Party dress hubby and lie ins!

[CookieDoughKid]

Hubby took kids out this morning. Which was fab as I could have lie in without having to get up to get kids up for breakfast etc. Discovered that hubby let my 6yo wear her brand new designer party dress made of silk to go BIKE riding. It's a beautiful dress gifted by a friend, the kind you wear for special occasions. Grrr!! Would I be unreasonable to make a deal out of this?

SelectAUserName Sun 09-Feb-14 13:26:40

"Also, she may make more sensible clothing decisions herself now that she's seen the consequences."

She's SIX. Life should be about dressing up as a princess/pirate/dragon/whatever when you're six. >> If a father is abdicating his responsibility to make those judgements and decisions, either because he can't face dealing with the fall-out (if child is a tantrumy sort) or because he doesn't have the basic common sense to say "no dear, that's a party dress not a cycling outfit, let's put your trousers on today" I think that's likely to have more "consequences" as the child grows up.

They grow like weeds at that age. If you don't have a party or other suitable occasion coming up in the next couple of weeks, she could well have grown out of it by the time she next puts it on...
It just took a couple of fabulous outfits going to the charity shop in unworn pristine condition to knock that sort of preciousness about kids clothes out of me.

Molly I'm in my 50s and I love wearing fancy frocks at every opportunity but as growing bigger is more or less under control I can keep them for good. I have every sympathy with a 6 year old wanting to wear a party dress to the park.

One occasionally sees little girls in OTT party dresses in the supermarket or similar mundane locations, I always say to them and whichever adult they are with how lovely they look.

[grin]@ishould.

I'm with joinyourplayfellows.
Having a lie in/time away from the relentless mummying is a total waste of time if beforehand you have to write sodding instructions to your DP etc about what to do in your absence.
I end up thinking oh fuck it and end up doing the child care myself.
I've been on this planet for 44 years. Nothing I've seen has convinced me that men aren't crap at everything.
Feel free to chuck me a biskwit. Especially a custard cream.
PS I live Clare Balding. If only all men were like her. She wouldn't put a child in a for best silk party dress...

Yanbu to be annoyed OP. I'm pretty relaxed about clothes, and my 5 year old wears her favourite dress a lot- not just special occasions. But not for a muddy bike ride! She might enjoy looking 'fabulous' but (depending on the style) it could get tangled in the wheels. And she'd be devastated at ruining her favourite outfit. At 5, DD1 understands perfectly well that she can choose her own clothes but must make sure they're suitable for planned activities.

And my DH is perfectly capable of using a bit of common sense when looking after the children. He'd be insulted to read some of the attitudes towards men on here- oh poor loves, you can't expect them to think about clothes, just be grateful they're parenting their own children. What rubbish.

I wouldn't make a big deal over the incident- what's done is done- but I'd be pissed off if it happened again.