To be ashamed of myself?

[SarahJane123]

A few weeks ago at the local swimming pool I was in the unisex shower next to the men's showers and washing my hair. I glimpsed a naked man at he far end of the men's showers and stole a few naughty glances. Is this wrong? He was washing himself and clearly didn't know he could be seen. AIBU to be ashamed that I've thought of little else since? It just doesn't feel right.

Same thing goes though. If they're unisex then there's a darn good chance there'd be women in them.

And he was in a MALE shower. Who would of thought that a man can be blamed for being naked in a male shower area!

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A few weeks ago at the local swimming pool I was in the unisex shower next to the men's showers and washing my hair. I glimpsed a naked man at he far end of the men's showers and stole a few naughty glances. Is this wrong? He was washing himself and clearly didn't know he could be seen. AIBU to be ashamed that I've thought of little else since? It just doesn't feel right.

Well, I'd have done exactly the same. And no, I wouldn't mind if the roles were reversed and somebody had a glance over me. I've worked my a**e off to get in shape and sadly there's nobody to see it . Often .

Seriously, OP, no harm done. Don't think twice about it.

S xx

Oh gosh it's not like you touched him. Surely it's no different to giving someone on the street a second glance. If I saw a naked man showering I would take another glance

Oh gosh it's not like you touched him. Surely it's no different to giving someone on the street a second glance. If I saw a naked man showering I would take another glance

Voyurism is an offence

I don't see the problem here and if roles were reversed I wouldn't see a problem. Nothing was said, no-one was touched.

Caretakertonuns

That sounds suspiciously like victim blaming.

The guy 'got his cock and balls out' or rather got himself undressed to have a proper shower.

Do you think to phrasing it like that somehow strengthens your point? Because it really doesn't.

It sounds just as ridiculous as saying women get their tits and fanny out to have a shower.

He's showering in public and you caught a glance, or two - harmless nothing to be ashamed of. Presumably you weren't balancing precariously on a toilet cistern to peek, or you'd cut a hole in the shower wall, so I'm perplexed how people are likening this to a slippery slope to sexual deviancy ?

OP, if what you're actually asking is "Is it ok to rub one out while I think about a naked man I inadvertently saw having a shower" then the answer is yes, it's fine.

I was at an athletic meet once. The competitors had to change quickly right next their bicycles which were in the open air- think triathlon.

I accidentally copped a right eyeful of a guys meat and two veg as he was changing out of his swimming trunks into his shorts. He noticed that I'd seen and I swear to he smiled at me !

Seems a bad case of sexual attraction it appears?

Be prepared! Next time proffer him a card with your number on, go on do it its obvious you fancied him:)

You need to go to confession.

Immediately.

OP what do you want people to tell you?

If there is a naked man in a public place, you may well have a glance - so what? If there is a naked woman you may have a glance too out of curiosity. We all love ok at other people, clothes on or off. Relax!

Urgh unisex showers. I would rather wait til I got home. Especially if there's 'glancing' going on.

The issue is NOT that he got naked, it's that he got naked WITH WOMEN NEARBY.

Unisex showers shouldn't be a thing in the first place, it should be separate male and female with each well away from each other. Unisex just gives men an excuse to go and perv over the women.

Unisex just gives men an excuse to go and perv over the women.

But in this case we purportedly have a woman perving over a man. There is no indication that he knew she was looking.

Why not be honest and say that you want to blame a man for something, just because he's a man?

CaretakerToNuns What about those who are trans or non-binary or non-conformist or non-vegans or non-people or refuse to be labelled by gender?

Caretaker
He was in the MEN'S SHOWERS. Where he has every right to get naked and lather himself up erotically if he so sees fit. The issue here apart from the use of the term " naughty glances" is that the OP is tormenting herself with the fact that she has been unreasonable by looking at him when he wasn't aware of her.

Expose himself?

For fucks sake.

And what about all the women who were leering over the men? Or don't they count? And the women who don't have vaginas?

He was in the MENS showers he was where he was supposed to be!!!!! Not all men are pervs and women can be pervs too. Total double standards.