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To ask what time your DC go to bed?

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Butttons · 19/11/2017 07:52

Chatting to friends last night. They put their DC (6 and 4) to bed at 6:30pm. Ours (4 and 2) go to bed at closer to 8. DH and I both commute to work so collect from after school club at 6, take home, feed, bathe story etc. No way can we do it any quicker and besides, I like to have a little bit of time with them in the evenings (I don't get home until almost 7) as well as getting them up and out in the mornings. They wake up around 6:45/7am.

AIBU to ask if we're doing ours a disservice and "they'll be too tired to learn properly " (no one has said this btw)

OP posts:
Pootle40 · 19/11/2017 07:55

3 year old 8pm; 8 year old 830pm. Works for us and they don’t get up before 7am. We work too so can’t do much earlier but 8 year old would never go to bed before 730.

Ilovelampandchair · 19/11/2017 07:56

3 and 2 yr old at 7pm on the dot every night. 4 yr old 7-30 to 8pm. They all sleep to after 7 usually. The 4 yr old sometimes nearer 8.

BikeRunSki · 19/11/2017 07:57

Tv etc off at 7pm
Try to get 6 yo in bed by 7.30, read til 7.45 ish.
9 yo more independent, he can read til 8.30.

Paddingtonthebear · 19/11/2017 07:59

7pm for 5yr old. She wakes at 6.30-6.45 whatever time she goes to bed

splendide · 19/11/2017 07:59

3 year old about 7/7.30.

We all eat dinner at 6 so couldn’t be much before then.

DontbouncelikeIdid · 19/11/2017 08:01

Mine has always gone to bed at 8, for the same reason as you. He's always bounced out of bed at 6.30 too, and never seemed particularly tired. He's 10 now and it's starting to slip towards 8.30/9.

Bananacustardyum · 19/11/2017 08:01

We have just started putting our 3 yr old DD to bed closer to 6pm as she needs 12 hours sleep and had started getting up earlier as I changed jobs. It's made a difference as she was getting a bit grumpy!

Thurlow · 19/11/2017 08:02

7.30ish for 5yo and 1yo. Like you we work so it gives us some time in the evening. But both have had a 7.30-7.30 routine since they were babies.

Juanbablo · 19/11/2017 08:03

Ds2 (3) goes to bed at 7, dd (7) goes to bed at 7:30 and Ds1 (10) goes to bed at 8. The big two do go to bed a bit later than that a few times a week due to football/Brownies. They get up at 6:30.

JoandMax · 19/11/2017 08:03

Mine are 7.5 and 9 and go to bed by 7pm and then can read for 20 minutes or so, lights out by 7.30pm at latest.

But we are up at 5.45am as they start school at 7.15am

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 19/11/2017 08:03

2 and 5
They get in the bath at 7.30 and in bed at 8

Natsku · 19/11/2017 08:04

6 year old, I aim for half seven though some days it ends up being later due to activities, takes between 30 mins and one hour to fall asleep. If she's particularly tired, or was up later the previous night, then she goes to bed earlier. I drag her out of bed in the morning a bit after seven so all in all she's getting 10-11 hours sleep a night.

Whatsername17 · 19/11/2017 08:05

In your circumstances the bedtime seems right. I get home between 4 and 5. Dd1 is 6 and her bedtime is 7.30. Dd1 is 10 months so hers is 6.30pm. I think its more important for you and your kids to spend some time together.

LML83 · 19/11/2017 08:05

it's important they spend time with you too so I would prioritise that and stick with your bed times (I don't think they are late) if you notice your children are tired try and have a relaxing morning at the weekend.

My dd is 7 she goes to bed at 8pm on weekdays 8.30/9 at weekends.

Ds is 2, he goes to bed at 7pm.

both wake up around 6.30/7am.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 19/11/2017 08:05

7 year old = 7:30
15 year old= 10:30

Original poster
Butttons · 19/11/2017 08:05

Okay so quite a range!

I know for us 6:30 would definitely be a challenge in summer months! I remember going to bed when it was still daylight outside and being able to hear kids playing out@

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mumof1000s · 19/11/2017 08:08

Ss 11 and 12 at 7.30
Dd 14 and ds 15 at 8

Crunchymum · 19/11/2017 08:11

5yo (just turned) is 8pm on school, an hour later weekends and holidays if he doesn't have to be up in mornings.

Nearly 3yo doesn't go to bed until 9pm [we have tried everything!!] And this is only if she doesn't nap. If she naps it's later. This child doesn't like sleep.

Crunchymum · 19/11/2017 08:12

Are you serious PP? You send an 11yo to bed at 7.30? And a 15 year old to bed at 8pm????? Shock

Believeitornot · 19/11/2017 08:13

They’re asleep by 8-8.30 and up at 7. Mine are 8&5.

However when they were younger, they really needed to be asleep by 7 because they were exhausted from waking early. Later bedtimes never worked.

We both work with commutes.

mumof1000s · 19/11/2017 08:13

Yes and they all go to sleep they are up at 5.45

They are all doing really well in school, really well in their extra activities etc

laketaupo · 19/11/2017 08:14

DS just turned 2. Bath at 5:30, dinner at 6:30,bed at 7pm and wake up at 8am

pinkhorse · 19/11/2017 08:15

Ds is 8 next month and goes to bed at half 7

ElspethFlashman · 19/11/2017 08:32

We have a 7-7 routine. They are asleep by 7.10 at the latest.

They are very well rested on it. I'm a strong believer in as much sleep as possible.

I appreciate if parents don't get home till 7 that routine isn't possible!

ImogenTubbs · 19/11/2017 08:38

4yo goes to bed about 7.30 - sometimes a little earlier if she's super tired, sometimes a little later for a special occasion.

Actually for a really special occasion we take her for a drive in the afternoon so she falls asleep and has an afternoon nap - and then she's up until 11!

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