AIBU to say this is completely unacceptable conversation

[queenbeeee]

So, I overheard my mom talking to my neice(14) today. My mother (57) has a very busy social life. She goes on holidays to magaluf with a group of friends. They usually have a theme and dress up as pirates,police officer etc. Today I heard mom telling my niece (her granddaughter), about a hen night she went on to the night before. I heard her telling my niece how there had been a naked waiter at the party. She was laughing and joking as if she had just told an adult. She also mentioned how everyone was drunk. AIBU to tell her this is completely an unacceptable conversation to have with your granddaughter. Tia

Sounds like my aunt.
We were very close at that age.(still are).
Guess who i went to when i had problems?
Bad role model? She's 14, not 4.

They hear much, much worse at school...
I want to be this granny... what fun to show your grandkids that just because you're "old" doesn't mean you're dull. I'm sure many of us will have lots of fun stories to share.

Besides what's wrong with being drunk and looking at naked waiters

57 year old going to Magaluf every year! Ffs it's a teenager's resort...and a cheap tacky one at that...

Well how fucking dare she... doesn't she know as a grandmother she should be sat at home sucking on a Murray Mint, wearing clothes from Littlewoods and smelling of piss? She also has no right going to shagaluf, once your kids have spawned, it should be Eastbourne on a Wallace Arnold coach.

Op you kid's mum has told your 14 old there was a naked waiter at a hen party, presumably with cock and balls covered by an apron.

If she'd just told your 4 year old she'd put liquid LSD in her eyes and pleasured said naked waiter with a strap on, I might have had a bit more sympathy.

Hate to break it to you but at 14 it's likely your DN has tried alcohol. She's undoubtedly seen photos or tv footage of a half dressed man. You sound very uptight

Oh stop it, OP, your mum sounds like a lot of fun and she's clearly got far more relatability to most teens than you do! The only question I have was how did she manage to raise a mealy-mouthed pearl-clutter like you?

*Pearl-clutcher

I'm with the OP. Regardless of what the GD has been exposed to, I don't think the Grandmother is displaying good boundaries. My DD isn't that much younger, and I would be pissed off at any older relative thinking that was OK.

Maybe you should stop listening in to other people's conversations? And you could also take the stick out of your arse when you get a moment.

My children are 23,21,20 and 13. They'd laugh in front of gp, but find it all pretty inappropriate (to tell) and a bit common/embarrassing. They wouldn't be influenced in the slightest, just have less respect for gp.

She'll have seen a naked person before online ... I had been drunk at 14 .... she's not 6 , her friends probably say far worse things at school

A naked waiter and people drunk! Please get a life!!

Your neice is 14! FGS! She knows about nakedness, and drunkenness and a whole lot of other -nesses.

Why are you even involved? She's not your dd. If you honestly think this conversation is inappropriate have a word with her mum/dad and let them deal with it. If they think you're bonkers, then back off. Back off anyway.

I am guessing your niece was mortified at the idea of her grandma being drunk in the presence of a naked waiter. I am guessing she was watching an internet band music vid in her head!

Yes

Oh sorry OP. just realised you called your mother 'mom' so, assuming your American or Canadian and buy into shite like Baby Showers etc, then of course YANB at all U.

I'm not sure too many North Americans go to Magaluf every year.
I know quite a few Brits who write Mom instead of Mum.

14 years? Unless she spent the past 10 years in a cloister, she is well aware of nudity etc. But don't let it stop you from being artificially enraged.

I'd have the same conversation with the 11 yo...failing to see the issue?

Unless of course you'd prefer your 14yo niece to think that all of her family are too uptight to ever talk to about anything 'real' going on in her life. A Grandma who talks about naked waiters & people being a bit drunk is far more approachable than one who tuts at anyone so much as looking at the sherry bottle and who thinks a man withnhis shirt off is scandalous.

Google 'average age to lose virginity'

Naked butlers and a bit of booze is the least of the worries - I'd be glad your Niece has someone whom she can speak openly with about that kind of stuff.......

If someone was saying that to my 14yo dc, you would see them cringing that REAL people could do that, esp someone close like their gran. They are still very uneasy about the idea of sex, nudity etc... despite my numerous attempts to make it a normal thing .

Which means that, regardless of whether she is a 'fun' granny, she might also well have made her niece uncomfortable.

My children are 23,21,20 and 13. They'd laugh in front of gp, but find it all pretty inappropriate (to tell) and a bit common/embarrassing. They wouldn't be influenced in the slightest, just have less respect for gp.

They sound nice

My sister in law is like this with my dc and I think it's fabulous. I love her to bits for the way she is with them as it shows them how normal all these facets of life are and they are likely to go her if they feel that couldn't talk to us about something.

There are times when I cringe at things she says to them but mainly because I wouldn't say them as a responsible parent!

Your mother sounds hilarious!

You seriously think your 14 year old daughter doesn't know about hen parties and that, shock horror, people get drunk?

Don't be so naive. 14 year olds know a lot more than you would think