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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Abandoned child

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Notmycuntingfault · 02/12/2017 14:25

NC for this for obvious reasons.

I live in a rambling, big disjointed house. Think corridors, connecting halls etc. It's odd but I love it.

My nephew dropped by yesterday with his gf and toddler. I haven't seen him for a few years, distance, life and money etc.

Now, I had no warning they were coming and he painted it as they were just in the area. So, I made lunch we chatted and laughed ''twas nice.
Time got on and I said "Stay and go home tomorrow" they accepted and I sorted a big room out for the three of them.

All good so far.

I get up this morning and start making a big breakfast for everyone. They join me and we all eat together.

Afterwards they go off to pack up and I clear the breakfast things and take to kitchen (four big rooms away, this is important) when I finish I go back to main house and see or hear no one. Bit pissed that they left without saying goodbye or thank you but blame wankiness of youth.

I get on with my day and walk to the village and see their car is still in drive, I ring them and am told they went for a walk before leaving.

So I carry on and after chatting at shop etc amble back home.

When I get back I am faced with full on anger from nephew and gf as they had left son with me!
They had apparently shouted before they went for walk. So I had abandoned their son.

He was in their room alone for around an hour.
AIBU for not feeling guilt?
They should've checked it was ok.

He was fine.

OP posts:

Jux · 02/12/2017 18:12

Please can I come and ive with you? I’ll keep out of your way, I’m quite a good cook, dd(18) may wan to stay sotimes but she’s very good and will clean for nothing. She also makes goo tea. You know you want to!

GladysKnight · 02/12/2017 18:13

Yup. You can guarantee they can't accept their own fault in this (which is 100%) so they ate finding it easier to work themselves into a confected lather against you. All too common sadly.

Jux · 02/12/2017 18:13

Well, that last post came out well

Mulberry72 · 02/12/2017 18:14

Irresponsible CFery of the highest order!

Where do I sign up for MumFest?

Abra1d · 02/12/2017 18:25

They feel guilty and they’re kicking you to deflect the feeling.

OlennasWimple · 02/12/2017 18:31

They are bonkers and U and I feel sorry for their kid

Your house sounds amazing, and I look forward to my invite to Mumsfest in due course

Nanny0gg · 02/12/2017 18:40

Not such a PFB if they leave the toddler without checking!

Allthewaves · 02/12/2017 18:43

I'd feel sick to the stomach that child was in my house an hour by himself. I'd actually been super cross at dn and gave him a right mouthful about not speaking to me face to face and asking for me to do childcare

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 02/12/2017 18:45

They should have made sure:
a) you’ve heard them - easiest ascertained by talking to someone face to face 🙄,
b) you were free to kind their DC.
Entitled twats.

diddl · 02/12/2017 19:00

" I'm youngest sister. Therefore hated by the elders!! "

How does that follow?

Are they jealous or something?

gingergenius · 02/12/2017 19:02

Tell them to Fuck off to the far side of Fuck!

ArcheryAnnie · 02/12/2017 19:15

YANBU! But it's a result if your twatty nephew will never visit again, I'd say.

Traffig · 02/12/2017 19:16

OP
That's really horrible for you.

p.s. Have you checked the silver and the safe?

missymousey · 02/12/2017 19:20

The cheekiest CFs I've heard of in a long time, and that's saying something on MN! Let us know when mumsfest is on, I'll have a weekend pass please

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Notmycuntingfault · 02/12/2017 19:23

Ha! No silver or safe!
With regards to the youngest comment, there's quite an age gap.

I apparently got away with everything and had so much freedom. I saw it as I had to raise myself as parents had been there done that.

Which just made me more independent and different to them.

OP posts:

PinkPanther27 · 02/12/2017 20:03

Speechless and makes me wonder if they do this regularly. The worrying thing is that a 17 month old was so quiet and apparently not affected by being left on their own for a whole hour, why? Are they used to it? 😐

GabsAlot · 02/12/2017 20:38

you should know?

what ar u psychic now

can i see your house too?

ThisLittleKitty · 02/12/2017 20:51

Maybe the child was quiet because it was sleeping?

PinkPanther27 · 02/12/2017 23:36

Hopefully @thislittlekitty

diddl · 03/12/2017 09:21

No pic/diagram of the house yet?

Jojopugh · 03/12/2017 18:22

I'm a third child and to be fair my little sister can be a bit of challenge. Not saying that's for everyone however lots of people I know always say 'it's because she is the youngest and has always got away with everything. I'm one of 4

LIZS · 03/12/2017 18:30

Bizarre. They left their pfb toddler alone in an unfamiliar unchildproofed house apparently supervised by someone he barely knew but with whom they didn't have face to face conversation before leaving. And it is your fault he was left ?

TitaniasCloset · 03/12/2017 20:24

Have you put your sister back in her place though OP?

Just sounds to me like you are the family black sheep or scapegoat (why always sheep and goat analogies for these things?)

You don't seem to give a flying monkeys and are happy with your own life, which is great, but it's annoyed me that they are trying to lay the blame on you! I'm so annoyed on your behalf 😂 I need to be a bit more chilled like you I think.

TitaniasCloset · 03/12/2017 20:27

Yes LIZS exactly! Who does that? And then to be rude to the OP, instead of being embarrassed. Someone said earlier as well it's rather odd for a child of that age not to kick up a fuss if left alone. Why would you not want to take your toddler on a walk too? Someone else said they probably pissed off to the pub.

Dunno, but this has really wound me up! I think I need and to chill

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