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to feel let down by mumsnet

412 replies

cantbedoingwithit · 21/06/2013 16:17

A friend has been raving about mumsnet and said that i should join as it is "like talking to friends who are supportive, friendly and who give sound advice." I have been lurking on mn and have been reading lots of threads and have been put off from starting a thread myself because i found some of the replies really quite un friendly (to say the least) and some sound quite rude. I realize that mn prides its self on being a 'no nonsense' type of forum and life isnt all flowers and fluffy clouds, and that sometimes the truth isnt always 'nice' but i was quite shocked at some of the 'un sisterly' comments.

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KatoPotato · 21/06/2013 16:18

Please have my first ever Biscuit

TheCutOfYourJib · 21/06/2013 16:19

You get used to it, or maybe nethuns is more up your street.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 21/06/2013 16:19

You have been put off starting a thread because everyone is rude, yet you are quite happy to start a thread slagging off an entire site which you clearly don't know a lot about?

RiotsNotDiets · 21/06/2013 16:20

So what's up then?

Gizza problem, I'll solve it for you and I won't call you a cunt nor nuffink

SauvignonBlanche · 21/06/2013 16:20

Hilarious! Grin

CMOTDibbler · 21/06/2013 16:21

MN is like having friends, indeed. But the sort of friends that really will tell you that you look fat in the dress you are trying on, that your kids aren't 'free range' that they are feral, and that you are, at that point in time being a twat. As well as holding your hair when you vom, holding your hand in the bad times, and celebrating in drunken raucousness in the good.

Look elsewhere than AIBU too - thats not the place for support

Hullygully · 21/06/2013 16:21

yes it's sadly true

it needed saying

WELL DONE you

people are just too scared to stand up to the rudeness, cliques and bullying that goes on and tell the truth

ChaoticTranquility · 21/06/2013 16:22

Where exactly have you lurked on mn? If it's only AIBU then those are the sorts of replies that you will get on some threads. Try chat which isn't usually as erm...blunt. As for unsisterly most posters won't agree with another poster just because they're the same sex.

theorchardkeeper · 21/06/2013 16:22

Like life...some people are cunts.

But not everyone Grin

I love MN & have learnt to ignore shit replies to the point where I almost don't notice them anymore because of my mental shit-reply filter Smile

DuchessOfAvon · 21/06/2013 16:22

Yikes - so you wade in with an AIBU and expect it to get any easier?!

If this isn't your corner of the web, keep searching until you find one that suits you better. Or just lurk a bit longer and see if it sucks you in.

At its best, this place is great - side-splittingly funny, tear-jerkingly compassionate and often abrasively wise. At its worst, its no worse than any other large forum I have encountered.

ArtexMonkey · 21/06/2013 16:23

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theorchardkeeper · 21/06/2013 16:23

p.s saying you don't like Mumsnet on AIBU is a tad daft if you're of a sensitive disposition.

I mean that in a naice way!

corlan · 21/06/2013 16:23

It's a nest of vipers.

SugarandSpice126 · 21/06/2013 16:23

Exactly what tantrums said. Plus it's not like every poster is vetted to see if they qualify as 'nice'...as in life, some people may be short with you, or voice a strong opinion. But on the whole, I think you'll find if you are in desperate need of help and support, it's a good place to be. And if you don't like it, you can leave instead of telling us what you think of us all. What's the point of coming on here just to make judgements about one group of people?

mylovelymonster · 21/06/2013 16:24

There are different cliques, social groups, class groupings personality types depending which thread type. Dear God in Heaven, just don't go anywhere near AIBU.

ArtexMonkey · 21/06/2013 16:24

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CarpeVinum · 21/06/2013 16:24
Notgoingto · 21/06/2013 16:24

I like the rudeness! It's mostly just speaking frankly and I prefer it to fake niceness any day of the week.

mylovelymonster · 21/06/2013 16:24
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Pascha · 21/06/2013 16:25

ok.

runningonwillpower · 21/06/2013 16:25

I'm a new member and I love the straight talking.

I had this preconceived notion that it would be all tofu and preciousness. Was I wrong.

ShadeofViolet · 21/06/2013 16:25

Its Holly Willoughby!

xylem8 · 21/06/2013 16:26

'(I) have been put off from starting a thread myself'

..and yet you did!
..and your first thread is slagging off mumsnetters!

theorchardkeeper · 21/06/2013 16:26

Shh artex Grin

The thread made me do it.

I'm going, i'm going....

Sophita · 21/06/2013 16:27

I came here for very similar reasons - colleague suggested this might be a forum to get advice from experienced parents - and I actually had a really positive experience. The feedback people gave me was frank & kind and has made a real difference for me.

I'm really sorry you haven't found it helpful, but maybe post the issue and give people a chance - you might be pleasantly surprised!