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Original poster

To dislike seeing young children with pierced ears.

381 replies

Singsongsungagain · 21/12/2015 19:10

Inspired by a picture on FB today of a friend's young child (6 years old) sobbing her eyes out whilst getting her ears pierced.
Why the hell would any decent parent hold their child steady to allow their ears to be pierced? What is it all about??

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DisappointedOne · 21/12/2015 19:11

This again? Hmm

Madbengalmum · 21/12/2015 19:11

I also think it looks vile. No,just no

DisappointedOne · 21/12/2015 19:12

(I don't much like it either. DD will be well into double figures before she's allowed her ears piercing, and she'll be the one looking after them.)

WhataMistakeaToMakea · 21/12/2015 19:13

I agree but people get very sensitive about this so you'll probably be flamed .....

MamaLazarou · 21/12/2015 19:13

It only bothers me if the earrings are long and dangly.

IceBeing · 21/12/2015 19:14

smacks of parents viewing children's bodies as their personal property.

Disgusting.

Pobspits · 21/12/2015 19:14

I don't like it either tbh. DD (5) is desperate for pierced ears like her friend but I'm pushing the 'it hurts ALOT' angle and hoping she forgets. Won't be happening until she's 9/10 at least .

BrandNewAndImproved · 21/12/2015 19:14

How many times will this topic be talked about.

We get it, your such a good mother because you didn't pierce your dcs ears at 6 or 6 months.

yorkshapudding · 21/12/2015 19:14

I completely agree but this has been done to death and never ends well!

Original poster
Singsongsungagain · 21/12/2015 19:16

Oh apologies. I'm not that long term/regular a MNer and haven't seen such a thread before.

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Jw35 · 21/12/2015 19:17

I don't think she should be forced against her will but my dd was desperate to get it done at 6 and I let her

Original poster
Singsongsungagain · 21/12/2015 19:19

Mama, I had mine pierced at 19. They became infected and caused me agony. It's really not just about the dangly earrings- although I understand your concern there.

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MuddyWellyNelly · 21/12/2015 19:20

I had my ears pierced at 6. I fully remember badgering my parents about it, I think I just wore them down. It hurt, but I seem to have recovered at some point in the last 35 years. I appear to be neither physically nor mentally scarred. Hmm

GabiSolis · 21/12/2015 19:22

Just because a topic has been done before doesn't mean the OP (a newish poster) can't raise it, no need to be rude.

Fwiw I agree, it looks awful. You will get someone coming along saying its a cultural thing or its personal choice but that's not an excuse IMO. Personally I've said no until the school holidays before secondary school starts.

ChutneyRhodrey · 21/12/2015 19:23

I had mine done when I was 6. I desperately wanted to and banged on about it enough that my Mum let me for my birthday. The gun got stuck in my ear, it was fucking agony.

I think it's totally down to each parent to make the decision when their LO asks but prior to that I see no reason for why they need to be pierced.

Undoubtedly, there'll be the whole "it's the same as jabs" debate at some point...

m0therofdragons · 21/12/2015 19:24

Dd is nearly 8 and mentioned it as her friends have had theirs done. I pointed out that as I have to remind her to brush her hair I can't imagine she'd remember to look after newly pierced ears! I don't understand it on babies or little dc who couldn't ask. Not sure when I'll give in but not yet.

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BarbarianMum · 21/12/2015 19:25

I had mine pierced at a few days old because I come from a culture where this is the norm. Never had a problem with it, ditto my cousins/sisters/nieces/friends.
But good for you for coming from such superior culture - we are all really keen to learn from you and to look just like you Hmm

FairyFluffbum · 21/12/2015 19:26

Well I personally don't like it but you are not the parent of that child. So it's a case of grinning and bearing

BooOzMoo · 21/12/2015 19:26

This is one of my pet hates!!!
20 girls in my DD 4 school year! Only one has her ears pierced ... Yep she's the one with 4 other siblings, black front teeth with have massive overbite as she still aged 4 sucks a dummy and her Ma smokes like a trooper !
Just the one!

EatDessertFirst · 21/12/2015 19:27

YANBU. I think it looks hideous on small children and beyond vile on tiny babies. Ick.

Babyroobs · 21/12/2015 19:28

I personally hate to see it , but for some it is a cultural. My dn had hers done at 2 days old, her mum is Vietnamese and it is her culture.

Original poster
Singsongsungagain · 21/12/2015 19:28

I know Fairy. Totally. Some of her relatives have expressed their concern on the FB post. There's no cultural reason by the way. I suspect the girl asked and she agreed.

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AutumnLeavesArePretty · 21/12/2015 19:29

I'd like to see it banned until 16/18 like other piercings.

On the other hand it instantly tells you a lot about the parents.

wigglesrock · 21/12/2015 19:29

Both my dds had them done, one at 6 and one at 7. I got mine pierced at the same age, maybe slightly younger. Fair enough if you don't like it on other peoples kids, the relevant phrase being other people's kids. There's loads of things other parents do with their kids that I think "really?, don't fancy that", so I don't do them with my own.