After school stand selling sweets

[Dancergirl]

At dd's primary school every other week there is a stand in the playground after school manned by children selling sweets. The idea is the children organise it themselves and the money goes to charity.

I am fed up with the arguments with dd. She obviously wants sweets like everybody else. Firstly I rarely have any money as I leave my handbag in the car. And secondly I don't want her having sweets so often. She has sweets once a week after dinner as a treat plus any extras she gets at parties etc. I think that's enough. But it's difficult when all the other children are buying them.

I am a bit annoyed with the school for endorsing this in the first place. I thought schools were very hot on healthy eating these days....? Or is it allowed because it's technically after school?

Sorry but I don't think that everyone else should lose out to fit in with your sweets policy - you have no more right to say when sweets should be available to other children than other parents to say when yours can.
If you aren't carrying money then it's not an issue. At my sons Beavers there is a sweet stall at the end to raise funds, if I haven't brought my purse he doesn't get any. Not a problem

Your issue isn't with the sweets your issue is with your daughter arguing.

I don't have a problem saying no to her, I'm just surprised the school allow it with being so hot on healthy eating.

How old is she?

She's 9

You said you were fed up with the arguments?

It's after school hours.

Have you asked anyone at school how it fits in with their healthy eating policy? If not yabu for moaning but not being willing to say anything to anyone who could change it!

I am fed up with the arguments....I still say no though! The two aren't mutually exclusive.

Oh boo! Don't be miserable, why should he school stop selling sweets to other kids because your DD makes it difficult for you.

I know my daughter would have sulked if the other children were allowed (still would have been No! though).

I'm surprised the school are allowing sweets to be sold though, so I do agree with you.

When you say it's every other week, do you mean for one day or the whole week?

Could you buy her once-a-week sweets at school/change the day she has them? Give her the choice, perhaps.

It's once every two weeks? Don't see the problem. Why not give her the option of having the sweets that day instead of the weekly treat at home?

And I know that limiting sweets is the best option for kids but everything should be in moderation. I have a close friend who wasn't allowed sweets as a child and he has struggled with binge eating and obesity his whole adult life. The minute we got to uni and he had his own buying power he used to go mad eating several choc bars in one sitting etc as he had never learnt to moderate his intake.

I agree with you. It's not promoting healthy eating.

What astonishes me is the number of people who avoid giving their babies anything that contains refined sugar, but who are entirely comfortable dishing out sweets left right and centre to older children. No wonder we have an obesity problem.

It seems to be for 3 days after school in one week. And then a couple of weeks later the same again with different children.

cakes that is quite extreme. I am not suggesting NO sweets at all and my dc get plenty of treats.

Why dont you buy her the weekly sweets on a day they are there seems logical to me yoyr Dd arguing with you isnt the schools fault selling sweets is going to raise more money than apples

Oh in that case, I'd do what PPs have suggested and tell her she can have her once a week sweets from the stand.

There was always an ice cream van outside my DCs school every single day.

I used to buy them an ice cream on a Friday, so they didn't bother asking on other days.

Or give her 50p to buy her own sweets and if she chooses to get them from the stall then fine and if she chooses to get them at the shops then fine. That way it's up to her. Give her a little bit of power over it.

It's too much need Every week? They expected parents to bake every week??

Bake sales, sweet stalls etc are nice for an occasional treat and fun for children. But it's the frequency I have an issue with.

Have I read it correctly it's once a fortnight?

And you have a sweet policy if once a week?

Why not just on the week the school have sweets let her have them instead?

She just needs to accept the no. if you never say yes, she will eventually give up. She has enough sweets at other times. the school should be supporting healthy eating but that's not your issue really

So its every other week for 3 days running surely you can put 20p in your pocket this is turning into a battle of wills that you both want to win.