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Original poster

To leave my one day a week job?

90 replies

blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 11:44

I know I'm being really pathetic but I hate it so much I start dreading it on Wednesday. I work Saturdays I generally do about 14 hours and it kills me, I'm always exhausted on Sunday and I feel like our chance to do something with DC is compromised as a result.

For full disclosure it's only a minimum wage type thing, it's something which always needs staff. So I don't need it for a career or anything.

But the money is useful, it pays weekly and is about £100. So that kind of covered stuff I might need in the week without me always having to ask DH. But I could live without it. So I'm wondering is it honestly worth it? Everyone says it isn't but I'm worried that if I end up broke I'll be even more depressed!

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Namechangernancy · 25/03/2017 11:45

Can't you change it to 14hrs over 2 days ? 14hrs is a lot for one day you must spend the rest of the week recovering from it

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 25/03/2017 11:48

Can you not do stuff with the DC on days other than a Sunday? Mid-week? School holidays?

SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter · 25/03/2017 11:51

How do you feel about not working and relying completely on your dh? How does he fee?

For 1 day a week, unless you are being bullied within the work place I think I would continue tbh

Can't you do things with your dc, evenings? School holidays? Surely you can still do something on Sunday even if it's a short bike ride or baking with them

kerryob · 25/03/2017 11:52

Cut it down to 8 hours so you're not wiped out. If you still feel the same after that then quit

Babyroobs · 25/03/2017 11:54

If you hate it that much then look for another job. The problem is that I'm guessing you would have to pay childcare if you worked a week day so it wouldn't be worth it.
I've spent 17 years working weekends in a job I hate ( sometimes 12 hour day or night shifts) to avoid childcare costs and provide much needed family income, but then we absolutely needed the money to survive. It does severely impact on family life. I have to work a 12 hour nightshift tonight which will wipe out mothers day for me tomorrow but I don't have a choice really. You can't have everything, you either sacrifice family time to have money for treats etc or you work. I know so many mums in the same situation working around their partners doing nights/ weekends etc. One day a week is nothing really although I appreciate 14 hours is a long time. Like pp says could you split it into shorter shifts or look for something with shorter hours?

ZilphasHatpin · 25/03/2017 11:55

Look for something else.

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 11:56

I can't really work it down any - I did ask about this. Thing is the way it would be split would mean the day would still be useless if you follow me.

I can't work during the week as there's no one to look after DC. And yes I can do things with DC in the week but DH isn't there then. DH would rather me quit i think.

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Pinkheart5915 · 25/03/2017 12:00

Are you happy to rely on your dh for all money? Would you want no income of your own?

Can you stay in this job and try and find another weekend job? To avoid a gap on your cv

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:03

I'm not bothered about the CV gap really, like I say it's only a minimum wage type thing not a career :) Obviously I want an income of my own but I'm so miserable on Saturdays and on the build up that I just don't see it as worth it.

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ZilphasHatpin · 25/03/2017 12:12

What age are the children?

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:13

3 and 1

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ImperialBlether · 25/03/2017 12:14

If you can afford to leave and if your husband's happy for you to leave, then I would leave in a heartbeat.

ZilphasHatpin · 25/03/2017 12:21

Is the 3yo entitled to free nursery place? Fwiw your job isn't right for you but I'm always hesitant to advise women to be solely dependant on their husbands/partners. Is there anything (there always is Wink) something you could do from home?

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:26

She's not entitled yet. But anyway I wouldn't earn enough to cover childcare for the 1 year old. No I don't think there is anything I could do from home really.

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user1476961324 · 25/03/2017 12:27

You should probably think yourself lucky that you only need to work one day a week, have no childcare to pay, and that your husband earns enough for you to do that.

Plenty of women work 5 or 6 days a week, hate their job, spend most of that income on childcare, and time with their children is compromised as a result.

If you can afford to quit, then just quit. How old are the kids? Could you do a couple of hours in the day while they are at school instead?

user1476961324 · 25/03/2017 12:28

Sorry - miss that you said the ages!

You spend the other 6 days a week with them - if they were at school I might understand not being out all day Saturday.

ZilphasHatpin · 25/03/2017 12:29

Well there are loads of things you could do but that's different than wanting to. Which is fine, but again, I think everyone should have some way of generating income for themselves. But is your family and if your happy with your situation and DH is happy then it's nobodies business. I certainly wouldn't be slogging my guts out on a 14 hour shift in a job I hated.

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:29

Yeah, I do user, I really do.

But see it from my pov, I'm asking about me, if someoe said to me are you grateful then i am yes. The children are not at school yet.

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isupposeitsverynice · 25/03/2017 12:29

with kids of that age and money not a problem I'd jack it in tbh. 14 hours is a long day I'm not surprised it makes you miserable. I did 10-4 in a supermarket on a Sunday for a bit and even that felt like it ruined my whole weekends. I was so glad to give it up.

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:30

User I know but dh isn't there then is the thing. It leaves one day a week for the four of us together. Ive not a clue what I would do from home.

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Asmoto · 25/03/2017 12:31

I would keep the job, but look around for a different one that you don't dread. Without wishing to sound depressing, it's probably a good idea to have something to fall back on in case your circumstances change - eg. if your husband loses his job, has a long-term illness etc.

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:45

I know what you mean but I could go back to this job if i needed to, they always need staff

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Asmoto · 25/03/2017 12:50

Yes, I was thinking more that if you suddenly had to look for something with more hours and a higher salary, it would be easier if you hadn't been completely out of the workplace for possibly several years. Are there no other Saturday jobs you could do that would be more enjoyable?

FumBluff1 · 25/03/2017 12:53

I feel for you. I once had a job, 1 day a week and I hated it. Stuck it out for 18 months before I gave in.

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blossominthecity · 25/03/2017 12:55

No, I don't think there are really. I wouldn't ever be able to get something with a higher salary but there's always tonnes of hours here.

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