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OH fucked off just before dinner was ready

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Natsku · 25/12/2016 20:24

He just disappeared without saying where he was going or anything and his phone was off. Me and DD were really worried, DD was scared that something had happened to him. We ate dinner just the two of us while I tried to get in contact with his friends, eventually got one to go and look for him. He found him at the house of a complete deadbeat, who he doesn't like so I have no idea why he was there.

He's on his way home and I am sure I am not being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming. He has barely been around all day, on Christmas fucking Day, and then does this right at dinner time, when I've spent days preparing this meal. I don't know what to say to him when he gets here, don't have the words for how upset I am.

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Natsku · 26/12/2016 13:45

I'm trying to anyway.

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Vapours · 28/12/2016 22:41

How's it going, op?

Natsku · 29/12/2016 11:03

Its going well, he's back to exercising and seems 'normal' again. He seems to be really keen on kicking this and we've had a few more serious conversations about the effect on DD of living with an addict, the impact on me, and how I'm not going to stick around if he fucks up again.

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EveOnline2016 · 29/12/2016 11:43

The question is do you want to support your partner for the rest of your life.

The ADHD is never going to go away and medication does after a while become inactive due to the body getting used to it.

Natsku · 29/12/2016 15:34

He doesn't want to use the medication any more, says it didn't help much anyway, except for masking some depression but he's made an appointment with the psychiatrist to discuss that.

I do want to support him, he's supported me through so much shit. I would also hate to break up the family - DD really needs this stability right now.

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EveOnline2016 · 29/12/2016 15:40

I am glad you are going to work through this together.

Can I suggest support groups. There are loads online and you will need it.

My son is autistic and very rarely post on MN on that aspect because I go to another site with like minded parents.

Natsku · 29/12/2016 15:49

Thanks, I shall have a look for those.

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