Time out for a one year old? Nursery issue

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Acceptable or not?

I don't think so. Others seem to think this is ok.

I'm bloody fuming.

12 months or 23 months?

Well there is no point if the child doesn't understand which most one year olds would not.

Yes. I implemented naughty step too. As long as the punishment happens immediately after the bad behaviour, it’s fine.

But since you disagree it’s better to find a different childcare provider.

Yes. I implemented naughty step too. As long as the punishment happens immediately after the bad behaviour, it’s fine.

But since you disagree it’s better to find a different childcare provider.

Is it time out as in naughty step, or time out as in removing them from a situation to calm down? Two completely separate things.

What do you mean by time out? More info needed please

12 months.

He hates being in his buggy anyway.

Absolutely not no.

Why were they put on time out ??

12 months? No way

Nope. Not acceptable. It's not something I personally agree with anyway but under the age of two it's pointless and ridiculous.

Being restrained in buggy as 'over excited'.

That's all the info I have

When you say time out what exactly does that look like?

• sit over there for a minute and think about what you did wrong

Or

• let's sit quietly and calm down for a minute

Not sure a just turned 1 yr old will understand then first but we certainly did the second, when she was getting wound up we would have cooling off time to calm down and re-set.

12 month.. Are you sure they arnt just removing the child from the situation and placing them else where.

How old are they exactly... because a 18 month can react to time out imo. Long as you place them there and tell the reason and not for very long at all.. 30 seconds - 1 minutes . Example.. No hitting then talk to them a minute later again then.

Well what do you mean by time out? My son's nursery (he is 21 months) do it, but it's a one minute quiet time in their quiet area to calm down, not a punishment.

I don't have an issue with it, it does help him calm down.

Restrained in the buggy and how. You are being vague.

Were they on a nursery outing? Was he taken out of the room and strapped in his buggy?

Who told you and why didn't you probe further if it was the nursery who told you?

The nursery are being vague

When you say "restrained", do you just mean they did the straps up?

Oh no, at 12 months I'd expect distraction and positive reinforcement only. 12 month olds are too young to comprehend time out, so it's pointless and mean.

The nursery are being vague

Did you ask them? So you don't know what happened?

I find it hard that the nursery have only said he was restrained in his buggy for being excitable as a punishment and won't tell you anything else when asked.

Can't say if you are being unreasonable or not.

A 12 mo can't understand time out! Restrained in a buggy, at the nursery or when on an outing?

Emily, are you implying that I'm making this up?

I think Emily was just trying to understand the conversation... if the nursery were being vague with me I’d stay there until they told me exactly what happened and why.

Good for you

The nursery are being vague

Not good enough! If you are angry at how a situation has been handled by the nursery then you go in and talk it out with them. You don’t allow them to be ‘vague’. Any childcare setting would be happy to explain their actions I’m sure.