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Getting engaged the morning after a friends' wedding?

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Sammo0 · 28/05/2015 16:37

Bad taste or ok? The morning after a friends wedding, a friend posted her news. Opinion is divided. What are your thoughts? Unreasonable and a bit attention-seeking or absolutely fine?

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Jenoftheweek · 28/05/2015 16:38

Fine.
Wedding is over, life moves on.

MegBusset · 28/05/2015 16:39

Absolutely fine, not sure why anyone would think otherwise!

cookielove · 28/05/2015 16:39

I think its fine, a wedding is one day! People need to relax :)

AbbeyRoadCrossing · 28/05/2015 16:40

Of course it's fine, is she supposed to say 'no' just because her friend got married?

mountainofdreams · 28/05/2015 16:40

I think it's ok as I'm sure she didn't know her dp was going to propose. Definitely soon after the event but as I said not really her fault. Just one of those things!

NerrSnerr · 28/05/2015 16:41

Why on earth wouldn't it be fine?

ApprenticeViper · 28/05/2015 16:41

Absolutely fine, everyone has moved on from the wedding. It's not like he got down on one knee right in the middle of the bride and groom's first dance!

Hazelraphael · 28/05/2015 16:41

absolutely fine. In fact, it's nice. The love was contagious!

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Sammo0 · 28/05/2015 16:41

I couldn't care less, been married a while myself. The thought is this that it just seems a bit 'meh' with everyone posting their pics of the newlyweds and she's immediately announcing her engagement. Some feel that she could wait until the next day.

Mega trivial, just interested in opinion.

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phoenixrose314 · 28/05/2015 16:42

Um... I'd tend to be on the side of the friend who got engaged, for two reasons...

One, assuming it was her partner who did the proposing, it wasn't really down to her WHEN the proposal actually happened... would it have been in bad taste to wait two days? Three? How many days would the poor girl have to have waited to have been in the right here? I don't call it attention seeking if somebody is just sharing news the same way she normally would, at the time it happened.
And TWO, she might have gotten engaged earlier and postponed the news so as not to steal other friend's thunder - I did the same thing, got engaged one evening, went to a wedding the next day and told nobody, waited until the day after to tell everyone my news.

Interested to see other people's perspectives on this one.

MuttonCadet · 28/05/2015 16:43

At the wedding? Absolutely not.
After the wedding? - no issue at all.

Radiatorvalves · 28/05/2015 16:43

Did she catch the bouquet?

DramaAlpaca · 28/05/2015 16:43

It's fine. My SIL announced her engagement the morning after my wedding & everyone was delighted - it just extended the party & was something else to celebrate. DH & I missed it though, we'd gone off on honeymoon & didn't hear the news until we got back.

FelicityGubbins · 28/05/2015 16:45

Why should she wait til another day to announce her news? Her getting engaged is just as important to her/him and their families as the wedding was to the bride and groom and their families...

mileend2bermondsey · 28/05/2015 16:46

Looks like I am alone but I think it is in poor taste, especially if they are close friends. 365 days to propose, why pick that one?

AdeleDazeem · 28/05/2015 16:50

Maybe he proposed a few days/weeks before but she waited until after the wedding to announce it. Let the B&G have their day, no-one asking another couple for a look at the ring/ asking if they'd set a date etc.

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 28/05/2015 16:51

You get ONE day for your wedding. Thats it. People have lives!

Chchchchangeabout · 28/05/2015 16:51

Fine. Friends of ours did this after our wedding, we thought it was lovely.

AGirlCalledBoB · 28/05/2015 16:52

My sil announced to her family that she was pregnant the day my son was born. Now that I feel could have waited until the next day but that is my sil all over!

A wedding not so much, she did not know her oh was going to propose and she was probably all excited

chaletdays · 28/05/2015 16:53

Jeeze, why is everyone wedding now a marathon event, where no one must do anything that might upstage or upset the bride for about six months before, and a month after the day itself?

MrMacadoo · 28/05/2015 16:54

at least it wasn't at the reception, like an article I saw in a certain unmentionable newspaper today, now that is in poor taste. Day after is fine in my opinion

NomiMalone · 28/05/2015 16:55

Absolutely fine.

An acquaintance of mine was proposed to at midnight at her best friends NYE wedding reception. The friend is the most self-obsessed bridezilla ever to walk the earth.

She didn't take it well Grin .

chaletdays · 28/05/2015 16:56

Something like that was actually reported in a newspaper MrMacadoo Shock

WeAllHaveWings · 28/05/2015 16:56

Absolutely fine. The wedding is over, I'm sure people can manage to look at some photos and congratulate her on the same day. Not a big deal at all.

OpheliaBitz · 28/05/2015 16:58

I see no issue. Either the DP waited until after the friends' wedding to propose, or they actually got engaged before the wedding but didn't want to steal the bride & groom's thunder by having a people gush over the newly engaged couple at their wedding.

The wedding has happened, the bride & groom are now husband and wife, other people get engaged, life continues...