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AIBU?

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Very early sex - aibu

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drbonnieblossman · 02/02/2015 00:27

Dh is going to be leaving the house very early for the next 5 mornings (5.00am instead of 8.30am).

We have a pretty active sex life and morning sex every day (there's fuck all romance in our morning sex, but we both have very high sex drives so a very quick shag in the morning sorts us out).

Anyway, DH seems to think that he cannot do without it in the morning this week and I should wake up in time do we can have sex before he leaves. I wouldn't mind but we have sex every night too so it's not like he's going without.

I happened to suggest that he sort himself out these next few mornings and he said I wasnt 'taking things seriously' and it will be a slippery slope to no morning sex.

AIBU in telling him that under no fucking circumstances is he to wake me. Part of me thinks I should just tell him to get on with it and be quick so I'm not fully woken but really why should I?

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FriedSprout · 02/02/2015 00:32

Tell him that sex at 5.30 a.m. will just make you too tired for sex in the p.m

SoonToBeSix · 02/02/2015 00:32

No yanbu !

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drbonnieblossman · 02/02/2015 00:34

It's the bloody expectation of it and the arsiness that has pissed me off. It's not like this is his yearly quota he's missing out on.

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brokenhearted55a · 02/02/2015 00:35

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grumpasaur · 02/02/2015 00:35

Morning sex is awesome but 5:30 am is a crime against humanity!! He needs to wank. End of.

grumpasaur · 02/02/2015 00:36

Also the expectation and fact he has even raised it as an issue would be grounds for a serious conversation, in my world!

AlpacaMyBags · 02/02/2015 00:37

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MrsTerryPratchett · 02/02/2015 00:51

If he's leaving at 5am, it's actually 4.30am sex.

This: he cannot do without it and expectation of it and the arsiness are a problem. Your body doesn't belong to him. He seems to think it does. I would find that unacceptable.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 02/02/2015 00:54

Sex am and pm. Thought my sex life was eventful.!!!
Tell the truth. You just came on here to brag, didn't you. (LOL)

FoulsomeAndMaggotwise · 02/02/2015 00:59

If you don't want to have sex with him then just don't have sex with him. Tbh if my husband thought he had a right to my body whenever the hell he wanted it, he'd be out the door.

Fuckmath · 02/02/2015 01:04

The fact it's expected is a bit grim

I love a morning shag at a reasonable time like 7 or 8 am, but 4:30am would be met with a face unless I was still up from the night before!

goodasitgets · 02/02/2015 01:09

5am?! Bollocks to that (and I'm single so I take it when I can get it)

SorchaN · 02/02/2015 01:21

Just stay up till 5am so it feels like you're having evening sex twice!

sykadelic · 02/02/2015 01:51

I think you've got bigger issues than him waking you, and I think you know that as well.

What happens if you're sick? Do you get a pass then? What if you just don't feel like it? Pass then too? Do you have to ask in advance for time off? If you have an early start do you wake him as well?

What exactly is the lack of morning sex a slippery slope to? Is less sex (you know, once instead of twice a day) REALLY that big of a deal? He's acting like 5 days of no morning sex is just absolutely tortuous. I'm sorry :(

ClaudiusMaximus · 02/02/2015 02:33

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/02/2015 06:28

Don't do it. If you don't want to and are just pressurised you will feel crap throughout and resent him. He needs to respect you.

Aussiemum78 · 02/02/2015 06:31

You have sex everyday and he's complaining? Far out.

You are hardly in danger of celibacy.

Aussiemum78 · 02/02/2015 06:32

Do you have kids?

CheerfulYank · 02/02/2015 06:34

It's not a slippery slope, it's fucking 5 a.m.!

I like sex as much as some and more than most but if DH tried to wake me for a bit of hide the sausage at 4:30 in the morning....

I cannot actually finish that sentence. I have no words for the fury that would be released.

Do you have children?

velourvoyageur · 02/02/2015 06:38

I am really surprised people aren't more up in arms about this.

He wants you to have sex with him even though you don't want to?
Yeah there's a slippery slope somewhere here but I'm not sure it's to no morning sex......

Cannot believe he is trying to make you feel guilty about it as well!
The minute you said "no" he should have backed off.

bigbluestars · 02/02/2015 06:43

"it will be a slippery slope to no morning sex."

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 02/02/2015 06:55

He's very entitled isn't he? And completely unreasonable. He expects you to wake up halfway through your sleep cycle so he can shag you? Utterly grim. His attitude is foul. He aeems to see you as a sex dispenser that might stop working properly!

pilates · 02/02/2015 06:57

Yuk, your DH sounds horrible.

He makes you sound like a piece of meat and your feelings are not worthy of anything.

Is he always so selfish and inconsiderate?

velourvoyageur · 02/02/2015 06:57

OP please don't give in, do what you want and nothing else. "No" is a complete answer to this. And "sorry, you're right" should be his!

HoggleHoggle · 02/02/2015 07:00

He's being awful. I'm in awe of you doing it twice a day but I don't understand why your dh seems to think it's his basic human right to get his leg over whatever time of the morning he fancies.

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