To be ashamed of myself?

[SarahJane123]

A few weeks ago at the local swimming pool I was in the unisex shower next to the men's showers and washing my hair. I glimpsed a naked man at he far end of the men's showers and stole a few naughty glances. Is this wrong? He was washing himself and clearly didn't know he could be seen. AIBU to be ashamed that I've thought of little else since? It just doesn't feel right.

Would you like it if a man was looking at you naked when you had no idea?

It's wrong.

Naked people in public can't really be annoyed if people see them.

MeanAger seeing them is one thing. Continually and deliberately glancing at them in order to see them naked is something else.

I don't understand why you think it's wrong. You looked at a person and that was it.

Huh? How old are you please?

Glancing. She glanced. She didn't fucking lick him.

Depends really. Did you start touching yourself?

What do you mean by 'He clearly didn't know he could be seen'?

If a man made this post about a woman it'd be an entirely different response.

Our local pool doesn't allow naked showering in unisex changing rooms.
What he doesn't know can't hurt him, it's not as if you took a photo. I wouldn't worry about it.

If a man made this post about a woman it'd be an entirely different response.

Not from me. If you are naked in a public place, expect people to see you.

Is this post not just another way of you thinking about naked guy some more?

Either that or it's fictional.

What he doesn't know can't hurt him

Apply this logic to someone being wanked on while they're sleeping, or raped under the influence of drugs.

It's a slippery slope and that's a ridiculous thing to say.

She didn't glare, she didn't touch him, she didn't whistle at him, she didn't take a photo, she didn't draw his or anyone else's attention to the fact she could see him. She did nothing wrong.

Did you actually just compare a woman seeing a man in a public place to rape??

I would probably mention to the pool managers that better screening is needed.

Nope, I did not compare them.

I was deliberately exaggerating in order to prove what a ridiculous statement "what he doesn't know can't hurt him" is.

She wasn't even within touching distance of him.
If he's naked in public, in a unisex shower area, then he should expect his naked body will be seen.
I'm more bothered about why he felt it was ok to shower naked, I'd feel very uncomfortable if there was a naked man in our swimming pool's shower area.

Flip it- if you found a guy had deliberately be looking after realising he could watch would you be ok with it?

MN can often be ridiculous as evidenced by this thread.

But if the men's showers were next to the unisex showers then how did he expect nobody to see him (other than men)? If he minded being seen by women (or men) he simply wouldn't have been naked in a public place.

Men get turned on by women walking down the street fully clothed and take surreptitious (if they're smart) second glances. This man was naked in public. You weren't spying on him through a hole into the men's showers.

You saw someone attractive and looked. That's it.

And I'd say the same if it was a man about a woman (or same sex attraction).

It's a problem if you stared at them or made them uncomfortable or touched yourself. Holding onto an attractive image in your mind for later isn't a crime, neither is how you came across this image.

As pp says. How would you feel if it was the other way round?