You know, I really feel for the bride. First, she has gone through the trouble of sending aaaallll these people lovely STD cards, so they have something lovely to put on the fridge. Also, anyone knows that anticipatory pleasure is the best pleasure. Then, right at the point where people would have to start worrying about outfits and fitting all their usual weekend activities around the wedding, TADAA, no invite, so a whole weekend to themselves and no costs! It's the kind thing to do really.
Apparently, Tidy is still disappointed not to see her close friend on her wedding, so she gets offered the behind the scenes-option. Everyone knows that at each event, everyone is fighting to get the backstage passes! And she refuses!
At least 2-3 times!
Backstage passes to the event of the year!
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Thinking about it, we are ALL unreasonable!