Would you be happy with this?

[mickeyfartpants]

DM had my DD today - 4yrs. She let her go upstairs to the toilet on her own while there was a decorator in the room next to the toilet. Obviously she cannot lock the door so potentially the door could have been open the whole time with a half naked child on the toilet. DD told us when we get in from work that she'd had a chat with the decorator on the landing.

No bad came of it, granted. But when I've mentioned to my Mum that I'd rather she went to the toilet with DD if there was a stranger in the house, her reaction is to say that its fine because the guy has his own kids, she was downstairs the whole time and then put my brother on to tell me that I'm being silly about all. We don't really know this man, and even if we did, I'd rather my toddler wasn't put in a vulnerable position.

Am I being silly?

Yes, you're being silly.

I wouldn't have a problem with it

Yes you are. A bit. I think the relevant phrase is pfb. Have a and a deep breath.

Yes. You are.

It wouldn't bother me. But perhaps I'm too trusting.

Wouldn't bother me. I don't think every man is a paedophile

Agreed. You're being silly.

Yes, yes - you are being silly

Yes, you are being a bit silly. :)
I imagine if you'd been there, you would have felt fine too.

It wouldn't even occur to me to think it might be a problem.

A 4yo isnt a Toddler.

"We dont really know this man" - do you know him at all? You either know someone or you dont.

Not every man is a danger to kids.

I don't think someone being downstairs in the same house would discourage an abuser given such an ample opportunity. YANBU.

YABU. It's extremely unlikely anything would happen with your mother within shouting distance only expecting her to be gone a few minutes.

I would have been fine with it.

Most children are at school by the age of 4...
I might have read your post wrong, but do you refere to her as a toddler?

I take my 4 year old to the toilet when we have workmen in, and I tell her not to wander out with her pants down as she sometimes does so a YANBU from me.

A bit silly, yes, but trusting you didn't get mad at your MIL, that's okay. Not every stranger is a paedophile, most abuse is carried out by someone known to the victim.

No, I don't think you are being silly.

In any case - your daughter, so your feelings/decisions are paramount.

FWIW, I would feel the same as you if I had a 4 yr old.

Sorry, but YABU and I wouldn't say 4 year olds were toddlers.

She was just 4 last week so not at school.

You have to be rational.
What is the likelihood of a pervert mascarading as a decorator, just hoping for little child to come by?
The odds must be very, very small.

I think YABU. I'd have been fine with it.

no one is saying pedophile but what if he was embarrassed by it himself? not everyone is ok with children toileting with the door open

She is most certainly not a toddler. I agree.