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Annual zoo pass for DC, aibu?

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Fura · 09/04/2016 10:31

Ex mil bought an annual zoo pass for each DC.

They would really like to go today so I have asked ex h for their passes but he is refusing as they were bought for him to use with DC by his mother.

I don't really want to pay again for them when they each have an annual pass in their name already, Aibu?

OP posts:
katienana · 09/04/2016 12:30

What a fucking arsewipe. Depriving kids just to get one over on you.

ijustwannadance · 09/04/2016 12:31

What a twat.

SoThatHappened · 09/04/2016 12:32

I am assuming your DC are young OP.

In which case they may well tell their father they went with you, unless you really want to go down the dont tell your dad route.

I can imagine this bastard ex raising all kinds of hell with the zoo and demanding the duplicate cards be cancelled.

This isnt the end of it......

MsColouring · 09/04/2016 12:36

He can't raise 'all kinds of hell' with the zoo. He can try - but the OP had every right to ask and the zoo did the right thing for the children.

TBH - my ex has had annual passes to certain places and I just decided that I'd take my kids somewhere different instead and make it 'our' thing. But that's just the way I've learnt to deal with his twattishness.

OohMavis · 09/04/2016 12:37

This is seriously the pettiest thing I've ever heard. How fucking mean.

Do you have the duplicate cards now, or did she just let you in this one time?

Original poster
Fura · 09/04/2016 12:37

They didn't give me duplicates, just let them in, saved £6 too, bonus!

OP posts:
SoThatHappened · 09/04/2016 12:41

Awesome!

I'd find somewhere equally as cool to take them and make it your special thing.

grannytomine · 09/04/2016 12:42

He might think you paid for the children, he won't know the zoo let you in. What a mean, spiteful man he is. Your poor kids having him for a dad.

tobysmum77 · 09/04/2016 12:43

They then looked on the system and there was a note to say not to allow it and they were only allowed into the zoo with him....

Wtaf???? Shock. What a sad, pathetic, spiteful little man.

SauvignonBlanche · 09/04/2016 12:46

How spiteful!
Good old zoo employee. Grin

BubsAndMoo · 09/04/2016 12:46

I'd be pissed off at the zoo for allowing such a note on the file. They're enabling his controlling behaviour. Well, the lady on the gate today didn't, but whoever allowed him to place the note on the file was.

Hope you have a lovely day

TheoriginalLEM · 09/04/2016 12:47

See, whenever i have forgotten passes i just have to provide id or my post code and im allowed in... but maybe this isn;t a battle worth fighting, he is being a prize cunt yes. So find something else to do with the kids if you can.

TheoriginalLEM · 09/04/2016 12:49

oh, that'l to rtft what a spiteful,l small minded, little man

Pinkheart5915 · 09/04/2016 12:50

He's being petty.
The children want a nice day at the zoo with you and as the annual passes were a present to them they should be able to use them with whoever they want.

Rainbowlou1 · 09/04/2016 12:53

What a twat you are well shot!
That would make a fantastic review on trip advisor...Wink

Hissy · 09/04/2016 12:56

What an utter wanker!

I'm glad you went anyway, wonder if that note was a result of the mil or the wanker?

I'd ask mil. Unless she is a bigger wanker than him, in which case i would tell all and sundry. Show these Wankers up for what they are.

witsender · 09/04/2016 12:58

Was it the MIL who did it possibly?

Youarentkiddingme · 09/04/2016 13:01

Anyone wondering if the zoo employee also has a twatface XH somewhere?!

Now you need to train the kids to be all gushing about how the trip to zoo with mum was great as the how everyone had a good laugh at nanny trying to make sure only he could take them - everyone thought it hilarious she is getting so old know she thought she owned it. only half joking!

Sirzy · 09/04/2016 13:02

Youare, I thought exactly the same!

TotalConfucius · 09/04/2016 13:04

Have you any hideous wedding presents from his side of the family hanging around the house?
I'd love the opportunity to say "how did I afford the zoo after all? Oh I sold that heinous painting your Auntie Maud gave us for our wedding. You know the one YOU said was worth money - it was! I got 20 quid for it on a Facebook selling page! Sorted!"
What a dreadful little man and all to the detriment of his own children, as it usually is with this sort. Well rid!

Tanith · 09/04/2016 13:06

it's not the zoo's responsibility to mediate between two separated people and whoever allowed that note to go on file was out of line.

Nothing but contempt for the petty little individual that thought of putting it there in the first place Angry

bettyberry · 09/04/2016 13:12

Wow. Stipulating you can't take them. Was it him or the MIL? If the MIL purchased them then I guess she was the one who put the note.

I'm still shocked anyone would do that. It's controlling and laying down who can do what with the kids. If it was a family pass fair to say the OP wouldn't be on it but not individual ones.

OP doesn't need to worry. the EX wont have any proof how she got into the zoo. If he kicks up a fuss what can he do? She wasn't fraudulent.

Barmaid101 · 09/04/2016 13:17

I feel sorry for the kids! So unfair on them!

MsColouring · 09/04/2016 13:18

'it's not the zoo's responsibility to mediate between two separated people and whoever allowed that note to go on file was out of line.'

Absolutely true. It's a shame there isn't some kind of ongoing mediation system to help this kind of ongoing pettiness be prevented. Sad thing is, this kind of thing doesn't surprise me at all as it's completely the kind of thing my ex would do. When there is no-one to mediate you can find yourself unintentionally offloading to teachers, doctors, mutual friends, zookeepers in the hope that they will show sympathy and help the other person see things from your point of view.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 09/04/2016 13:30

What an utter utter cunt. I think you should show him and his mother this thread. It might make them realise how utterly unpleasant they are being. And I also think the zoo have no right putting such a note on the file so I would challenge that too

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