It's second hand because it's actually happening to someone I know vaguely on FB who is in America.
She is getting married! And man, does everybody need to know about it! So far she's had:
An engagement shower (which seemed to be a party just for her thrown by her mother)
An engagement party (for the couple and potential invites to the wedding)
A wedding shower (same again?)
A bachelorette party (hen do)
Sent out save the dates (which I'd never heard of before her fb post about "looking out for them"), invitations, RSVP cards. And on and on.
Many many public dramas on the way, including rants about the fact that some people RSVP'd "sorry I can't attend" AFTER getting their save the date cards - she sent the save the dates SEVENTEEN MONTHS before the wedding. I'm sure most people had lost them by the time the correct year rolled around!
Anyway the wedding is this weekend (yay! An end to it all!). This week's FB drama is that people are cancelling last minute. She posted a screen grab of a text convo today though that has had me scraping my chin all day (my jaw is on the floor). It said:
Friend: Wanted to warn you hun, I won't be able to make it on Saturday. I'm so sorry. I'll call you tonight.
Bride: You know what, DON'T call me. You're the second to do this. So sick of selfish people wrecking my special day.
Friend: Mum died this morning.
Bride is on FB asking her friend list AIBU to think that "if her mum died on Monday then she could totally attend a wedding on Saturday".
Amazing.
And before anyone says it, yes I know I should unfollow/unfriend but I am shamefully addicted to this stuff... 