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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

OP posts:
SoddingUnicorns · 08/07/2018 16:47

Much as I’ve looked forward to OPs updates, I sincerely hope that the SZ drama is over for OPs sake and that the lack of update indicates that her life has gone back to normal!

seasidelife · 08/07/2018 17:00

I'm really hoping that op wasn't put off posting updates

Groovee · 08/07/2018 18:05

I'm hoping it's all calmed down and there are no updates x

curlywurlyjo · 08/07/2018 18:23

Any updates? Hope it's all calmed down ... but I suspect not

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 09/07/2018 08:11

Hi!
Sorry for the lack of update. There has been a serious accident in the family and I've been away helping deal with that. I didn't go to group on Friday so have no idea if she did or not. I haven't had the mind space to ask anyone.

OP posts:
Jghijjjoo · 09/07/2018 08:21

Flowers For you

SoddingUnicorns · 09/07/2018 08:22

Flowers for you OP

greenlynx · 09/07/2018 08:27

Hope everything will be ok Flowers

TheMaddHugger · 09/07/2018 08:29

((((((Soft Hugs))))) and Prayers Flowers

ReanimatedSGB · 09/07/2018 08:30

I hope the family member is making a good recovery and you're not too stressed out. Best wishes.

bettytaghetti · 09/07/2018 09:06

Hoping everything is okay for your family member. Thanks

PigEyedHorseFrightener · 09/07/2018 09:13

Oh op 😕

Groovee · 09/07/2018 09:40

ThanksThanks

curlywurlyjo · 09/07/2018 11:21

Oh no, so sorry to hear this!! SadThanks
I hope family member makes a full recovery.
Last thing you'll be thinking about is softzilla, but knowing her she'll take this as an opportunity to get closer to you ... be careful & keep your hard up x

curlywurlyjo · 09/07/2018 11:21

*guard up

justilou1 · 09/07/2018 11:33

Sorry OP - Hoping all is ok now. Big hugs and sending you strength.

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 09/07/2018 12:05

Oh unreasonable Flowers
Definitely more important things to deal with right now.

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 09/07/2018 12:05

Thank you!
Family member is ok and healing well. But has all kicked off the need for 24 hour care rather sooner than we thought. Lots of visits, sorting out finances (which are a total mess!) etc plus filling that gap while we get this sorted.

OP posts:
Hissy · 09/07/2018 12:30

Sorry to hear all this, the last thing you need!

Wishing you well and hoping your relative continues to mend.

Lizzie48 · 09/07/2018 12:53

@Unreasonableunreasonableness Thanks

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 09/07/2018 13:06

The older I get the more I think I've never left school.

Some people manage to stay 14 years old in their mind.

Hope your rellie is ok.

sockunicorn · 09/07/2018 15:07

Flowers much love

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 09/07/2018 15:58

So sorry to hear this Flowers
Take care op

Jux · 09/07/2018 17:05

Flowers so sorry. Things can take a while to sort out, but they will be sorted. Keep believing in that light at the end of the tunnel

BerylStreep · 09/07/2018 20:10

I hope all is ok with your relative. Flowers for you.

I hope the cease & desist letter has had the right effect, and although this might come out wrongly, perhaps if Softzilla senses that you no longer give a fuck about her and her stupid dramas, given that you have your own priorities to deal with now, she may well back off.