Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to be even more annoyed at the benefit system?

107 replies

RoseRedder · 07/12/2013 21:55

I'm not really sure what I want to say about this or how to put it

But my friend has been found dead. Details are at the moment a bit confused and nothing confirmed but it's pointing to suicide

I hadn't had contact with him for about six months then when he asked for help I obviously didn't do enough

about my friend

I found out at 8pm, I'm still taking it in to be honest.

This country stinks to high hell

OP posts:
IneedAwittierNickname · 07/12/2013 21:56

Sorry to hear about your friend. Thanks

Darkesteyes · 07/12/2013 21:57

Christ Rose. I was following that thread. Im so so so sorry. My condolences to you. JESUS im sorry Thanks Thanks Thanks

Vampyreof · 07/12/2013 21:58

How awful - sorry.

gordyslovesheep · 07/12/2013 21:58

oh Rose I'm so sorry Thanks x the system is dehumanising and shitty x

Sammie101 · 07/12/2013 21:58

I read your first thread, I'm so so sorry about your friend Hmm hugs!

elliegoulding · 07/12/2013 21:58

Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, you must be reeling Sad

GobbySadcase · 07/12/2013 21:59

Once again the DWP and ATOS have blood on their hands. 11,000 so far in the ESA/WCA scheme.

I'm so sorry for your loss x

BohemianGirl · 07/12/2013 22:00

I dont know what to say, but i dont want to pass this thread by as you are clearly needing to talk about this. I can listen.

Darkesteyes · 07/12/2013 22:01

11,000 people dead. Talk about not learning from history.

moldingsunbeams · 07/12/2013 22:01

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

kilmuir · 07/12/2013 22:02

why is benefit system to blame?

squeakytoy · 07/12/2013 22:02

"I hadn't had contact with him for about six months then when he asked for help I obviously didn't do enough"

Please please do not blame yourself.. it is not your fault. Honestly.

My FIL took his own life and it is absolutely horrific. xx

Original poster
RoseRedder · 07/12/2013 22:02

thanks don't feel sorry for me though, I'm ok.

I didn't know whether to post or not but I got so much good advice it feels sort of wrong to not say what's happened.

I'm just a bit wtf at the moment, it feels a bit surreal really

OP posts:
moldingsunbeams · 07/12/2013 22:03

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ShylaMcClaus · 07/12/2013 22:04

Oh Rose, I am so sorry Thanks

How does IDS sleep at night?

GobbySadcase · 07/12/2013 22:04

Hmm kilmuir. I have nooooo idea.
I'm sure having no money to live on whilst being so unwell he was unable to work made him JOYFUL.

moldingsunbeams · 07/12/2013 22:05

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GobbySadcase · 07/12/2013 22:06

once source from a quick google

candycoatedwaterdrops · 07/12/2013 22:06

Holy shit. Sad

I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Original poster
RoseRedder · 07/12/2013 22:07

He is 33

OP posts:
moldingsunbeams · 07/12/2013 22:08

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GobbySadcase · 07/12/2013 22:09

another one

moldingsunbeams · 07/12/2013 22:09

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

lemontruffles · 07/12/2013 22:11

This is so sad.

Please do not blame yourself. You are absolutely not responsible for this tragedy.

So sad that too many people feel dehumanized and bereft under this government; this is appalling. Your poor friend.

GobbySadcase · 07/12/2013 22:11

It's telling the DWP are now refusing to disclose these stats.