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AIBU about DD at baby ballet?

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 13:49

DD goes to baby ballet. She concentrates for the first part of the session but then loses focus, wanders off and just dances (after a fashion) by herself. She's not in anyone's way and she's happy (likes the mirrors.)

One of the mums commented to me in quite a pointed manner last week and I'm a bit Hmm about going back now!

AIBU to think she's fine?

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Floggingmolly · 03/06/2016 13:52

How old is she? If she's unable to focus she's evidently too young.

originalmavis · 03/06/2016 13:53

Might be a waste of money at the moment.

Fraggled · 03/06/2016 13:54

My DD screamed her head off throughout the 3 sessions we went to. I gave up! She was only just 2 but all the other little darlings seemed so well-behaved in comparison!! The mums looked at us in horror! So no real advice but it doesn't sound like your DD is causing problems. If she's happy if keep taking her.

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 03/06/2016 13:55

How old is your DD and how old is the other child? She might be too young for it. I think concentration span of a baby is only 20 minutes or something like that. Perhaps save the money for when she's older and has a list of clubs she's interested in?

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 13:56

She's 2 :) She can focus, just not for the full session and it's then she goes wandering. If I returned her she'd tantrum, but as it is she just shuffles around in her own little world!

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Haggisfish · 03/06/2016 13:58

Yes, because she's two! Personally I wouldn't bother.

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 13:59

I do agree with you, but DH is very keen for her to attend and she does seem to enjoy it and so I was happy with it, until it seemed she might be annoying other mums Blush

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branofthemist · 03/06/2016 14:01

I think the issue can be, that once some kids start to want to wander off to or distract the others.

What was the comment?

snowgirl1 · 03/06/2016 14:01

Why don't you ask the teacher whether her wandering off is distracting the class?

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:02

That "she doesn't do as she's told" Hmm

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branofthemist · 03/06/2016 14:03

Fwiw, my ds was the same it his hobby. I make him sit down if he isn't joining in as its distracted for the other kids. He is older but still find concentration hard for long periods.

It's a case of join in or sit down.

That's why I think these tot classes can be hard as a two year old amy not grasp that.

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:03

The teacher is very perky and happy and thinks DD is simply marvellous but she thinks all the children are! Grin

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Cherylene · 03/06/2016 14:04

Is there a creative dance type class you could take her to instead?

Here, there are classes for 1-3 year olds that involve exploring movement and sounds and using instruments as well.

branofthemist · 03/06/2016 14:05

may not grasp that...not Amy not grasp that. Blush

Don't know who amy is Grin

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:06

It's not my DD! Grin

Cheryl not that I'm aware of, but I may look into that, thanks. She does seem to enjoy the sessions, though. I just didn't know if it was an unusually intense 'dance mom' or if DD is actually really an issue and the others were too polite to say anything. She is the only one who wanders, though.

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LIZS · 03/06/2016 14:09

I took dd out if preschool ballet age 2/3. She took it up again 2 years later and is still dancing at almost 15. Find something which demands a shorter attention span.

ilovesooty · 03/06/2016 14:10

Why is your husband keen for her to attend?

I did exactly the same in a similar class at that age

I believe my parents persevered for a year.

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:11

As I've said, my husband is very keen for her to take part - it's not as simple as just 'find something with a shorter attention span' and besides, she does enjoy it!

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Eminado · 03/06/2016 14:12

I have just cancelled my Babyballet place. My DD loves music and dancing but was so unengaged and unfocused at Babyballet. She did much better at a gymnastics trial class. I am gutted though; maybe will try again in a few years.

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:12

I think he thinks it's cute, ILS, and will teach her discipline and teamwork and so on; all positives I know, but I am inclined to agree she's on the young side just now. However, since she does enjoy it and it gives me a bit of peace I thought 'no harm done' but just don't want the other parents to be rolling their eyes to high heaven!

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:13

I'm a bit scared of gymnastics. I went as a child and was terrified!

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branofthemist · 03/06/2016 14:14

Baby ballet will not teach her discipline or team work. Maybe when she is older and doing actual classes, but not at baby level.

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justnotaballetmum · 03/06/2016 14:15

Grin I know!

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Fraggled · 03/06/2016 14:15

If she enjoys it and the teacher isn't concerned just keep taking her.

SolomanDaisy · 03/06/2016 14:17

Were there two year olds concentrating all the way through? The one my DS went to every single child dipped in and out of joining in.

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