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Neighbor complaint - people using his drive to turn

359 replies

HarveySherlock · 11/12/2017 12:07

Sorry I can't add diagram.

So we live on the cul de sack with a turning area. Each house has a driveway. No one parks in the turning area as we have large driveways and there is in shot parking as well.

Since we moved in earlier this year for some reason people use our drive to turn rather than going to the end of the road and use the turning area. This was particularly annoying in the dark evening with car lights.

We got a new fence with automatic driveway gates added last week. This now means people can't use our drive to turn. Our next door neighbor came over yesterday to complain that people are now using his drive instead of ours. We told him there isn't anything we can do. We suggested he put up a sign saying no turning.

He has now posted a note through the door (even though I'm working from home) saying he will be complaining about us at tonight's residents meeting.Xmas Hmm. He thinks we should have discussed our fence/gate plans with neighbors before installing them as they now have to deal with what was our problem. We didn't need permission for the fence or gates.

Aibu to think that people turning on his drive isn't our problem?

OP posts:
Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 23/02/2021 20:51

Let him get in with it. It’s not your problem.

coldwarenigma · 23/02/2021 20:55

Has anyone else wondered how they were having a residents meeting before checking the date ..Grin

Beautiful3 · 23/02/2021 20:59

He didn't mind when it happened to you, but not happening to him?!!! That makes no sense. He needs to blame the people doing this and not you! Ignore him, hes crazy! He needs a gate too by the sounds of it.

BillyIsMyBunny · 23/02/2021 21:08

Fingers crossed OP comes along with an update on what’s happened the last 3 years - did anyone get penguin bollards!?

LookItsMeAgain · 23/02/2021 21:13

@HavelockVetinari

Did anyone else read all of the thread thinking "You have no authority here, Jackie Weaver!"? Grin
LOL!! I didn't until you said it but now it's all that I can think in relation to this thread! Grin
C152 · 23/02/2021 21:36

YANBU; your neighbour sounds like an idiot.

slashlover · 23/02/2021 21:50

Anyone else think that threads should be closed after a year of no posts and can only be revived by the OP?

Stop folk like @Daleksatemyshed bumping them for no reason and confusing people.

VinylDetective · 23/02/2021 22:05

@Fairylea

Give him the details for where you got your gates from Grin
Read my mind!
AnitaB888 · 23/02/2021 22:05

OP this is so ridiculous.
Unless there is some covenant on all your properties banning you all from installing any gates/fences/hedges on your own property without a meeting, you can tell him to go suck a lemon.
If you choose to go to the meeting I'd take pack-up because this guy will have you there all night.
Good luck Hmm

VinylDetective · 23/02/2021 22:05

Oh fuck. It’s a zombie!

WannabemoreWeaver · 23/02/2021 22:17

@Efferlunt

Ubisoft really don’t understand why people have such an issue with people using the end of your drive to turn surely it’s not that inconvenient?
This.
Viviennemary · 23/02/2021 22:29

He should put up a gate or a chain across his drive. Maybe you should have said in hindsight but no I dont really see why you needed to. They sound a cheeky entitled bunch.

Nanny0gg · 23/02/2021 22:37

The OP may well have moved house by now...

Cherrysoup · 23/02/2021 22:43

Zombie 🧟‍♀️

AnitaB888 · 23/02/2021 22:43

'The OP may well have moved house by now...'

GrinGrinGrin

viques · 23/02/2021 23:07

@treeofhearts

Send him a leaflet for penguin billiards Grin
I’m not sure penguin billiards will do it. He will probably take it as a cue that you think he is potty. If I were you I would smile and chalk it up to experience.

Sorry. Grin

earthyfire · 23/02/2021 23:08

Tell him to do one!

earthyfire · 23/02/2021 23:08

oops...zombie

viques · 23/02/2021 23:09

Oh bugger, a zombie. Can I have my balls back please.

LemonSwan · 23/02/2021 23:18

OMG haha. I think you live opposite my mums house

Inthemuckheap · 23/02/2021 23:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PeggyHill · 23/02/2021 23:28

@slashlover

Anyone else think that threads should be closed after a year of no posts and can only be revived by the OP?

Stop folk like @Daleksatemyshed bumping them for no reason and confusing people.

That's not a bad idea
Mamanyt · 23/02/2021 23:45

What an idiot your neighbor is! So long as the fence and gate are allowed, you are entirely in the clear. And this has now become a neighborhood issue rather than your issue, as it should have been from the very beginning.

ilovebluecheese · 23/02/2021 23:54

I agree with a comment above. Attend the meeting and record when you speak. You have solved your problem the best way you knew how. Simply because it was annoying you, shining bright car headlights in your house or simple just didn't want it to happen. Why has he come to you! He is saying he would rather then turn in your driveway than his. If ignore him. Br ing on the residents meeting is say.

MuthaFunka61 · 23/02/2021 23:56

No,don't stop Mners posting after a year this thread has right cheered me up.
Plus it's great to know another shero lives amongst us.