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Abandoned child

99 replies

Notmycuntingfault · 02/12/2017 14:25

NC for this for obvious reasons.

I live in a rambling, big disjointed house. Think corridors, connecting halls etc. It's odd but I love it.

My nephew dropped by yesterday with his gf and toddler. I haven't seen him for a few years, distance, life and money etc.

Now, I had no warning they were coming and he painted it as they were just in the area. So, I made lunch we chatted and laughed ''twas nice.
Time got on and I said "Stay and go home tomorrow" they accepted and I sorted a big room out for the three of them.

All good so far.

I get up this morning and start making a big breakfast for everyone. They join me and we all eat together.

Afterwards they go off to pack up and I clear the breakfast things and take to kitchen (four big rooms away, this is important) when I finish I go back to main house and see or hear no one. Bit pissed that they left without saying goodbye or thank you but blame wankiness of youth.

I get on with my day and walk to the village and see their car is still in drive, I ring them and am told they went for a walk before leaving.

So I carry on and after chatting at shop etc amble back home.

When I get back I am faced with full on anger from nephew and gf as they had left son with me!
They had apparently shouted before they went for walk. So I had abandoned their son.

He was in their room alone for around an hour.
AIBU for not feeling guilt?
They should've checked it was ok.

He was fine.

OP posts:
FizzyGreenWater · 02/12/2017 14:27

Full on ager should be coming right back at them.

They were utterly irresponsible. Didn't check you knew - or even ASK you - to look after their son for an hour or more?

Tell them to fuck off with their anger and not bother coming back again until they learn some responsibility and a few manners to go with it.

TieGrr · 02/12/2017 14:28

YANBU. If you had to ring them to find out where they went you clearly didn't hear them shout beforehand.

Islacornx · 02/12/2017 14:28

Wow, YANBU. How cheeky, surely you would come and ask someone directly to their face if you wanted them to look after your child. Not just shout as you're walking out the door and hope they hear Confused

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 02/12/2017 14:29

Wow!

insancerre · 02/12/2017 14:29

Yanbu
They should have checked it was OK with you

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 02/12/2017 14:30

They've got a bloody cheek.

SlartyFarkBarstard · 02/12/2017 14:33

😂😂😂 are they fucking loopy! They dumped there kid without checking with you? Tell them to fuck off and don’t come back.

Neverender · 02/12/2017 14:34

YANBU that's awful

MrMeSeeks · 02/12/2017 14:37

Wtf were they thinking?i'd be telling them to leave and not come back.

Oliversmumsarmy · 02/12/2017 14:40

So when you rang them to see where they were they didn't think that if they had told you where they were you wouldn't be ringing.
Or in other words they told you that they were going for a walk and to look after ds then you ring and ask them where they are.
I cant understand why they wouldn't have asked you to look after their ds face to face

SingingSeuss · 02/12/2017 14:41

So they just shouted and ran without checking you said yes/ making sure kid was ok with you/ making sure you knew where the child was? They need to take a look at their parenting. Not acceptable at all

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 02/12/2017 14:42

I think your new username is utterly correct

Tell them to fuck off to the far side of fuck and don't come back.

I can't honestly believe anyone would be so reckless with their child.

Louiselouie0890 · 02/12/2017 14:43

This is why I always make sure people know I'm leaving and there now in charge. OH thinks I'm insane but I can then switch off knowing they're ok. They sound insane, irresponsible and rude.

AnnetteCurtains · 02/12/2017 14:44

YANBU now show us a photo of your house , it sounds gorgeous

Lizzie48 · 02/12/2017 14:50

How entitled are they, assuming that you would be ok with them just leaving their DS with you, what cheek!! And since you clearly didn't know where they'd gone, it must have been obvious that you hadn't heard what they'd said. Shock

nocoolnamesleft · 02/12/2017 14:57

They didn't leave the child with you. They left the child in the house and went out. They did not check that you even knew this, let alone that you were alright with it. And when you phoned to check what was going on, they were too thick to even think "Hang on, if she knew our child was here, she wouldn't be asking whether we've left, oh god, she didn't hear us", but carried on with their nice little walk. And then had the unmitigated gall to blame you.

Idiots. Thank goodness the child is okay. Well, this time anyway. Dread to think where they'll abandon them the next time...

WinnieFosterTether · 02/12/2017 14:58

They're completely irresponsible but I'm with Annette I want to see your house Grin

SauvignonBlanche · 02/12/2017 15:00

How irresponsible of them!

Chaosofcalm · 02/12/2017 15:00

How old is the child?

OurMiracle1106 · 02/12/2017 15:01

Can I please just show up and have a nice little break. I don’t come with children in two and I will be appreciative??? Pretty please you’re hosting sounds fantastic and your house sounds amazing Grin

They were rude and irresponsible and now blaming you. They shouldn’t have just turned up and even more so then expected you to look after their child for free without having had a chat about it first.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/12/2017 15:01

What nocool said. And I would just like to repeat. Idiots.

MyKingdomForBrie · 02/12/2017 15:06

How can they possibly be angry with you when you didn’t know he was there??

YouCantArgueWithStupid · 02/12/2017 15:06

Can we please come too! We've got a 2 YO DD and would do the washing up and wouldn't bugger off out Grin

missiondecision · 02/12/2017 15:12

Please give the child’s age for context.
Not that their wanky behaviour is acceptable.
Twattish behavior to just tell you their child is being left with you.

dangermouse7 · 02/12/2017 15:12

@Notmycuntingfault

YANBU. They sound like a couple of entitled twats.

What happened after they had a go at you then? You didn't elaborate.