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Getting engaged the morning after a friends' wedding?

101 replies

Sammo0 · 28/05/2015 16:37

Bad taste or ok? The morning after a friends wedding, a friend posted her news. Opinion is divided. What are your thoughts? Unreasonable and a bit attention-seeking or absolutely fine?

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 28/05/2015 17:28

Yes, it does seem lovely and special. "Love is all around" is a good phrase. I really do think that people that don't feel this at weddings are missing somehing in their makeup and will end up lonely and bitter: "look at ME. Look at MEEE!!!"

varoom · 28/05/2015 17:29

Absolutely fine. Why would anybody have a problem with it? The wedding's over.

I bet they got engaged before the wedding but waited to share the news - people can't win can they.

Buttercup27 · 28/05/2015 17:31

Could be worse somebody proposed at mine! Know body told me til after we got back from honeymoon (we left next day).

CrystalMcPistol · 28/05/2015 17:35

Feelings can run high at weddings, in both directions. I know one girl whose fiance split up with her in the church directly after their friends' wedding service. Was all too real from him I think!

lemonpoppyseed · 28/05/2015 17:38

Depends. Did they meet AT the wedding? Wink But otherwise, who cares?

chestnutmare · 28/05/2015 17:46

This happened to me, one of my friends got engaged the day after my wedding. Absolutely fine, it didn't occur to me to be annoyed about it, I was very happy for her!

ItsNotAsPerfectAsItSeems · 28/05/2015 18:11

This hapoened to us too. It made me feel really happy that my wedding had inspired a proposal. Found out later that he proposed to her as I was walking up in aisle. He apparently whispered to her, 'You'd look good in one of those dresses!' Grin I do actually remember her looking really emotional as I was walking back down the aisle but didn't really give it too much thought. She told me at 10past midnight as the party was wrapping up. I was amazed that she'd managed to keep it to herself all day and I was overjoyed for her.

They've now been married 12yrs and have 2 great boys! Smile

Osmiornica · 28/05/2015 18:39

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 28/05/2015 18:42

My DH proposed to me the day after we had been at a wedding!

takingstock · 28/05/2015 18:42

My friends got engaged during the evening of our wedding. It was lovely and we all celebrated it.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 28/05/2015 18:45

Why can't people be happy for two friends at the same time? It's not rationed.

ToriaPumpkin · 28/05/2015 19:01

I wouldn't have a problem with it, though I did put off announcing my second pregnancy until after a friend's wedding. But, they had to contend with bride/bridesmaidzilla who stopped speaking to a mutual friend for coincidentally booking the same month for her wedding as she did as she'd not been engaged as long and announced at a friend's engagement celebrations "At least you've got something to look forward to, now I'm married what do I have?" So I felt they'd have enough attention problems as it was Wink

Tapasfairy · 28/05/2015 19:10

God I'd be flattered, love is contagious. I'd also be pleased if someone's baby was born 9months after my wedding.

Just a day. Weddings have gone mad.

lomega · 28/05/2015 19:15

Totally reasonable, life does move on...

Anyone saying "but that's too near MY wedding" is a bit high maintenance in my opinion

GloGirl · 28/05/2015 19:19

purple they did not surely?! ShockEnvy

I think it's quite sweet to propose at a wedding if spontaneous. You can't steal the thunder of a bride and groom, it just adds to the joy surely. Day after is just nothing at all!

GloGirl · 28/05/2015 19:20

Tapas - "love is contagious" what a lovely saying! Flowers

YsabellStoHelit · 28/05/2015 19:23

Wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest but then I wouldn't have cared if a friend got engaged at my reception. I have more to worry about in my life that if people dare to celebrate the good news of a person I care about and take focus off me for a while. Actually I think I would have been delighted, it would have been nice to have had someone else for people to focus on bug the crap out of

FixItUpChappie · 28/05/2015 19:31

All this "steal my thunder" crap is very self-absorbed.

I would not enjoy being the type of person who could possibly be annoyed by something so minor and inconsequential.

purplepppower · 28/05/2015 20:07

Yep it happened - totally inappropriate, her boyfriend didn't even know our family very well. I think her sister was too upset to really take in that it happened, but the rest of the family were a bit Shock

Theimpossiblegirl · 28/05/2015 20:15

I would have been really pleased if my wedding had inspired someone to pop the question, especially if she had caught the bouquet! The DM pic is a little OTT though.
Grin

Vycount · 28/05/2015 20:21

Blimey, people are so precious about weddings! It's fine.

Justusemyname · 28/05/2015 20:24

Must be the day for it. In the paper today a man proposes, right in front of the top table at a wedding. Bride has a fixed grin...

Really ridiculous and pathetic to be bothered by this.

missymayhemsmum · 28/05/2015 20:29

Isn't there an old saying, one wedding leads to another or something?

Duckdeamon · 28/05/2015 20:31

Bad manners to propose at another couple's wedding, or to tell friends about your engagement/pregnancy on their wedding day, but emotions run high and stuff happens!

Aermingers · 28/05/2015 20:43

I think that it's a massive compliment the day after a wedding. It almost says that the were so moved by the wedding and the love there that the decided they wanted to do the same. I think it's lovely.

I can't believe the poster saying that getting engaged at midnight on a NYE wedding is okay though. If you have an NYE wedding then one of the main parts of the wedding will be midnight and that's definitely attention seeking and thunder stealing. Unforgivable and rather nasty.