After school stand selling sweets

[Dancergirl]

At dd's primary school every other week there is a stand in the playground after school manned by children selling sweets. The idea is the children organise it themselves and the money goes to charity.

I am fed up with the arguments with dd. She obviously wants sweets like everybody else. Firstly I rarely have any money as I leave my handbag in the car. And secondly I don't want her having sweets so often. She has sweets once a week after dinner as a treat plus any extras she gets at parties etc. I think that's enough. But it's difficult when all the other children are buying them.

I am a bit annoyed with the school for endorsing this in the first place. I thought schools were very hot on healthy eating these days....? Or is it allowed because it's technically after school?

No I don't want to 'win' mrsjayy I just care about her teeth!

Yes I suppose I could allow her weekly sweets from the stall, that might be an idea.

Don't see a problem with it. It's a great enterprising idea.

I don't think a 10p bag of Haribo once a fortnight is going to do much harm.
Or, as suggested, change the after dinner treat to an after school treat. Then it's a simple case of 'no, you had your sweets earlier, remember'.

The way schools are these days, I wouldn't be surprised if the money wentry towards buying resources/funding trips.
Where I work, this year, we pretty much avoided teacher redundancies by selling homemade cakes and having non-uniform days. Schools are skint.

Lots of charity raising seems to include cakes and sweets because they know people are greedy sods

Seriously though, I think they could find other ways to raise money.
Whether the other kids get sweets should not bother you though - Apply your own rules for your own child.

Can't believe the answers here! I'd be raging if our local school sold sweets for charity...
A school should be a place promoting healthy eating not selling sweets outside the front door.

Raging?

I wasn't having a dig at you sorry if i came over rude, all i meant is you and her are locked in a toing and froing of i want /no if you say yes I bet she wont argue with you and she gets her weekly sweets and you dont get earache

They used to do a similar thing in my boys primary but they did it at break and lunchtimes and they sold bottled flavoured water, raisin boxes, apples and bananas, baked crisps and other "sort off" healthy stuff. I think they'd make money doing that during school hours but wouldn't if it was after school as the lure of the shops on the way home is too much.

I actually have less issue with cake/bake sale as at least there is some goodness is it e.g. milk/eggs etc rather than just pure sugar but that's maybe just me. My kids were never fussed for sweets really but would murder for crisps so maybe the whole sweet thing never really impacted me.

I agree with PPs who suggested giving her an amount of money that would enable her to buy a similar amount of sweets to what she usually has and let her spend it how she wishes. Once it's gone it's gone.

We need to teach children to self regulate or when they have access to independent funds they wont be able to control themselves.

I actually have less issue with cake/bake sale as at least there is some goodness is it e.g. milk/eggs etc rather than just pure sugar but that's maybe just me

No I agree with you on that.

Raging ?isnt raging a bit OTT lots of places sell charity bag sweets its not something to be raging about

Also, learning self restraint is part of growing up.

How many times do you read MNetters saying, "I can't keep sweets and biscuits in the house, because I'll eat them all"? Or "It's only November and I've eaten and replaced a whole tin of Quality Street twice"?

Removing temptation is never as helpful as learning how to deal with it.

Do you know much about healthy eating dairy? It includes sweets and treats

Not really,... It is said that the odd treat is ok or in moderation but it is not 'part of' healthy eating.

if its every other week; DD can have them instead of her ration of once a week after dinner or whatever you choose.

other parents are more relaxed and couldn't care less but you can still let her have them and fit in with your view of healthy eating.

Healthy eating includes a tiny amount of sweets and treats.
I'm not suggesting the school sell quinoa and falafel outside the door with wheat germ smoothies.
But come on, there's an obesity epidemic and the place where the children see and learn good practices ...i.e. school is advocating selling sweets.
I would be raging yes. It's enough to be doing, leaving work, picking up kids etc without having to deal with.... Bags of fecking sweets before you've cooked the dinner.

Odds are the sweet stand choice is pretty limited.
I'd treat it as teaching her about budgeting , give her a weekly sweet allowance, once she works out her allowance goes further in the supermarket than the sweet stand she'll make the decision herself.

Can't believe the answers here! I'd be raging if our local school sold sweets for charity...
A school should be a place promoting healthy eating not selling sweets outside the front door.

See this is kind of what I mean.

Eating sweets now and then as part of an otherwise healthy diet, should really not be anything to 'rage' about.

It makes absolutely no sense and is probably quite confusing for children, who are learning about moderation (or should be, if their parents let them).

I do think teaching self regulation is important ime stops them being greedy

Restraint* not regulation