Time out for a one year old? Nursery issue

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Acceptable or not?

I don't think so. Others seem to think this is ok.

I'm bloody fuming.

You have not been attacked OP. You asked a question and Emily has taken time out of her life to offer extensive advice based on her professional experience and in return you have been unpleasant towards her.

My DD is 18 months and I would have no problem with them removing her from her room to play with older children or for a cuddle outside her room if she was upset by something in her room, or if they strapped her into a buggy on a trip because she would nolonger hold someone’s hand but I would not be happy with a naughty chair.

At 12 months they only just understand a limited amount of familiar words/ sentences, let alone the concept of 'time out' for being 'naughty' (testing/ challenging, yes, but not naughty!) Either they used corrective action completely age inappropriately or they restrained an excited baby by strapping him in a buggy - which he hates. Either way, not good is it? I don't understand why op is getting such a hard time.

I do think it's pointless and mean to put a one year old into time out, as they don't have the cognitive skills to understand what it's all about. Distraction and removal from the situation are the techniques to employ. If that was the purpose of the so-called time-out then that's fine.

But if they were restraining him in his buggy then that's definitely OTT.

If the nursery worker wouldn't talk it through with you then you should definitely speak to the manager as the next port of call.

I would ask to speak to the worker involved at drop off (or pick up) and ask to be told exactly what happened. If nothing was forthcoming, I would ask to speak to the manager. If I wasn’t happy with the response, I would remove my child from the nursery and find somewhere else.

OP, why are you busy being indignant with the nursery and posting on mumsnet instead of speaking directly to the nursery staff again to find out exactly what happened?

Mumsnet can't do your parenting for you. You have to step up.

If a family member had told you they had to restrain your child in the buggy, presumably you'd ask them to outline what had occurred rather than just decide not to let them care for your child in the future?

If you struggle with confidence issues and want help with what to say when raising concerns with the staff, then you really need to say that in your OP.

Ask to see the policy and procedures at the nursery and ask them where it says that discipline for a 12 month old child could be restraint in a buggy. This is out of order. How long for. Fair enough if just about to go on a walk which I doubt as it's a nursery. Should 12 month olds be punished. Hmm. I've got old fashioned views but don't agree punishment is an appropriate term to use for treatment of a 12 month old.

The nursery were so "vague" you don't know what happened, and didn't bother to clarify, and yet you're "bloody fuming".

Uh, yes. YABU.