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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To spend my money this way?

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facepalming · 31/07/2016 08:14

I'm about to move house, moving from a not very nice part of London back to the country town I grew up.

We are fortunate that we made enough on our little house here to afford a nice house and enough to cover the moving expenses.

My DC's are 2 and 6 months so I was really worried about moving as DH and I don't get any help.

So to make life easier I've booked the movers to pack us and i have cleaners booked to deep clean both houses.

We are staying in a hotel the night we move so that the cleaners can get into the new house easily and then our belongings are coming the next day.

My mum thinks this is outrageous and suggested that now I'm moving to a nice house I think I'm too good to do these jobs myself.

I think that's a bit unfair - there will be still be lots of work for us to do. aibu to spend our profits to make life a bit easier for the move?

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heavenlypink · 31/07/2016 08:16

Your money Your choice.

And with two small DC if I was moving and had the money for this option I would do it too.

JoandMax · 31/07/2016 08:17

Goodness no, trying to clean and pack with 2 little kids would be hard work!!! If you've got the money definitely do it!

Last time we moved (international) the shippers pack absolutely everything including clothes - we just left the house with a suitcase and they did the rest, was amazing!

Savagebeauty · 31/07/2016 08:17

I think you're being really sensible!!!
I moved recently and packed myself, cleaned the five bed house myself and knackered myself in the process.
Ignore your mum and enjoy the hotel!!

cheminotte · 31/07/2016 08:17

Of course yanbu! You have two very young dc, if you can afford it, why wouldn't you.

OreosAreTasty · 31/07/2016 08:17

Yanbu

How could it be a bad thing that you're contributing to employment and businesses and keeping yourself stress free too?

PervyMuskrat · 31/07/2016 08:18

That sounds like a great idea to me!

Doublejeopardy · 31/07/2016 08:18

You are sensible and practical. I had packers when we moved best £700 I spent on the move we got moved in quicker and unpacked in no time.

Don't worry about your mum just do what is best for your family. Have fun in your new home.

OhTheRoses · 31/07/2016 08:18

Your mum is bang out of order. What you are doing I extremely sensible. It's exactly what I have done.

When was the last time your mum moved and did she do it with infants.

Hotel sounds perfect - a good back up if the money doesn't come through and means you will move into a clean house relatively rested.

Amelie10 · 31/07/2016 08:19

Yanbu , I've done something very similar when we moved. Why not make life easier if you can? Some people just like to behave like martyrs about everything. Ignore her, and happy moving.

Boysnme · 31/07/2016 08:19

I think that seems perfectly reasonable and something I would do if we were moving!

Hassled · 31/07/2016 08:21

That sounds like a fantastic idea - there's nothing worse than moving into a new house and having to spend the first couple of days cleaning the place (bitter experience). Ignore your mum - she's worried you've been contaminated by those modern London ways :o.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 31/07/2016 08:22

Think you're being incredibly sensible and kind to yourself. I just about killed myself moving house with me and a 3 yo DD. I wish I'd been sensible and hired cleaners and a decorator!

Everyone is entitled to their opinion but you just have to let some of them wash over you.

cuntspud · 31/07/2016 08:22

That sounds a great idea.
If you've got the money to do it, then why not. No need to be martyr, take the easy option!
You could ask your mum to help if she thinks it such a bad idea

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facepalming · 31/07/2016 08:22

Oh thank you all so so much! I was really thinking I had got something wrong! I just want to keep it as stress free as I can and I was really excited until my mum gave me a hard time!

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SteviebunsBottrittrundle · 31/07/2016 08:22

Yanbu. Agree with pps that you're being very sensible. Maybe your mum is a bit intimidated by your new house? Are you moving nearer to her? My MIL can be a little bit like this occasionally, though she is normally lovely.

wobblywonderwoman · 31/07/2016 08:22

You are totally right ! Enjoy your new home and let it be a lesson not to tell her too much in the future. It is very bitter of her.

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facepalming · 31/07/2016 08:23

great idea cuntspud! I'll hand her a Jay cloth haha

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99littleducks · 31/07/2016 08:23

Well if you can afford it then there is no problem. I'm sure you have worked out your costs so you know what you are doing.
I have had movers in once and done it myself threes times... The movers were a God send... covered by DH work otherwise it would be a ridiculous amount for us to spend

Plus you have got small children so it will be a nightmare anyway. Also yours is an International move so probably necessary due to the long distance.

YANBU

AuldYow · 31/07/2016 08:23

Seems like a completely sensible plan to me.

Your Mum is being ridiculous, ignore her - I get it all the time, well we managed and we did it in a hurricane, tsunami, on the back of a moped and any other bonkers scenario! Some people are incapable of saying anything positive.

Good luck with the move, enjoy your new home and learn to ignore negativity.

TellAStory · 31/07/2016 08:23

Very sensible if you can afford it!
Moving is incredibly stressful and expensive I'm sure the extra spent on cleaning and packing is only a small percentage of the overall costs, money well spent in my opinion. Don't let her try to make you feel guilty!

OneInEight · 31/07/2016 08:24

Will make the whole moving process much less stressful so well worth the money in my opinion. Unfortunately dh is of you dm's frame of mind so we always end of doing it the hard way,

thingamijig1 · 31/07/2016 08:24

Yanbu at all! Doing all that with 2 small dc would be very difficult. If you have the money then why not make life easier for yourself???

Smurfnoff · 31/07/2016 08:25

The key phrase is 'my money'. You're not asking your mum to pay for this or even to lend you the money, so here opinion isn't relevant.

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facepalming · 31/07/2016 08:26

my mum lives not far from the new house and it's a bit bigger than theirs but nothing extravagant - and of course we can only afford it because of the money we made on our London house (which is in a bit of a shit hole tbh!)

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facepalming · 31/07/2016 08:28

thanks all!! I appreciate the reassurance and it's letting me feel excited again about our move :)

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