To think 35 is too old to meet someone?

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I'm really missing my ex (we split up beginning of May). I'm 35, a widow, with 3 kids - who is going to want me, seriously?

I feel I have so much to give, but feel so scared I'm not going to meet anyone else

I guess it would be reassuring to hear stories of people who have met their 'one' at my age or older?

Met DP when I was 37 and he was 53 😍

Met DH the week after my 41st birthday; my 43rd birthday present was an engagement ring. Lots of my friends were in their mid-thirties when they met their partners - it’s not as though you can only find happiness up to the age of 35 and then suddenly a door clangs shut!

Met my dh at 40...he already had 2 children. We had 2 more children together and married at 48.

My mum was widowed at 50. Two years later she met a man 6 years younger than herself. He was a single man who had cared for his mum for most of his life. They were happily married for over 40years which was 10 years longer than she was married to my dad.

Met my lovely bf at 37. Been together 3 year. We both have kids. Don't lose hope

Got together with exh at 34, married 36, children in my late 30's/early 40's, divorced mid 40's, happily single since (now in my 50's) and intending to stay that way

Sorry, that's not the sort of happy story you want I guess! Though I love my set up now, being a single mum to my lovely children, so I suppose I would say happiness comes in various forms, and not necessarily the way you imagine

FIL married his second wife in his late 50s.

Met the love of my life at 38 x
Had totally given up on finding one.........

Ps loads of my friends are unhappy and "making do" so sometimes don't be fooled by what you think others have.......

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Met the love of my life at 52 thanks to Tinder, happier than I have ever been so, no 35 is not too old.

After being divorced from my Mum for 10 years, my Dad has finally found a new partner at the age of 59! My Gran after being a widow for 20+ years met her husband at the age of 88 so you're never too old!

My grandfather met somebody at 93!!! and had a couple of good happy years with her
(My grandmother had died a few decades earlier)

My mum and dad split 12 years ago (mums choice) and my dad has a wonderful new partner - he was 61 when he met her

My good friend met the love of her life at 42

I was 42 when I met my husband, who was then 34. We were married within six months of meeting. You never know what's round the corner.

My lovely friend lost her DH at around your age. She has two DC who were 4 and 7. She joined her local WAY (widowed and young) group. She met her second DH there and married him a few years later. Theirs was a slow burn relationship.

My lovely friend lost her DH at around your age. She has two DC who were 4 and 7. She joined her local WAY (widowed and young) group. She met her second DH there and married him a few years later. Theirs was a slow burn relationship.

I went on an internet dating sight one night for the first time at the age of 37 and met someone. We met up and ended up getting married two years later - been married five years now!

These stories are giving me so much hope Thank you. I woke up feeling really low, after wallowing about my ex-dp last night but my spirits have been lifted thanks to you guys!

I re-married at 44.

It's really important not to live in hope though!!

I made this mistake for the first 8 years or so. I just assumed that I would meet somebody and I did meet a few people but they never wanted to commit to somebody who had 100% responsibility for young-ish children.

The most important thing you can do for yourself is to live in hope that you'll no longer care about meeting somebody.

If you want to go somewhere, force yourself to go on your own.

I'm 48 now and I am sane, solvent, attractive and my children are old enough to leave alone and I can tell you that it doesn't just happen, it isn't always ''round the corner^, it doesn't happen ''when you're least expecting it'' and that's ok.

Don't assume that it is inevitable. Make sure instead that you become the sort of person that can cope with and in fact enjoy life singe or not single.

I am not anti-romance, far from it, but omg, do not assume that meeting somebody is either inevitable or the only way not to feel lonely.

No one is saying to the OP that it will just happen. No one knows what will happen in the future. The question was, is she too old at 35? Clearly the answer is no. It doesn't mean that we can predict the future and say for definite that it will happen.

Similarly, when DH and I were TTC, well meaning friends used to say to just relax and I would conceive. I didn't, I was infertile.

Nobody knows what will happen. Life isn't like that.

You are never too old for anything. You might be too ill or frail, but never too old.

Well, except perhaps for winning the under 16s netball championship or something, but you know what I mean.

I'm 60 and just about to celebrate my silver wedding anniversary. It is my second marriage.

I met my DP when I was 38 and he was 45. I enjoyed meeting someone when I was in my 30s. By then I knew what I did and didn't want in a man. Neither of us played games and settled down together quite quickly.

Watching with interest as I am single at 46... heartwarming to read everyone’s stories

Met my love at 36.
Managed to quickly have two lovely kids. I’m still in love with him.
It can happen for you op.

My mil remarried at 64.

It’s never too late.