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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

OP posts:
MummytoTw0 · 24/03/2019 19:57

Wow just caught up with the threads

This lady was a nut job

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 24/03/2019 20:08

Congratulations!!!

Yesbutnobutmaybe · 24/03/2019 20:20

Congratulations!

BibbyDarling · 24/03/2019 20:31

Awh lovely! Congratulations

SauvignonBlanche · 24/03/2019 20:35

Congratulations! Grin Hope all goes well.

Ginburee · 24/03/2019 21:53

I saw your first post but not the updates, Flowers. It is stressful trying to get pregnant without a shitshow in the background.
I hope the case is resolved or near to the end so you can enjoy this special time. Xx

HolyCrapBatman · 24/03/2019 21:56

Just binged all of your threads.
Hope everything with softzilla is over soon. It’s been going on far too long, she’s definitely crazy.

Fab news about your pregnancy! Congratulations!!

GeeksCanBeMumsToo · 24/03/2019 22:01

Crazy! Hope everything is going well and all is quiet on the crazy front! X

GinghamStyle · 24/03/2019 22:42

Wow OP what news to come back with! Flowers

So often we see threads of people hesitant to take stalkerish behaviour and harassment seriously. So many time on your threads posters pooh-poohed the suggestion of logging things with 101. I think if we take anything away from this thread, it should be to keep a diary of unusual behaviour when we experience it and to reach out to those around us for validation and support.

Toooldforthisshit49 · 24/03/2019 22:54

Just caught up with your thread, congratulations on your pregnancy, hope all ok 💐

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 24/03/2019 22:59

🎉🎉🎉

LikeYouSaid · 24/03/2019 23:05

Congratulations OP! Spent the evening catching up on this whole madness (Softzilla is a verified weirdo!) and I’m glad to hear this bit of good news for you Flowers

FitMum87 · 24/03/2019 23:37

Congratulations- I have just read all your threads in one go. Softzilla sounds dangerous. Please update us when you can and also please stay safe.

flowergrrl77 · 24/03/2019 23:40

Congratulations!!

coddersrodders · 24/03/2019 23:47

Congrats on your pregnancy!

Sadbri · 25/03/2019 00:37

Congratulations @Unreasonableunreasonableness !!! I have literally just spent the better part of 3 hours binge reading your whole thread from the beginning and now fully invested in this thread! I'm glad things are dying down and didn't get too nasty from September when all the little ones went back to preschool. Xx

Paininmybummum · 25/03/2019 01:57

OP, congratulations! I've been following your thread from the get go as well, and often you have been on my mind. My heart has truly gone out to you, having also been the object of a very frightening stalker whilst at uni many years ago I can totally empathise. My experience did not go on for as long as yours has, only a few months, as he was expelled after police intervention, however it was truly terrifying at the time. Sending big hugs, and 🍾💐💐 x

JingsMahBucket · 25/03/2019 03:27

Congratulations OP! Funnily enough, I was thinking about you and Softzilla on Friday or Saturday and wondered what happened!

Pashal2 · 25/03/2019 03:32

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Sissyjd · 25/03/2019 04:32

Just read all your threads wow softzilla sounds like someone i know, i will try grey rock behaviour from now on, and sadly my recent exs, ex wife who was another level toxic manipulator & batshit vile;abysing her jpb knowlwdge and courts to destroy my ex and his relationship with his children..she was the reason we split up..some people just dont believe this can happen. So sorry youve experienced this. but congratulations on your pregnancy and calmer happier times ahead!! SmileFlowers

MyOtherProfile · 25/03/2019 07:16

Hmm, just wondering what youre talking about @Pashal2

plonkington · 25/03/2019 07:41

Congrats on your pregnancy xx

FuckBrussel · 25/03/2019 08:42

Likewise, @MyOtherProfile.

Congratulations, OP! That's wonderful news! Flowers

Dreamingofkfc · 25/03/2019 08:47

@motoko I genuinely thought that's what I read on another thread when classic threads were being discussed! No need to be so rude.

Sorry, my mistake! Congratulations OP

thenewzealandstory · 25/03/2019 16:05

Aww lovely news! And thanks for the update xx