Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To still be really weirded out by this?

112 replies

Abbbinob · 23/03/2016 10:35

Came accross porn dp had been watching, was all teen porn which whilst creepy usually does just mean women in their 20s dressed a bit younger.but the one he had watched the most is this shy Angela girl and it's disgusting she looks very young and her adverts have like her lying in little bed with Winnie the pooh teddies,lollypops etc and dressed like an 8 year old. Apparently this isn't fucking gross because she apparently is 18and I'm overreacting Hmm I'm actually shocked this kind of stuff is allowed on mainstream sites how the fuck is this normal

OP posts:
DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 10:45

So he's saying he dings women dressed and behaving as 8yo girls attractive not that he finds 8yo girls attractive? That makes it OK then Confused

Honestly I wouldn't be able to even look at him and it would mean the end of the relationship for me. How do you feel about it? Do you live together? Children?

Birthgeek · 23/03/2016 10:45

I'd be saddened by it. I don't think it is normal. It doesn't sound like a 'barely legal' thing at all.

WorraLiberty · 23/03/2016 10:46

I've just Googled and yuk!

I know she's over 18 but she looks like a 14 year old.

So effectively he's wanking over the thought of a young teen being abused.

MyKingdomForBrie · 23/03/2016 10:46

Oh god that's... Oh god. How is that 'sexy' unless you find the idea of sex and children combined 'sexy'. Not sure I could deal with that OP.

icanteven · 23/03/2016 10:48

Is he the one defending it to you? What I mean is, did he click on it once out of curiosity (and presumably ran for the hills, one hopes) or did you challenge him and he defended himself? How could you possibly be overreacting to finding out that your partner is masturbating to even pretend child pornography?

PointlessUsername · 23/03/2016 10:48

I'd never be okay with that.

He would be booted out.

Birthgeek · 23/03/2016 10:48

He's actually getting off on the idea of child abuse. Of course it's not real and she's over 18 etc, but that's NOT the point. It's his appetite.

Gwenci · 23/03/2016 10:51

Oh god no, that would completely upset me too, YANBU in the slightest.

Ok, so yes, in actuality she's over 18 but...just...yuk! The whole point is that she's trying to come across as a young child and your DP is turned on by this and wanking over her. I'd be so upset if my DH was turned on by the idea of small girls surrounded by teddy bears. So sorry OP.

icanteven · 23/03/2016 10:52

Yikes. I thought maybe for a moment it was a busty 25 year old dressed a little girl in a sort of role play, but her thing is clearly that she looks really, really young. I would be very upset if my DH was masturbating to her images and defending it to me.

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 10:53

Icant the OP said the most watched one is that one so he can't even have the defence of clicking it in error disgusted face

Keeptrudging · 23/03/2016 10:53

No, not ok. I would be not only weirded out, but packing his bags. I couldn't have a relationship with someone who was attracted to this, yuck.

Original poster
Abbbinob · 23/03/2016 10:56

The first time he said he clicked on it by accident (watched 6 videos by "accident") that he agreed it was creepy, the second time was apparently because he was pissed off with me after an argument which adds a whole other creepy dimension in my opinion. This was all a while ago but I was pregnant and having an abortion because hyperemesis meant I couldn't took after out toddler properly so alot was going on so I got dropped with everything that was going on But it keeps creeping up in my mind

OP posts:
hiddenhome2 · 23/03/2016 10:56

Blimey, she doesn't look very shy to me Confused

You'll have to keep an eye out that he's not accessing nastier stuff on the deep web.

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 10:58

You had an argument so he watched a video of what looks like a young child doing/having stuff done to her (I'm not watching it so unsure which). Why does that make it OK! He's a disgusting creep and I wouldn't want him anywhere near me knowing that's what got him off.

Also he agreed it was creepy so now having watched it 'on purpose' he must agree he's creepy. Please leave him.

AnyFucker · 23/03/2016 10:59

Why are you with this sick individual ?

I wouldn't have him in my home.

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 10:59

I'd be keeping an eye out that he's not living near any schools or kids never mind accessing the dark Web.

CamembertQueen · 23/03/2016 11:01

That girl looks younger than 18. The whole set up is very child like for a reason. It is sick. If I found that I don't think I could stay. He is getting himself off to a very young, childlike looking woman..... Clearly it is his thing.

MattDillonsPants · 23/03/2016 11:04

Oh OP. I'm afraid I'd leave if I were you. I could not BEAR that. I'd also be looking on his deleted history to see if there's anything else.

Original poster
Abbbinob · 23/03/2016 11:04

Well at the time I was a bit stuck because I couldn't move without throwing up and I really needed help with our DS and then I went properly insane with some kind of ocd meltdown I haven't really been able to think about it all properly until now

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 23/03/2016 11:05

I'd be "keeping an eye on him" around his own child too

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 11:07

That's understandable and he's even more despicable for making that his priority over you at that time but now you can think about it please leave.

I agree with AnyFuckers last post too. You should screenshot everything and ensure he has nothing but supervised access.

Original poster
Abbbinob · 23/03/2016 11:10

ATM he's never alone with DS because either im home or DS is with me but if I left him wouldnt I have to give him contact?

OP posts:
DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 23/03/2016 11:13

Of you have evidence of his preference for children (photos or screenshots of the history and the video) you can fight for supervised access only. I'm not an expert so I don't know how likely it is you'd win but if I were you I'd do everything to try.

MattDillonsPants · 23/03/2016 11:14

Has he been abusive? Are you thinking of leaving?

Get that laptop and hand the bugger in to the police if you have ONE doubt about his mental health in terms of his sexuality.

Chlobee87 · 23/03/2016 11:14

Nope. I would not even attempt to deal with that. Too creepy and potentially too dangerous. Maybe it's just a weird little fetish and he doesn't really make the link between a grown up dressed as a child and a real child. Maybe. But that's a hell of a chance to take, especially when your own child's safety rests on it.

To be honest, the relationship being over would be a no brainier for me. The difficult part would be deciding what to do RE access to his child and whether social workers and a contact centre need to be involved.

Swipe left for the next trending thread