Annual zoo pass for DC, aibu?

[Fura]

Ex mil bought an annual zoo pass for each DC.

They would really like to go today so I have asked ex h for their passes but he is refusing as they were bought for him to use with DC by his mother.

I don't really want to pay again for them when they each have an annual pass in their name already, Aibu?

He is being petty!

They were bought for your children, surely

He is being selfish and not thinking of the dc.

Petty and childish. Tell him you'll go and send him the bill.

Tell them their dad will take them to the zoo (let them pester the bejesus out of him) and you do something else with them today.

It's not worth the petty point scoring.

What a prick he is, no wonder he's an ex!

Oh that's awful! Do you get on with your exMIL? Could you ask her to clarify the situation (gently) with him. Seems awful that the kids miss out - and I'm sure their gran would want them to have maximum use and fun out of her gift. Does sound unbelievably petty.

Hmm

I can see both sides here. If the kids go too much they might not want to go with their dad, which I think is fair enough as an intended use.

On the other hand, the kids want to go today, and it's their present.

I might, if I was feeling generous to my ex, suggest another, equally good outing to the kids.

X post with Hissy. I agree

....another thought - if the passes are in your DC's names, the zoo would have a record of this. Could you ring and say that the passes are with their dad but would they honour them if they could look you up on the system? We've done that before when we've forgotten cards etc and it's usually not a problem.

I like NataliaOsipova's suggestion. Definitely worth trying that!

What an arse. Depriving his kids because he can't go. Selfish.

Natalia's idea is good.
He is being a toerag but it's not worth getting riled about.
Could also offer to pay him half of the admission price for using them.
But he's still a toerag.

Sounds like a twattish thing to do. Does he do this kind of thing a lot? My dc are never allowed to bring home anything that has been given to them by their dad's family.

I third Natalia's suggestion. If it doesn't work then you may have to let this one go.

What a petty little prick.

Instead of telling them the passes are with the dad could you not say you've lost them?

They might replace them then

Thanks all.

Turned up and did Natalie's suggestion. They said they would need to give me duplicate cards at £2 each, fine.

They then looked on the system and there was a note to say not to allow it and they were only allowed into the zoo with him....

Luckily the woman was very understanding and let DC in anyway

how horrible to have a note on the system. Luckily the lady at the zoo had the sense to override this. Thank goodness he's an ex.

He had put that note in the system? He sounds awful. Glad you got it sorted in the end.

Jeezus no wonder he's an ex

Arsehole

My God he put a note in the system, I'm sat here laughing but seriously what a prick.

What a utter arse! That is so rude and unfair on the kids. I would have let you in just to spite your ex on your behalf! Glad the staff are not idiots!

Where are you OP?

Get annual passes or get your mum to get them annual passes to somewhere far far better and refuse to allow him to take the children there.

What an utter bastard.

The cards belong to the children and are in their names. These cards are probably non transferable but they werent being transferred, they were being used by the named children.

I dont think you can stipulate who gets to take the children in with their own cards.

You are very wise to have had the sense to make him your X. (sheesh!!!)

What an utter fuckwit.