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To think my DP is disgusting

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Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:37

Just had a row with DP because he doesn’t brush his teeth. He says he forgets and can go for days. I think it’s bloody disgusting & his teeth are in a state and there is no excuse at all for poor dental hygiene. Aibu

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Whereland · 23/11/2017 21:38

Do you really need to ask? Do you think someone will say yes you're unreasonable that sounds lovely to me..
so yes. It's disgusting.

Tinselistacky · 23/11/2017 21:39

I hope you don't kiss him or have sex with him.

Morning breath at its worst.
Flowersfor you op.

PinkHeart5914 · 23/11/2017 21:39

Eww not brushing teeth is a bit manky! How can you ‘forget’ for days, as a one off now and then when busy fine but for days just no.

I couldn’t kiss him with disgusting breath and manky teeth

Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:39

He thinks I am being unreasonable though for having a go at him about it

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Aperolspritzer123 · 23/11/2017 21:40

Has he stopped brushing his teeth recently? I just can’t imagine ever getting into a relationship with someone so disgusting... people with good hygiene rarely just stop giving a shit I imagine...

NauticalDisaster · 23/11/2017 21:41

It's minging!

Ttbb · 23/11/2017 21:41
Confused

That is all

hungryradish · 23/11/2017 21:42

Yuck, he won't have any teeth soon if he carries on like that!

MinervaSaidThar · 23/11/2017 21:42

Leave him please.

Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:43

It’s never been like this really- I don’t know what’s the matter with him- his teeth are disgusting- it’s like he can’t be arsed. Am so pissed off

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DancesWithOtters · 23/11/2017 21:43

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Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:44

No, I don’t currently shag him. Things aren’t great unsurprisingly

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AnyFucker · 23/11/2017 21:45

He is putting himself at risk of heart disease, the dirty get

How do you kiss him ?

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SparkyFire · 23/11/2017 21:47

Ew. I have an ex who would only brush once a day, if he remembered at all, and it was gross. Say to him "Your breath stinks like shit - do you really expect me to want to F you right now?" and see what he comes up with.

Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:48

I do feel contempt actually. I don’t want to kiss him or shag him or be near him at the moment. I don’t think that is unreasonable at all.

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MarthaArthur · 23/11/2017 21:49

Is he depressed? Thats usually a tell tale sign is giving up dental and personal hygene by forgetting or not being bothered.

DancesWithOtters · 23/11/2017 21:50

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fleurjasmine · 23/11/2017 21:51

How, AnyFucker? Not heard that one before!

That is pretty bad, OP. It's not something I can imagine doing, and I am pretty unhygienic generally.

Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:52

I can’t sleep either if I don’t brush my teeth- I dont think he’s depressed - I am genuinely at a loss why anyone would do it tbh

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Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:52

I have just told him how unacceptable I think it is and he just won’t listen.

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MarthaArthur · 23/11/2017 21:53

I cant sleep if i dont brush my teeth either. Im drinking coffee now and my teeth feel disgusting.

Happyhappyveggie · 23/11/2017 21:54

I can honestly say that there has never been a day in my life where I haven’t cleaned my teeth twice. I can’t sleep with makeup on either

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saladdays66 · 23/11/2017 21:55

Here, fleur: www.nhs.uk/news/heart-and-lungs/clean-teeth-reduce-heart-risk/