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OH fucked off just before dinner was ready

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Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:24

He just disappeared without saying where he was going or anything and his phone was off. Me and DD were really worried, DD was scared that something had happened to him. We ate dinner just the two of us while I tried to get in contact with his friends, eventually got one to go and look for him. He found him at the house of a complete deadbeat, who he doesn't like so I have no idea why he was there.

He's on his way home and I am sure I am not being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming. He has barely been around all day, on Christmas fucking Day, and then does this right at dinner time, when I've spent days preparing this meal. I don't know what to say to him when he gets here, don't have the words for how upset I am.

OP posts:
SecretTryer · 25/12/2016 20:25

Buying drugs?

HermioneJeanGranger · 25/12/2016 20:25

Drugs?

Original poster
Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:26

I don't think so but now I'm not sure what to think.

OP posts:
CalmItKermitt · 25/12/2016 20:26

LTB

AnyFucker · 25/12/2016 20:26

You don't know what to say to him ? Confused

pipsqueak25 · 25/12/2016 20:27

not sure i'd want to speak to him tbh, but he does owe you an apology all the same, does he often walk out like this ?

Kalopsia77 · 25/12/2016 20:29

I would know what to say to him. It would start with "what the fuck?!"

Original poster
Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:30

He was saying on his friends phone how sorry he is but didn't seem to understand what the issue was. I'm thinking now that he sounded a bit like he'd taken too much of his adhd meds. Oh fuck, this is such LTB. territory but I don't want to leave him because he's not usually like this but has been before so this is not a good sign.

OP posts:
ConvincingLiar · 25/12/2016 20:31

You might not want to LTB but do you want to be treated like shit?

DoosyFartlek · 25/12/2016 20:32

Drugs

Original poster
Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:32

No he doesn't usually do this pipsqueak but about a year ago after being newly diagnosed with adhd he took too much of his medicine and behaved oddly like this.

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pipsqueak25 · 25/12/2016 20:32

i wouldn't waste anymore time with this guy tbh.

IhatchedaSnorlax · 25/12/2016 20:33

That's shit Nats, no advice as I'd have no clue what I'd do in your position other then ask him WTF was going on. Sorry!

Original poster
Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:33

Definitely don't want to be treated like shit. I hear the car now, he's back.

OP posts:
Gallavich · 25/12/2016 20:34

Well he's on something
But whether he was high before he did such a weird thing or he did the weird thing to get high is the question
It's vile behaviour. Utterly selfish.

DoosyFartlek · 25/12/2016 20:35

Prostitute

hibouhibou · 25/12/2016 20:37

Prostitute

OPs other half was at a guys house. Why would you suggest this

Kalopsia77 · 25/12/2016 20:38

Hope it goes ok, what an awful day for you and your daughter

PaperdollCartoon · 25/12/2016 20:39

I've previously been on prescription psychotropics and yes you can take too much by accident and act unusually.

But he took himself voluntarily to the house of someone who by the sound of it isn't a usual friend, odd behaviour indeed. Totally not acceptable any day, let alone Christmas.

If you possibly can I'd try to avoid confronting him until tomorrow in case he has taken too many drugs, he may not be in himself enough to properly engage with you. But if he can't give any reasonable explanation tomorrow (indeed it doesn't sound like there could be one) I would seriously consider whether this is someone you can trust and rely on.

Good luck Flowers

sooperdooper · 25/12/2016 20:42

Prick, I'd just tell him to fuck off to wherever he'd spent the rest of his Christmas Day and not bother me anymore

PeteSwotatoes · 25/12/2016 20:43

Sounds like cocaine.

Starlight2345 · 25/12/2016 20:47

my initial thought drugs...My ex did this the one and only year he spent with our DS...

You need to demand an explanation then deal with what he says..

MoodyBox · 25/12/2016 20:50

That is seriously odd behaviour. If it were my dp I'm not sure I'd even be pissed off as such, more just worried about his state of mind.

Does he, to your knowledge, use any drugs other than his meds?

Is this 'deadbeat' a drug user/dealer?

gunting · 25/12/2016 20:51

This whole situation just seems totally bizarre. Hope you get to the bottom of it..

pregnantat50 · 25/12/2016 20:55

how did the person looking for him, know to check the 'deadbeats' house?

Or did he call your DH, if so I think the drug scenario sounds likely well the most likely

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