years on...we have a wonderful 16 yo ds.

I hope you find someone special - maybe the key is not to 'look' but get out there and do things that will help you meet like minded people.

Good luck.

I met my dh at 54.

I wasn't much younger when I met my DH, I was 32 and we married when I was 33 and he was 37. My DSis married her second husband when she was 36. We're both still happily married with DC, I'm now 48 and she's 46.

So you're definitely not too old!!

My MIL married again last year at the age of 84, after a 16 year ‘ fling’. She was widowed in her early 60s.

i wouldnt worry if you only
split up in may. ive been single for 2 years, i posted about being long term single and was told that 2 years isnt long term at all. its only been 2 months for you, give it time!

I met my DH at 35, he was 40.

I went to the wedding of a friend recently, she was getting married again at 51.

Most of my family have had 2 or more marriages. You have nothing to worry about!!

My friend met her boyfriend at 45, 3 years after her husband cheated and left her with 3 kids. You're never too old!

Met my husband at 36, married at 38.

One of my closest friends split up with her husband three years ago - she was 45 with two children, one with SEN. She's been with her new boyfriend for over a year now. They're very happy.

My SIL met a new man when she was 60! They moved into a new house two years ago and they're very happy too

There's a lot of second marriages out there ...

I met my partner at 35 after being mostly single for 10 years. We're both 39 now, baby due in a few weeks

I liked being single most the time but there were times when I thought I would never find the right person. I'm glad I waited and didn't settle - there is someone out there for you OP!

I was a single mum to4 kids met my now husband at 35 we now have 6 and are very happy indeed, I never thought I'd get married again ( divorced at 24) but then it just happened. There are good ones out there!

I met my second husband when I was36! I had 3 boys.

We’re now married with a 20 month old dd x

Met my lovely man at the grand old age of 47. My mum got remarried at 68. you've got loads of time.

Thank you all so much for these reassuring replies, they have helped

two of my 3 brothers started seeing their current wife/partner in their mid 30's. They had known them for a while as acquaintances/friends of friends but would never have guessed they would have ended up together (both been together 20ish years now), so it does happen.

Both my brothers and their dp/dw had quite active social lives/hobbies so the opportunity was there to get to know people with similar likes.

Met my husband at 34.

Met my husband at 36, married at 38, 2 children by 40.
You’ve got loads of time and it will happen. Good luck!

You are looking at things the wrong way op!! Not who will want you with 3 dc, who will YOU choose who is special enough to allow into your lives...
My now dh says he feels privi to have been allowed to share my amazing dc!
We have a toddler now.
(and op I had double figures of dc when we met )

My lovely DSis met her DP when she was 36. He's a widower with 2 kids.
If it's right it's right and it'll happen whatever the age

My dad gets remarried this year... he’s 60. My mum remarried at 43.

My grandma has had 4 boyfriends since my grandfather died and at 92 seems to be ditching her current partner for a new bloke - you are defo not too old!

Try not to sound so defeatist, OP. There is no reason why it couldn't happen.

I'm pleased people are sharing their stories of having found love, after that age!

I met my second husband when I was 36. Neither of us had kids at the time. We now have a lovely 16 yo daughter and 18 yo son.

Your kids will make it harder, but certainly not impossible.