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Party dress hubby and lie ins!

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CookieDoughKid · 08/02/2014 13:32

Hubby took kids out this morning. Which was fab as I could have lie in without having to get up to get kids up for breakfast etc. Discovered that hubby let my 6yo wear her brand new designer party dress made of silk to go BIKE riding. It's a beautiful dress gifted by a friend, the kind you wear for special occasions. Grrr!! Would I be unreasonable to make a deal out of this?

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petitdonkey · 08/02/2014 13:34

Sorry, unless you had specifically told him she shouldn't wear it, let it go. You got your lie in, he probably just let her wear whatever she wanted to make it easy to get out, its just not a big deal. I love seeing them in their lovely dresses though and DD is regularly in an 'I Love Gorgeous' party dress just going to the park or beach.

frenchfancy · 08/02/2014 13:44

She is 6. She will have grown out of the dress in less than a year. She is too young to have expensive designer dresses. If you wanted it kept for a special occasion you should have put it away.

YABU - you should be grateful that not only did your DH give you a lie in he also took your DD out for some exercise.

MushroomSoup · 08/02/2014 13:45

Aww how special will she feel today?!

MyNameIsKenAdams · 08/02/2014 13:45

Meh....he probably said "just put whatever you want on"

She probably feels fabulous!

YABU.

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 13:47

Not very practical for a bike ride.

I don't get why the OP has to be grateful for a lie in or grateful that her dh is parenting their child either.

JoinYourPlayfellows · 08/02/2014 13:48

Sorry, unless you had specifically told him she shouldn't wear it, let it go.

ARGHGHGHGHGHGHGGHH!!

Jesus, he's a fucking person with eyes and a bit of cop on.

Did he put on his best clothes to go the park?

What was he wearing? Was it made of silk?

I bet it fucking wasn't.

Getting a lie in while a man looks after his own children isn't such a wondrous event that you need to turn a blind eye to obvious fucking stupidity.

he probably just let her wear whatever she wanted to make it easy to get out

Yeah, and to make it harder for the OP to ever have a lie in again for wondering what other things he was ruining.

Jesus, are most of you married to complete gobshites?

You would actually have to put a silk dress "away" to stop your husband putting on your daughter to go cycling in the park after days and days of rain?

Seriously?

JuanFernandezTitTyrant · 08/02/2014 13:48

OP I completely disagree with the previous two posters. Just because he's a dad doesn't mean that you should have to spell out that a party dress is not suitable clothing for bike riding. Any dress of that type (even an old one from the dressing up box) is unsuitable - it could get caught in the wheels for example.

You shouldn't have to assume that your DH is an idiot, just because he did you the tremendous "favour" of looking after his own children for an hour or two.

JuanFernandezTitTyrant · 08/02/2014 13:50

Obviously by "previous two" I meant the first two slow typer

VikingVagine · 08/02/2014 13:53

I'm with the first two, let it go, she will have grown out of it in no time, she may as well make the most of it now, and she probably did feel fabulous!

JoinYourPlayfellows · 08/02/2014 13:54

she probably did feel fabulous!

Yes, because girls are so stupid and shallow that they feel "fabulous" Hmm wearing completely impractical clothes while doing physical activities.

Jesus, it's as though the last century never fucking happened.

petitdonkey · 08/02/2014 13:56

Jesus Playfellows, that was an angry response. No I am not married to a 'complete gobshite', quite the reverse. My children can wear whatever is in their wardrobe so DH would let them wear whatever, if I was 'saving' something for a special occasion, I would probably mention it. I also wouldn't think that him taking them out was a 'wondrous event' but I would't give a shit what he dressed them in. Fuck off.

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 13:56

Isn't it just, JoinYourPlayfellows. Hmm

pianodoodle · 08/02/2014 13:59

I'm with JoinYourPlayfellows

My husband doesn't go out wondering what daft thing I'm going to do while looking after the children.

It isn't some endearing trait for a man to be so clueless. It's just annoying...

GlitzAndGiggles · 08/02/2014 13:59

There's more to life than designer dresses!

mellicauli · 08/02/2014 14:00

If you want you want to be woken up for your opinion on the kids wardrobe every day for the next 16 years you could make a big fuss. Otherwise I'd say, it's just the price you pay...

parakeet · 08/02/2014 14:00

Oh yeah, we should be weeping with gratitude if the other parent of our children deigns to do some childcare of a weekend.

Yes OP, he was a bit dim. Bit like some of throw-backs to the 1950s who post on here sometimes.

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 14:03

The price you pay? For what? Having a dh with no common sense whatsoever? Does OP need to go through her dd's wardrobe labelling when certain clothes should be worn? Madness!

I had a lovely party dress in my wardrobe when I was 6. Even then I knew if I wore it to go out on my bike and it got ruined (which it would have) that my parents would not be happy.

JoinYourPlayfellows · 08/02/2014 14:05

If you want you want to be woken up for your opinion on the kids wardrobe every day for the next 16 years you could make a big fuss.

If pointing out to this total fucking dimwit that silk dresses are not suitable attire for bikeriding in February results in that kind of passive-aggressive abusiveness, then you need to LTB.

Only someone with serious stupidity issues would dress a child in clothes like that for the park.

And it also says awful things about his attitude to little girls and their clothing.

Would he dress a little boy in a little tuxedo for going to the park? I'll bet not.

(Despite how "fabulous" he would doubtless feel Hmm)

VikingVagine · 08/02/2014 14:08

Why on earth shouldn't a child be able to wear what they want to go out on their bike?

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 14:10

Because it could be dangerous, have bits trailing that could get caught in wheels for a start.

JoinYourPlayfellows · 08/02/2014 14:10

Why on earth shouldn't a child be able to wear what they want to go out on their bike?

Because they should be wearing SUITABLE clothing that isn't likely to get caught in the wheels?

Because they probably love their silk party dress and love wearing it to parties and now it will be ruined and they will be upset?

Because children have parents to help them out with things like this?

pianodoodle · 08/02/2014 14:11

Why on earth shouldn't a child be able to wear what they want to go out on their bike?

From my limited experience children don't always know what's best for children - that's why they they have someone older and wiser around to help most of the time - although not in the OP's husband's case Grin

pianodoodle · 08/02/2014 14:12

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petitdonkey · 08/02/2014 14:12

'Only someone with serious stupidity issues would dress a child in clothes like that for the park.'

God, if only I was as clever as you. I am obviously a stupid fuckwit who should not be allowed to look after children. My children can wear what they like to the park as long as they are not exposed to the weather.

You are all so bloody 'holier than thou' and are doing far more to assume gender stereotypes than the OP.

And did we seriously get a LTB over clothes choice???

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 14:14

Really? I don't see having some common sense as specifically a female trait for a start so that's an utter nonsense.