To think 35 is too old to meet someone?

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I'm really missing my ex (we split up beginning of May). I'm 35, a widow, with 3 kids - who is going to want me, seriously?

I feel I have so much to give, but feel so scared I'm not going to meet anyone else

I guess it would be reassuring to hear stories of people who have met their 'one' at my age or older?

My lovely BIL met my now SIL at 37 they are now peacefully settled down in their own lovely house, married and a baby on the way. Happy endings do happen.
You will meet someone when the time is right for you. He met her online, have you tried online dating. I also met my DH online too. It works for some people, but obviously be very careful x

I know someone who divorced her husband at 60 and a few years later met a man she had known when younger and they are now happily loved up.

Met my wonderful boyfriend at 35 with 3 kids!

Met my soon to be DH at 35. Getting married next year.

Not too later
Lovely man, 70's lived down the road from me. Had been married for many years and his wife died
About a year later he went on a ?saga cruise - married again and happy as Larry!

met my now DH at 44 and I had two dreadful, hormonal, moody teenagers. What a turn off is that?!

You're only 35. Plenty of time to have more fun before a life partner comes along. Make the most of it!

45 when i met DP. Give it time. Be happy with your own stuff, family, friends, hobbies. Someone will come along when you aren’t desperately ‘looking’.

You are never too old to do anything in life ! I know lots of people 50+ who have had new boyfriends, partners, married. Love yourself, love life, love others

I met my husband when I was 40 and he was 44! You've got plenty of time.

I’m in a similar boat to you - widowed at 31, now 33 with a 5yr old.

I’m half way through that shift in mindset someone else mentioned from ‘who will want me?’ to ‘who is good enough for me?’!

It’s a hard journey at times, but I think in becoming comfortable with yourself and single life it leaves you in a much better position to find a fulfilling relationship. I hope anyway! And in some ways I don’t mind if I never find anyone again because it’s a different type of happiness being able to please myself - freedom!

My dh was 35 when we met. He'd been divorced as ex wife cheated on him and he wasn't expecting to meet anyone.
Weve been together 12 ish years now and have 2 kids.

Another one here!

Met second husband at 36. Together 14 years altogether now and blissfully happy :) (and with DD4!)

Feeling you will never meet anyone is a pretty typical thing after a break up. Of course you can meet someone else, no matter your age- although 35 is young. Concentrate on making yourself happy and active first. xx

YAB so U I don’t know where to start

But you’re allowed down days.

Meghan Markle seems to have done OK on her second marriage in her mid 30s.

OK, you probably won’t end up with a multimillionaire with a title and it will be harder with kids but as previous posters have said from personal experience, not impossible.

No way is that too old!!!

And re having three kids. Think about it - if you met a guy with three kids, would you mind? Not if you really liked him, you wouldn’t.

You are in your prime. There’s absolutely NO reason why you shouldn’t find happiness again.

I met my partner at almost 42 after 10 years of being a single parent. Our first family do was his mum's second wedding aged 60.

My cousin, two children by different fathers, string of failed relationships including 3 divorces. Nice lass but she was a total bastard magnet. She was alone as kids had left home and had pretty much lost all respect for men by the time she was 37 at which point she met the most lovely generous stable man whose family welcomed her with open arms. He treated her two children well too. They had a baby and got married, never seen her so happy. It was like she started adult life again.

35 is not that old. There are lots of online dating services for widows and widowers specifically. They would be a good bet, because you would be more likely to meet someone in the same boat with kids to consider maybe, or will want to take things slow.

At least that way you could know they’re not divorced for some horrible reason either.

Good article here:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/10-dating-tips-widows-widowers/amp/

I was a divorced single mum of a four year old. Met my husband at age 40 and married at 41. I thought the same as you, but after the event my mum said she knew that once I got myself back to work I would meet someone. She loved him to bits. He's amazing!!!

This thread is giving me hope

Met DH at 35 (he's 8 days younger than me) and he's definitely "the one" and adores his step daughter. We met on POF of all places. I felt exactly like you OP. I laughed it off when friends badgered me about online dating! Please don't hesitate to dream and to try.... You're in your prime!

Do you really want a man of that age or above? Looking around the middle aged men in my area, I think I'll pass.

Codswallop!! My partner and I met when we were both 48 and had 17 amazing years together. I miss him so much