AIBU to say this is completely unacceptable conversation

[queenbeeee]

So, I overheard my mom talking to my neice(14) today. My mother (57) has a very busy social life. She goes on holidays to magaluf with a group of friends. They usually have a theme and dress up as pirates,police officer etc. Today I heard mom telling my niece (her granddaughter), about a hen night she went on to the night before. I heard her telling my niece how there had been a naked waiter at the party. She was laughing and joking as if she had just told an adult. She also mentioned how everyone was drunk. AIBU to tell her this is completely an unacceptable conversation to have with your granddaughter. Tia

She sounds like a fun grandmother. Back off

You're totally overreacting. I'm sure your 14 year old is aware people get drunk and has heard of naked waiters before.

What harm do you think will come from this conversation?

Doesn't sound like a great role model at an impressionable age. I'd say something.

Brilliant grandmother! She sounds just like my wee Nannies older sister she was so much fun (much to my Grandads disgust)

First of all, a naked waiter and people drinking is incredibly tame stuff and I can't see the problem in a teenager laughing with an adult about those things.

Secondly, it's your niece, not your daughter, and therefore it's none of your business what your mum talks to her about anyway. If your niece's parents have an issue with your mum, they can tell her. You need to stop eavesdropping and keep out of it.

Oh have a word with yourself, I was up to all sorts at that age!

She's hardly relating tales of swinging parties or lesbian orgies. I'm sure the 14 year old either sniggered or went "Ewwwww Nana, TMI!" while sniggering and thought no more of it.

Does she watch Love Island etc? She'll have seen far worse on that.

You think at 14 she isn't aware that people get drunk and sometimes men are naked? You think she hasn't seen and discussed naked men herself?

At 14 we are talking to them about things like sexting, drinking, drugs etc during form sessions in school. They also do sexual reproduction in year 7 during their science lessons. The detailed discussed during these lessons is much more than what you have mentioned here and whilst you may not consider it an appropriate grandmother-granddaughter chat I'm sure the 14 year old is already well aware of these things. I don't think anything terrible has happened really.

I went on my first hen night aged 15. No naked waiters though

I have a 15 year old and this is like conversations between my mum and her. My daughter is quite mature and even I forget her age at times.

Jesus, scraping the barrel to find outrage now.

Oh sorry OP. just realised you called your mother 'mom' so, assuming your American or Canadian and buy into shite like Baby Showers etc, then of course YANB at all U.

I am sure she just thought eeewww. Teenagers don't tend to like thinking of their older relatives being into sex.
But if you seriously think this is inappropriate conversation, I would be worried that you are not talking to her about the very real issues teenagers face these days around things far more serious than this.

I'm assuming your niece knows what alcohol is, and that we aren't born fully clothed?

She's 14, not 4.

If she was four, I'd agree with you. But at fourteen, I think she's old enough to know that people get drunk.

This exactly why I want to be a Grandma no hope of it happening soon

Im with you op. While it's very likely your niece will have heard of things like this before, I think there a certain conversations you have with your friends and certain conversations you have with your grandmother/granddaughter and they don't mix.

Oh sorry OP. just realised you called your mother 'mom' so, assuming your American or Canadian and buy into shite like Baby Showers etc, then of course YANB at all U.

Or.....from the Midlands, where loads of people say Mom.

I'm with you OP. It's not a good example to be setting for a teen who is about to start their relationship with alcohol.

I am possibly the most po faced person ever (in face ex-BIL actually called me 'lemon sucker' as a result) but even I have had similar conversations with my own children (13,15,17). We also watch the 'bachelorette' together. I see this as a public service as I can frequently be outraged about the entire idea of going on the telly and snogging mucho men and the unwise nature of entering a reality competition to find a husband. (Plus they are all awful, and I can give them terrible nicknames like 'creepy penis guy' - who sadly has been voted out now)

I'm middle class naice. I'm not a natural bachelorette watcher. But there is a time when it becomes necessary to address the topic of sex, with one's offspring. (Note careful comma placement - no grandma eating here)

I'm trying really hard to be outraged by squiffy women and a naked waiter and I'm failing miserably. Meh.

And then later on, they too get to decide how to address naked men and booze with their own offspring. Or nieces. Or grand daughters.

Oh, oh, oh, but on the Magaluf front? Definitely BU.